Ok so there had been a rumor going around school and my boyfriend had already told me that he hasn't started it. So my best friend tells me that she had been hearing that he was the one that has been starting it. So i called him saying i already know that you told that you haven't been starting the rumor but somebody has been saying you have. My intentions was not to start anything at all I really just wanted him to watch his back because it could be a scandolous friend saying it. All of a sudden he went off on me. Telling me not to call his phone saying something like that. I just want to know am I wrong for telling him or is he wrong for going off on me and hanging up in my face?
2007-11-03 11:41:45 · 13 answers · asked by starburyindagame 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now I almost also tell you that my boyfriend is very childish. He will hang up in my face for no reason,says stupid stuff,and likes to play games. But if I was to do anything like that my *** would be kicked to the curb.
Its like everything he does wrong I let him get away with it but if I was to do it he would probably leave me or go off on me.
2007-11-03 11:47:17 · update #1
Also I didnt even ask him AT ALL was he the one that said it. He came out on his own and said that it's not coming from him so technically I havent acused him of anything
2007-11-03 11:50:06 · update #2
well it depends..if you've been hounding him about it..then you're definitely in the wrong and he's justified in screaming at you because it shows your lack of trust in him..but if you confronted him about it once or so in a calm matter and THEN he STILL blew up...he might be upset because it's true that he DID start it. Then again.it's a rumor. Get over it.
2007-11-03 11:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would take the Wisdom of Solomon to tell you here who was lying.What you have to do is work out which is most likely to lie to you - your boyfriend, or your best friend. Both have a vested interest in lying (he to keep you, she to get you more to herself).
That could be guilt talking, with his ranting at you, then hanging up. After all a good defense is to go into offense. It could be he knows he did start it (maybe not meaning to) and is worried how you'll react when you find out it was him.
Or maybe he was genuinely offended.
2007-11-03 18:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you are wrong. You have a right to talk to your boyfriend about the relationship. His reaction makes him seem guilty, but it could also just be him being very childish and not wanting to talk things out. Good relationships are based on communication. He is supposed to support you and be there for you when you have a problem. He should not hang up on you or treat you like that. If you speak your mind, and he walks out on you, he is not the one for you.
2007-11-03 18:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly sounds like if your letting a rumor get the best of your relationship.. and trust your boyfriend but then listen to your friend and press your boyfriend to 'watch out' that you two are on your way out..
since i dont know the rumor.. i cant give better advice... there are different situations and it sounds like yours is weak!
2007-11-03 18:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by jeselynn_81 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not think that either of you should take the whole blame. ur not wrong for confronting him about it, but maybe u should have a little more evidence before u acuse him. he overreacted, yes, but he did have a reason. u should just apologize and tell him why u felt that way
2007-11-03 18:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by Caro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are accusing him of saying it. All you can do is believe him and not listen to rumors. You need proof to call someone a liar and you only have hearsay.
2007-11-03 18:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a new boyfriend.
This one obviously doesn't have very good communications skills and is not respectful of your feelings.
Move on and consider this a lesson learned.
Good luck.
2007-11-03 18:46:19 · answer #7 · answered by MARY N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point in time he is wrong for doing that to you, but do remember this.....give him time...it is probably his emotions grabbing hold of him. I probably would have had that instant reaction too. If he is any kind of friend that cares for you at all, he'll come around.
2007-11-03 20:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by Khristle Majica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you really like him you should trust him... but he needs to respect you, too. Maybe you should both apologize and move on. Concentrating on "who's right" only ends in disaster.
2007-11-03 18:47:15 · answer #9 · answered by chica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off none of you are right...second dont believe what other people say...and third just blow it off i hate drama and whenever it starts to happen i just forget about it.
stop with the fighting and live in peace =]
2007-11-03 18:48:53 · answer #10 · answered by reba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋