we have been together forover 18 yrs, n have 2 sons, 17 yr old and a 4 yr old connor, i dont love their dad no more and he know it, now he lives in scunthorpe and ilive in castleford but spend all the time at his, because he wants us there to look after him when i tell him i want to go home he turns into a 4 yr old and says WHAT ABOUT ME even when connor should be in school when i am at home he takes connor back to scunthorpe because he says connor wants to be with his dad not with a NASTY BITCHlike me. yes that is what connor calls me most of the time, soi end up back in scunthorpe to be with connor reminding him every day that he should be in school, BUT WHAT ABOUT ME he got sack 3 months ago, so hes gonna lose the house hes renting hes no money coming in, i only get 114 each week and the 2 boys have 1 xmas present each so far, but dad hs to have his weed when he runs out,to me hes nasty bastard whoionly thinks of himself but says he will win custody of connor WILL HE????/??????
2007-11-03 11:20:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If he has no job, no home and smokes weed, it is likley YOU will easily get custody.
2007-11-03 11:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie_baby 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't think he will win custody. He has no job and is a bad influence - prove that he's using illegal drugs, and he stands barely any chance at all. If you are as innocent as you have suggested, I don't see why you will not get custody. Also, you can get a withstraining order out to keep your husband away from your house - that way, he can't come and give you abuse!
Arrange for him to see the child(ren) but make sure that you meet somewhere other than either of your houses - then he can't say, "Give me longer!" or anything like that. Make sure that this all goes through the courts, so if he doesn't stick to it, then something can be done about it.
His attitude is horrible, and he really needs standing up to!
2007-11-03 11:32:29 · answer #2 · answered by .єmιlч. .ωєmιlч. ~♥~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate to sound ethinic, but HELL TO THE NAW!! He will not win custody. He has no income, soon he will have no home, and if he's tested, he will test positive for pot.
You need to step your game up and first of all, stop your son from calling you a nasty *****. Don't wimp out & let him get away with it....REGARDLESS OF HOW DADDY TEACHES HIM.
Also, put your foot down & make the boy go to school. If his dad comes to take him out just to spend time with him, then at least the records will indicate that it was the DAD who took him out.....if your schools are like ours her in Michigan (USA), then the person withdrawing them for the day must sign the student out...especially kids that young.
Finally, both of you need your butt whipped. The dad seems like a big kid who cries until he gets his way, and you seem like a wimpy mom who lets dad & child walk all over her.
Maybe you should seek professional help for all three of you. Good Luck
2007-11-03 11:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by mardix27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
To be honest I can't comment on whether he will get custody of Connor or not as this is up to an individual whom has legal knowledge and I do feel there is more to this story but going off what you have wrote I feel any court will do what is best for Connor.
Connor's safety and wellbeing has to be paramount and I believe he is best suited at being with you and you having custody of Connor.
It may be best to see a solictor and arrange and put into writing when Connor's dad can see him and times. Such as having him Friday till Sunday lunchtime ect. So he can pick him up from school and has him back Sunday lunchtime so you can get Connor into usual routine before school on Monday.
If you recieve any threatening texts or phonecalls log them all down and keep on phone and keep in a diary the times he calls round to house ect being abusive in language as this can help your case.
Good luck!
Lx
2007-11-03 11:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by SunshineApple 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no offense but first of all i wouldnt let anyone dissrespect me, even my 4 year old kid. and i dont think that he will get custody b/c he doesnt seem responsible enough 2 even take care of himself. if he doesnt have money then how would he even support his child. but the court is gonna think that if u make 114 a week how would u support them? u also gotta think about that and take things one step at a time. and u have 2 explain 2 ur son that even if ur not with his dad anymore that doesnt mean he cant still c him. because u do have the right to leave but no one has the right to take away the fathers rights of seeing his kid. but then again it depends on the situation....
2007-11-03 14:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by *_*MiSS ERiKA*_* 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do no dare be afraid to leave him. If you are not happy and you already have your own place. get your son and go back to your house and as soon as you get there go to the court house and file for soul legal and soul fisical coustody of your children. also file for divorce if you are married. they will not take a child away from the mother unless they can prove without a reasonable doubt that you are un fit and abusive towards the children. also makke sure that the court knows how he talks about you infront of the child and what he makes your 4 year old call you. this is not right and also let them know of his drug abuse. and his insability no, job loosing his house and rest asure they will not take your son from you, and let them know he is keeping them from school.
2007-11-03 11:32:05 · answer #6 · answered by alexia's mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What ever are you worrying about? the man has no money no home(to be) smokes weed!!! oh the courts will NEVER grant him full custody!!!! you have got to take control for your boys sake. this must be messing there heads up!! It sounds like you could do with a mediator who not only communicates between you and your ex, but who also helps with the boys seeing him. I would organise for the boys to see him at weekends etc but NOT during the week. That way the coys can attend school and gain some stability in their lives. If he doesn't like it he can take you to court, but im sure theu will say the same as education is seen as the most important thing for a child!!!! good luck but gain some b****xs and atake control!!!!
2007-11-03 11:29:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
No. he wont. He is just threatening you, hoping that if he makes enough noise, you will go away. a court is much more likely to award custody of a young child to the mother, especially as the father is smoking weed, out of work and abusive to you. your son is very young to be hearing that kind of language from his father, and it can't be healthy for him.
No way is he gonna get custody. Go to a citizens advice office and find out what you can do to protect yourself, and do it quickly.
2007-11-03 12:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, if I were the judge and you wrote something like this to me (or if I ever saw this), I would immediately grant your husband custody. Your spelling, grammar, and punctuation are absolutely disgusting and I think you should let your husband raise your children while you go back to elementary school.
2007-11-03 11:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, you need to get a lawyer. If you take him to court over custody, you can have your lawyer request a drug screen. If he fails it, that will be a major consideration in determining custody. Good luck.
2007-11-03 11:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by dave_g_28 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
did the weed for 20+ years.just given up for last 2 months. I was never as bad as that,rent and my family came before it.Ask for proper advice in citizens advice if you can not afford a lawyer.Best of luck !!!Your son will be with you if you mention dads habbit at a court of law!!
2007-11-03 11:26:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋