would you still be with your boyfriend if he...?

Question

okay so i do alot for my boyfriend and i get like nothing in return and i'm getting sick of it here is all i do for him and this what he does for me:

what i do for him:
-make him food
-give him a b.j
-scratch his back
-masage him
-wash dishes
-clean our apt
-always watch what he wants
-always does what he wants to do
-constantly tellin him i love him and kissing him
-go outta my way to get him a soda out of the fidge when hes closer

what he does for me:
-ahh buy me cigs for him and i both
-will bring home food after work if im not working also but its Mc Donalds
-cant think of anything else right now.

*he complains when i ask him to wash two bowls so i can cook*

i love him with all my heart but its just getting annoying.

and hes got some bad spending habbits at the casino that is also getting annoying. im always thinking in my head that if he doesnt change any of this then i'm done. but im just to nice to say that. and i know in my heart i could never leave.

i would greatly apprecaite it if i could get some answers...i need to know what i should do and just...idk help me please.
Thank You
♥Alesha♥

i also gotta add that i do try and talk to him and he just doesnt listen and he says that all i do it b*i*t*c*h...like last night i was saying how i felt but hes like quit btching. i said sorry for saying how i feel. what should i just keep it all bottled up inside like ive done my whole life cuz i couldnt trust anyone but when i find someone i can trust he puts me down like this????

i wanna tell him that he needs to grow up or im outta here but he's also told me before we started dating that he'll never stop me and if i wanna leave that i can. he said something along them lines. but i dont wanna say change it or im out cuz he might say then go and thats not what id want to hear. ya know?

thank you for all your answers so far theyv'e been helpfull

Answer 1

hes a d*ck,,,get away from it

Answer 2

First of all, you let him treat you like this because you put up with it and allow it. 'you teach people how to treat you. Why watch what he always wants to watch. You weren't put on this earth to apease him and to cater yourself around him. compramise, if he can't do that and respect that, then move on. He is a taker, and you a giver. You aren't demmanding any orefor yourself out of the relationship because your attitude is that you could never leave. Also it not an uncommon situation tht a man isn't doing crap around the house. Stop doing so much for him, and demmand more from him, along with the casino crap, that would be it for me, stop or get out, cause your not taking me dowwn with you.

Answer 3

I think you should tell him how you're feeling. Nothing worse then bottleing up your emotions cause you never kno when they'll blowup. Sit him down and tell him you're feeling neglected, but do it so in a way that you're not yelling so he doesnt get defensive.

Also, if he has bad spending habbits at casinos, you should intervine. That will just lead down a dark road . If you love him and know you coul never leave you gotta accept this and work at it.

Answer 4

you have to look at the big picture-once a pig always a pig. we go into relationships thinking we can fix whats broken, but we can't we just end up broken too!!! if you are looking for long term you are either going to have to get used to the CRAP and except it or GET RID OF THE PIG!!! real relationships should be fairly close to 50/50 if not imagine later on when you have a mortgage and kids and youre the only one that gives a crap about the bills and the babies!!! if your just in it for awhile to have some fun---doesnt sound like your having any fun...something to think about huh?

Answer 5

i think u should dumpp the loser...
u need a guy thats going to take care of u too...
and not always spendning his cash at the casino..
u got to put your foot down and tell him that u cant handle it no more.. he needs to grow up and be a real man...

Answer 6

talk to him about this. he may not realize that you find it annoying. let him know how u feel.





p.s. stop smoking, ur gonna get lung cancer and smell really bad all the time

Answer 7

i am ending a 16 year marriage that was like that..it DOESN"T change and then you waste your life, get out while you are still sane and young!!!

Answer 8

if you're not happy with him you need to leave, find someone who makes you feel as special as you are

Answer 9

maybe he's just flirting with you......get someone who really....really likes you a lot!!!hope you liked my advice!! :)

Answer 10

please ignore the above answers....at least until you talk to him.

then, we'll see...but please give him a chance...