what is your own personal opionion on child abuse?

Question

When it comes to punishing a child how far is too far?

Spanking?
Spanking with a belt?
Spanking leaving bruises?

these are just suggestions to leave comments on.


I want what you think.


I need these for a speech in a communcations class.

Im trying to make stastics, so your opinion counts .

thanks :D

ok so i KNOW you shouldnt beat a child.
I am 100% against that.
I mean I am going to be a social worker.


I am trying to get your input for a paper.

you dont have to be rude.

Answer 1

All of the above...Also verbal abuse is child abuse. I think the people that commit child abuse should be tortured and buried underneath the jailhouse.

~It shouldn't hurt to be a child~

Answer 2

Spanking & leaving bruises is just too far!!! I think children should be disciplined if talking & being put on restriction doesn't work. I don't think any kid younger than 8 years old should be hit with a belt though. If a belt is used, there shouldn't be any marks left on the child. It should only be used on their behind, not their legs or arms or any other body part. They should be spanked if the get too out of hand, but not beaten. If they don't get spanked at some point if talking or other punishment doesn't work..... they will be beating u before u know it.

Answer 3

I suppose subject is most important, nonetheless you have to decide upon and prefer your battles. If whatever is not existence threatening or will also be not noted with out main penalties, permit it cross. (IE: Messy room) Discipline must begin with typical penalties. Let your youngsters pay the rate for the matters they do flawed. If they pass over the bus since they have been messing round, allow them to stroll. ( most likely with mother or dad trolling alongside at two miles an hour within the automobile with dangers directly to be certain they're trustworthy). As adults we pay penalties always, youngsters must be no one of a kind. If spanking is wanted which I suppose must be VERY infrequent. it must continually be with an open hand. If belts are used (which I quite don't suppose in- however then a few persons are not able to get ample of a sting with an open hand -my mother might continually spank like she used to be dusting the furnishings), then simplest at the butt and certainly not with the buckle. Spanking must NOT depart bruises except the little one has a ailment that reasons handy bruising. I used to be abused developing up and I suppose abuse is: hitting a little one with a closed fist hitting a little one with a belt buckle which leaves a welt selecting up a little one through the hair Shaking the little one. throwing the little one in any respect. leaving bruises or welts locking or tying them to any item screaming obscenities at them for very little rationale telling them they're dull and nugatory telling them they want that they had certainly not been born hitting them with any item that's forged like a picket paddle (chiefly now not one with holes in it.) Those are those I can believe of that aren't applicable even though I recognize there are others. Hope this is helping your study.

Answer 4

Child abuse is wrong, period. How much more of an opinion is needed?

Spanking is not abuse, it never was. Spanking leaving bruises would be considered abusive, though. That would be considered beating, not spanking.

Answer 5

Having been abused by my mother, and spanked in a healthy way by my father (they are divorced) I can tell you that there is definatly a difference between the two. It is all in *how* and *why* you spank.

We spank our son as a last step in the discipline process (if he has already had a warning, a talking to, and several time outs) or if he is in immediate danger (being appropriately spanked by your parents hurts less than running into the street and getting hit by a bus)-and we believe that spanking softly with an open hand on the child's bottom without anger is a fully appropriate way to spank your child if they need it to get their attention.

Answer 6

Spanking? No spanking

Spanking with belt? NO, my father was born in early 1940's and he was beat with a paddle on his hand when he was a child from his teacher and his mother.

Spanking leaving BRUISES? Parents should call CPS on themselves.

To me personally spanking solves nothing. In fact it may make the child fearful if you ever want to strike him/her again. The child will wince. You know a child is abused when a parent raises their hand and the child backs off, and begs you not to hit them. I know what it is like to be hit and abused. I don't inflict that on my child. I didn't like the feeling of it. The pain and fear.

Thanks for the thumbs down. Only MY opinion of what I have GONE through in MY LIFE.

Answer 7

I have three children, and do not spank.

My Parent's spanked me and I think it gave me a feeling of loew self worth as a child. I would never want my children to feel that way.

What works for me then?
Extinction - ignoring the negative behavior and rewarding the positive behaviour
Choices - allowing the children to have options and choices so they feel more empowered, as a result you will see fewer power struggles
time-outs - for any sibling squabbles, I call it "cool off time" on the stairs.

I feel I have a very open loving relationship with my children, they listen to me because they want to, and they trust me...not because they are scared of me.

Thanks
Mandy

Answer 8

physical punishing is never a good idea because there are other ways that are more effective I think. If you give a child the idea of hitting is a way of punishing, he may punish another child for something by hitting them. I think children are smarter often than we give them credit for and a punishment which is mental can be much worse - such as making them stay in their room and not watch a favorite tv show, ice cream for everyone in the family but him, or her, but the child should also be made well aware of what the punishment is for and that you love them but hate them doing whatever it is the punishment is for. In my son's case, threatening to put him in a closet by himself worked.

Answer 9

i hope that if you become a social worker you become a good one not like where i live you report people and they idots still have these abused kids as for spanking yes i agree with smacking etc but not 2 abuse as abuse i mean beating the kid black blue all the time

Answer 10

i was spanked and it did me well. my mom spanked me with a spoon, a leather strap (yes, it left welts), and a belt. i learned my lesson, i know my mother loves me, and i have 0 sense of violence because of it. beating your kid above the waste area is abuse, beneath it, if it leaves bruises it's abuse. if your doing it bacause your mad it's abuse, if the kid deserved a spanking, and you leave welts below the waste (not every single spanking though), and your child knows you love them, and your not neglecting them, and you also use other forms of punishment with the kid, then no i don't consider that abuse.

Answer 11

I am a firm believer in time outs. I think that they are more affective, spanking can lead to the child thinking that hitting is the way to solve problems. It may work for the short term, but in the long term I think that it does more harm that good.