I'm Not Attracted to black men, is this wrong or not?

Question

ever since i could remember, black men have never been in my mind that much, ever since i was little okay? i didnt choose to feel this way, but when they approach me i just feel blank, i dont see anything in them. my mom just now found out about this and at first i wanted to end the conversation just by the way she was looking at me, so i walked off and she asked for me to come back. she said theres nothing wrong with that, but she said so far i just havent met the right one, someone who i havent met thats worth my time, becuase the ones who approached me so far have just been thuggish, and to be honest thats a big turn off for me. two of my good friends know and they said that i am who i am. but i wonder if God see that thats wrong or not? what do you think? and no i'm not trying to me and no i'm racist against them, im not attracted to them

**gets ready for the rude answers**

**LOL Dukem

To Hyper: i do not mean in disrespect though i know exactly how you feel becuase even though im not attracted to my own race, i feel hurt when black men prefer BLONDES!! isnt that something LOL. but i guess people are different which is what most of you are saying.

Correction: trying to say "no im not trying to be mean"

ooh goodness people please, this has nothing to do with my family, this is my own individual problem, has nothing to do with them, i am just simply not attracted to black men, thats it!!

Answer 1

It's just as you are. Not wrong but perfect

Answer 2

Eh, don't worry. I don't think it's a problem. And I don't think you're being racist at all.

Frankly, I think God is more concerned about your relationship with Him than who you're attracted (or not attracted) to. If He wants you to marry, then He has someone in mind for you. For all we know, chances are that 'someone' isn't black.
You won't do anyone a favor by dating a guy that you just aren't interested in.

Personally, I'm not really attracted to blonde white men. Darker-skinned, dark-haired men get more of my attention. I don't know why. Might just be part of my 'chemistry' or whatever that is.

But don't take my advice to mean that you should completely shut out black men. *That* would border on racist. What I'm trying to saying is, give everyone a chance, even if you don't 'click' right away. Besides, soon as you get to know a person, race ceases to be an issue (if it was ever one).

Answer 3

I agree, there's nothing wrong with not liking black men. I assume you're black? Well if you're only attracting the "thuggish type", you may need to look at yourself. I am an educated black men, among many and i have dated outside my race. I ended up marrying a black woman, though. If i had not fallen in love with my wife, I would still be dating a latina/chinese girl who i also had feelings for. Long story short, you choose who you want.

Answer 4

I'm in the same boat as you. I have never been attracted to black men at all ever since I can remember. There is nothing wrong with that, it is just personal preference.

There is no where in the Bible where God dictates what race of the opposite a person should be attracted to, in fact in the Bible book of the "Song of Solomon," King Solomon was very much in love with a Shulamite Maiden who was black and God never had a reproving of this love that Solomon, a presumably "white" man, had for this black girl.

And also the Shulamite Maiden was in love with another man, who too was white, so you see, there is nothing in the Bible that would indicate that God disapproves of interracial mixing. *u*

Answer 5

Oh my gosh, you are fine! Don't worry about it, that is just your preference. I have always been attracted to different races than my own race. I am mixed and I date everyone OTHER than my own races. I just have always been attracted to different races and thats just me. I am not into the thuggish thing either maybe you can meet a black man thats not into that stuff or maybe you just don't like black man, either way God isn't going to punish over something that silly. By no means are you racist.

Answer 6

No, it is not wrong but you could be missing out on some very good dates.

You did not say if you are attracted to a particular race, this too is not wrong. I did marry a woman of my race but I am attracted to the Asians. To me they are the most interesting and most beautiful people on the planet, yes my wife knows this but she also knows who has my heart and it is her.

I know women who are attracted to the Middle Eastern men and some who are attracted to Hispanics some blacks and so on. Nothing wrong with this. The main thing to remember is when choosing a spouse he or she must be compatible with you and race is not really a factor unless you make it one.

BB

Answer 7

No, why is there anything wrong with that? I am a guy and for some reason I don't have alot of black male friends. I don't connect with them, especially when you talk about the thuggishness. Like what you like, don't care what others thinkg. If you like white, chinese, etc guys, like them and be proud of it. It could just be that the features of a black guy physically don't turn you on. Trust me, there is nothing wrong with it.

Answer 8

Attraction is attraction, period.

My blonde, blue eyed niece was never attracted to white men. She's married to a dark-skinned, handsome Cuban American who is both a scientist and an attorney. They pushed each other through university (she's also a scientist).

My baby sister's husband is a Turkish-American software engineer who is also fighting off the women to get home to her and their sons.

I'm white yet am more attracted to the darker races of women.

Nothing wrong at all. Spreading out our genes makes for healthier, smarter humans in the long run.

Answer 9

Absolutely not. Why would this be wrong? You have no control over who you are attracted to. Personally, I'm attracted to all races, however, (just like you) that "thug appeal" turns me off as well. From the information you've provided, it just seems you only need to convince yourself that it's ok. Your mother and friends are fine with it. So rest assure, you have support.

Answer 10

My suggestion - as a white man - I d say if you feel significant to be attracted to black man: wear as much silver jewellery as you can.
That softening their hearth and getting their attention at you by the fact of silversmithing is a black business .
At least in the U.S.
I do not know where you livem but if you live here, I think
you may use my advice.

Answer 11

I had a friend who didnt date black men and she was black herself. When I dug a little deeper I discovered she had serious issues with her dad and he was the reason for her dislike (lack of attraction) of black men.

I'm sure if you did a little deeper you find the real reason for your dislike (lack of attraction) as well.

Although it sometimes can be environmental, I truly believe there is beauty in every skin tone and if you cant find one thing attractive about a race of people, you need to take a long look at yourself...