How Do I Tell Him?

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How To Tell Him?

Ok help please!!!!

I've been talking to this guy i meet for like 3 monthsalready we live like 30m away and he comes to see me like every weekend and we talk everyday things are getting veryserious we are both 18 now he is a virgin and im not
i never told him before cause we were just friends but now that things are gettiing serious i need him to knw i have try to bring up the conversetion saying" so have you sleept with any bode are you a virgin" hoping that when he answers me he ask me the same but it dosent happen so i have also tried this "is there anything you want to know about me like my past or someting but he never askes me if im a virginn so how do i tell him i am afraid we stop talking when he finds out im not.so whats teh best way tosay it and how?i really need help on this people please.i love him and i dont want to lose him and it was my past i was 14 so i was stupid back then i had no idea what i was doing the guy was even older than me help

i have been check i dont have anything
remember this was like 3 years ago

i dont wantt o sleep with him now i want that the next person i sleep with i want it to be the last one i want to be married before sleeping with someone again and i need him to know i dont want to lie and pretend his my first one.it wont be fair for him he loves me alot and he csres for me i dont want to lie

Answer 1

Hey, dont worry!

First stop trying to make him ask u like that coz guys are not like us. He wont get the hint, and he probably even didnt realice theres something like that torturing you. And he seems to be quite shy about the topic!

They are quite more simple than us in that way, so you should tell him directly. I think that u need to be sincere in a relationship, and this is the kind of thing that you do have to tell your partner.

Telling him directly doesnt mean that you have to be 'rude'.
Something like:
"There is something i would like you to know"
then explain the matter, always trying to make it clear that it was a mistake, and how much you would like that hadnt happened so that he could be the first...
i dont know, something like that to make it 'softer' for him.

Its not such a big deal either. Its normal not to be virgin at 18, the only problem is that it may affect his ego. Just make sure u dont make any comparison, and praise him a lot when it finally happens, as he may feel insecure.

The key is talk openly about it. The more you two talk about sex, the less it will look as something big, and the more you will enjoy it.
Anyway, i think the best moment to talk about this to him is when you are together, in bed or wherever, in an intimate place.
And dont be afraid he wont stop talking to you! If he is worth it hell appreciate that u are sincere, and an open minded girl with whom u can talk to.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Next time you have a conversation with him, tell him, "There's something I need to get off my chest and it's kinda important to me." Then tell him, "I'm a born-again virgin." If he doesn't ask what that means, ask him if he knows what it means. Then tell him that some guy took advantage of you when you were younger and you vowed to never again make that same mistake. Tell him you want to save yourself for your life mate.
I would bet that he's extremely shy when it comes to this subject and he'll probably go along with anything you say. Personally I think you guys should wait until you're married, but that's not what I did, so I don't want to sound like a hypocrite. I'm pretty sure the guy would LOVE for you to take his cherry, but you know he's going to think he's in love with you if you do it for him. You're not really asking advice along these lines, and you can stop reading any time you like, but you really will be happier in the long run if you put off sex until you're both more emotionally mature and able financially to raise the inevitable baby your union will likely produce.

Answer 3

Right. You don't tell him. He doesn't need to know, and faking losing your virginity is one of the basic skills women have had to use in these situations for 23,657 years.

So if you are less stupid now, and you want to repeat what was stupid four (4) years ago, just do it, and don't tell him anything. Act like it was the first time, and the greatest thing that ever happened to you.

Later, you will have a chance to find out if you really like the guy. Okay? That's the order in which things happen in real life.

Have fun, and don't catch anything unless you go fishing.

Answer 4

honesty is the best policy. don't play kid games. if you were grown enough to act like a woman when you were 14 then be one now. start off like this, hey "tony" there's something i'd like to talk a/b. you may not like it but i feel i need to be honest and tell that i'm not a virgin and then explain that the situation a/b being young and naive and duped by an older guy and so forth and move on from there. if he can't be understanding then maybe he's not the guy for you and please be smart and save yourself for marriage the next time you have sex. but remember to be honest w/him as well. no one wants to marry a liar. i hope you've learned your lesson a/b premarital sex,it has consequences and makes for awkward conversations later on in life.

Answer 5

sometimes confident sometimes NO. being pregnant signs and indications are comparable to signs and indications of a era coming so sometimes that's totally no longer undemanding to tell. the very maximum suitable thank you to be responsive to is to attend till finally a era is previous due and do a hometest. i became 7 weeks in the past i found out with my daughter I on no account felt ill pregnant sore boobs ANY signs and indications of being pregnant yet, a + attempt. With this being pregnant in the past my era became due i felt warm, irriated, crampy, sore boobs, each and every thing smelled poor. All being pregnant are differnt besides the fact that if a females is having no signs and indications and a era is previous due that's maximum suitable to aim.

Answer 6

Ok dont freak what you need to do is talk about it to him. if your serious then he'll under stand so don't be down about this and relax the next time you see him tell him in a calm manner ( im sure he wont like you freaking about it ). Now if he acts like he dosent like you any more than he wasn't the best person for you.

Answer 7

Well if you are going to be sexually active with anyone it helps to be honest about your past. Just because someone is a "virgin" doesn't mean they haven't engaged in some sexually activity. So you if things get more serious you could bring up the topic by discussing sexually transmitted diseases and suggest that you both get tested at the same time. I sure that would open the door wide for conversation.

If he isn't happy with your answers then that's his problem not yours for being honest.

Answer 8

I think it's wonderful that you are so concerned with what he thinks of your history. It sounds like you really are sorry for what happened. I don't think that you'll lose him because this isn't coming up in your conversation. Unless he's a total prude (or a devout Catholic) he shouldn't have a problem, especially if you regret it. Just focus on your relationship and your happiness. If it's important, it will come up. Go with what you feel, and don't stress too much.

Answer 9

I should hope the guy was older (but not too much). Have you been checked for STD's? If not, go do that immediately--local women's clinics can do it for low cost, or see your family doctor.

For the rest, why does it matter? He is not the judge of your actions, you are. If it's in the past, it's past (as long as you don't have STD's to pass on to him).

Answer 10

Are you guys dating? Are you planning to have sex with him? If not then he really doesn't need to know about your personal life. It seems like he's accepting you for who you are, but you feel the need to tell him about your past. I say don't worry about it and only when he asks you then tell him if not then forget about it. Good luck and hope I helped.