Ok... I'm 23 and I have 2 kids... and there's this dude that I think is cute and well... he's such a nice guy.. I can talk to him about anything. He has told me that he likes me a lot and that he wants a chance to prove it...but he's older than me... we are talking about 15 YEARS!!.. and that really bothers me... but I really like him.... so what now??...
2007-11-03 16:30:01 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well ask yourself why it bothers you, what about it. I think you should focus on the person he is and not his age. I mean you aren't underage, so I think you should focus on his character. However look at the big picture. What is he looking fo, and what are you looking for. exmp. if he is looking for love and to settle down and you aren't then don't go for it. If you like him and have feelings for him, don't let the age gap get in the way, like I said, it's not like you are 13 and he is an old perv. oyu are an adult and so is he. Go with your feelings, not his agem that's just a number, what matters is your both adults and if you both enjoy each other and have same future goals, whats the big deal. If you don't feel it then you don't fel it. Don't force yourself you'll just hurt him.
2007-11-03 16:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 15 Years is a big difference and it will come up alot in your relationship. But it will really depend on how you deal with it. If you and he are at a similar place in your lives and have alot in common and someone you would want around you children then I say go for it. Nothing in this world is a guarantee. You could date someone 2 years older then you and it still may not work out. No one says you have to move in together just take it slow. But becareful, guard your heart. He has already learned alot of life lessons that you havent yet and sometimes men who are older become a little more controlling but all and all I say go with what your heart is telling you!
2007-11-03 16:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you have to ask yourself why a man of 38 years can't find someone his own age.? I am always suspicious of men who have hidden agendas. Especially when they start trying to find a girl who is a decade younger. And you need to think about your 2 kids, if his age really bothers you now, that is a higher power telling you something isn't right. Also, put yourself in the reversed role. Would you be interested in a 23 year old guy if you were 38? Good luck.
2007-11-03 16:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by triple k's 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like older men, they can have more experience with relationships and in the bedroom than younger men. I am dating someone 10 years older and he is wonderful. Something to think about is that an age difference like that means a generational gap. Memories of songs, history, TV shows, etc. may be completely different for the two of you.
Not a show stopper, but think about it. If he cares about you and your kids, go for it.
2007-11-03 16:38:33 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know him. Make sure he is not misrepresenting himself. Since you have 2 kids you have to be very cautious who you become involved with. The age thing is the least of your worries, I wouldnt even consider that a problem. You need to find out everything about this man to make sure your kids are safe. Is he married, does he have kids, do you know his family members and co workers???? Being nice dosnt mean much, anyone can be nice.
2007-11-03 16:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by canam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
EASY. It depends on your "Maturity" level. By this I am speaking of RELATING MATURITY. If you can get past feeling like a "submissive" in the sense that he has" authority" over you. Then you Should be fine. For some women a significant age difference reminds them of thier Dad. If this is you IDENTIFY with it. If it is too hard for you to stop thinking this way. Just Find someone You can Relate to. IT all depends on the INDIVIDUAL.
2007-11-03 16:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by snowbunny360 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age doesn't really matter once you're consenting adults. However, it really bothers you, then you either have to find a way around it or move on. He can't become younger for you and there's no chance in wishing yourself older to make a difference.
2007-11-03 16:33:29 · answer #7 · answered by Kiki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me, age is nothing but a number. If that person treats you well, makes you happy, etc...then it really shouldn't matter.
I know some people do have issue with it and can't get past it. I am a firm believer, if someone makes you happy...it doesn't matter how old they are.
2007-11-03 16:33:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him then go for it. Age is just a number not a maturity level, so don't let it bother you.
2007-11-03 16:34:10 · answer #9 · answered by just another girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible these days. My parents are 11 years apart and there's nothing wrong with that. If you love eachother that's all that matters.
2007-11-03 16:33:42 · answer #10 · answered by hopeann 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋