I just found out my grandma is going to die from cancer. Any tips on how to deal with sadness and grief?
2007-11-03 13:33:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
I am so sorry to hear that. Well, one thing I can suggest is you let your grandmother know how you feel about her, which I'm sure you do that daily. A good support system helps (ie. family or friends). Also, don't "stuff" your feelings. If you need to cry, yell, or whatever it takes to get your feelings out..do it. What helps me feel better when I'm having a hard time is I write a letter to that person. When I'm finished, I usually throw the letter away, but I feel a lot better after putting my feelings on paper.
Enjoy your grandmother while she's here and you'll be with her again one day.
2007-11-03 13:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by bugggs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What an honor to know your grandma. Talk to her as much as possible and go over all the things you did together. Share lots of pictues and If she knows her outcome, it is okey to talk about it with her and let her know how much she will be missed and ask questions, like do you need me to do anything for you or anything you would like to know about her that you did not know. Let her know that until you both will be reunited (and you will) that she will be deeply loved and thought of. There is nothing more comforting to a dying person than to know that she/he were deeply loved, often thought of even when not there, and believe me, she will give you the comfort you will need after she is gone. When my cousin died of lung cancer, he knew that time was short, we did everything we possibly could while he could, talked about life and death, we even managed to have a few laughs during the really hard times and though I miss him terribly, I feel so blessed to have been part of his final days. Crying is a great outlet but nothing will beat that if you are able to talk and ask questions now. Believe me when I tell you that his knowing that he was an important person in my life gave me much comfort later as I know that his passing was also made easier, if there is such a thing. He told me several times, "I am so glad I can share so much with you, including my last days however long that is", now that was what helped through my grief and he is constantly thought of and talked about to this day. He died in 1995, 2 months after his 50th birthday 2 days after Valentine's day and exactly 3 months after being diagnosed. Talk to her and about her often! You are very blessed. Remember always, that it is you who will no longer see her but that she will always be keeping an eye on you. If you ever just feel her presence, embrace it. May you only feel peace in knowing that you actually had time to spend with her. Never make it about how sad you feel, make it about how wonderful she was and how lucky you have been.
2007-11-07 15:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by mariatrcy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Elizabeth Kubler Ross's book on Death and Dying. Excellent book on dealing with grief issues. I'm sorry for what you are going through but this lady explains everything you will be going through better than I can. I have cancer myself and it is very complicated. The best thing you can do is support your grandma and talk to her about it while she is still here.
2007-11-03 20:38:30 · answer #3 · answered by bella36 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The sadness and grief you will experience is a natural process for everybody. Just be lucky that you had the opportunity to meet your grandmother. There are so many people out there that have never had a chance to meet their grandparents. So just cherish the good memories you had with her and just know that she will be pain free and you will meet again.
2007-11-03 20:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Surround yourself by people who love you. Get hugs. It is okay to cry. Give your grandma a hug. Talk to people about your feelings. If some people don't want to hear about it, find other people to talk to. There are groups that you can go to that have other people going through a loos also. This can help when you see how other people are coping and they can also give you support.
2007-11-05 11:40:27 · answer #5 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i just had a mother woh had passed away 2 months ago and its really upsetting on everone. all you should try to do is stay calm the best you can and if you feel you need to cry then do it! dont be afraid af what everyone might think. its what you feel.
2007-11-03 20:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by Lebeau 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dying is just as natural as being born.
2007-11-03 20:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋