My family and I are invited to a wedding I would not want to go to. Here's the story. Some time ago, a man I'll call Nik introduced me to a man I'll call Sam who had a seriously bad reputation (unbeknownst to me) at a dinner function. The guy nearly raped me, but thank God I got away, and talked the guy out of it.
Now, Nik's son is getting married, and he invited my family to the wedding. I do not want to go because of this. I have never spoken to Nik about this situation, but as a lady who was almost had the unthinkable done would you go?
2007-11-03 17:42:13 · 14 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Please think about this if it was your daughter, sister that this could have been done to. I have forgiven Sam, but just the thought of going to this guys wedding--not good.
2007-11-03 17:45:05 · update #1
No way! Stay home and thank God you were able to get away. His behavor does not need to be forgoten, or washed over. His asking your family and you to the wedding seems as if he would take your being there as a "wash". In other words, his actions that night....gee...let's forget about it. Nope, stay away. Chaplain Debby
2007-11-03 17:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would go, especially if I didn't have a chance to speak to "Nik" about the situation. It seams like the relationship you have with "Nik" isn't a very strong one or you would have already told him about "Sam." Not to mention, what if "Sam" is there...don't do it to yourself. If "Nik" asks, tell him the truth if you can . If he understands (which he better) then PERFECT. If he doesn't forget about him. I'm sorry for the situation that you were in but very pleased to hear about the situation you avoided! Stay strong!
2007-11-03 17:48:59 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you feel uncomfortable, don't go. Just send your polite regrets and move on with the rest of your life.
Personally, I wouldn't hold Nik accountable for something that Sam tried to do. Maybe Nik didn't know Sam was such a jerk....or isn't aware of his dangerous behaviors with women.
2007-11-03 19:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you're uncomfortable going, then by all means, send your polite regrets.
Are you more bothered about sam the creep or the fact that Nik set you up with him?
2007-11-03 19:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not go. Make other plans for that day so you can honestly say that you have other plans. Did you ever tell your parents about what happened? If they know about it, they would understand that you do not wish to go. If not, then that's tricky because they are probably going to want you to go and don't know your reasons against it. I'm assuming that you are over 18, so your parents have no real say in whether you go or not. I would just find something else to do that night and politely decline the invitation.
2007-11-03 18:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should have gotten Sam arrested. Did Nik know how Sam was? Maybe not.
2007-11-03 17:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by some female 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
im so confused.. i thought u said it was nik's son's wedding.. not sam.. well if that is the case then i dont understand why you wouldnt go to the wedding.. nik has nothing to do with wat sam did to you.. its obviously not his fault.. especially since you never told him about this.. who knows what he would have done if you told him.. he probably never would have talked to him again.
2007-11-04 01:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by Tiff Tiff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really feel uncomfortable about going to this wedding then send them a no on the reply card. and just say you had other plans or something. you don't want to be somewhere you are not comfortable at or around. and it might bring back the bad memory of what happened. which i am really sorry to hear about.
2007-11-04 07:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by TJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away. if you really feel that bad, and as you have not told Nick. Don't go anywhere you may be put in that situation again.
2007-11-03 23:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG!! I am happy that you got away and are safe!!
NO...do not go....and do not feel bad about it. Send a card if you want...but make other plans and do something else that night!
Good luck to you.
2007-11-03 18:25:14 · answer #10 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋