Which kind of child gets on your nerves the most out of the choices listed?

Question

whiners
tattle tales
disrespectful/rude
bad mouthed
know it all's
bossy

I love all kids, but for some reason the disrespectful/rude kids have really got on my nerves lately. My sons best friend is always saying something mean to someone. For example he's always calling my daughter & his sister ugly or stupid..... His rudeness has gotten worse the last couple times he has come over. When he's here I keep telling him I don't allow that kind of talk in my house, but he keeps doing it. Any nice suggestions on how to handle this? I don't want to be too mean to someone elses kid, but I can't allow him to keep talking to my daughter & treating her the way he has.

It's actually worse than I'm making it sound, but it's hard to describe.

Answer 1

The next time it happens tell him that it is time for him to go home because he can not respect the rules of your house. Tell him he can try again the next day. If he starts again the next day then send him home again and tell him that he can't come back for 2 days. Keep it up until he gets the message or he is no longer allowed to come over. He will respect you more for it and eventually mind his manners.

Answer 2

Firstly I will say that I am with you, the disrespectful/rude kids work my nerves the most.

On the topic of how you handle someone else's kid, you go with my house my rules. My daughter has a friend that used to say ridiculous things to me when she was over, I treat her like one of the family and she does not do this any more. No, I don't think that you can discipline them with spanking and groundings but I have been known to keep a visiting child sitting on the sofa with no entertainment until the problem is resolved. If they are relentless you just have them go home early. If my kid is not allowed to say stupid than no other kid can say it in my house either.

Answer 3

Hmmm, can I choose "All of the above?"

I will try to put it in order from the most irritating to the least, in my opinion.

1. Bad mouthed
2. disrespectful, rude.
3. whiners
4. bossy
5. know it alls.
6. Tattle tales

I am not sure #2 needs to be on the list, after all if a child is doing any of the other 5 things they are being disrespectful and rude anyway.

Answer 4

BigM,
for me? It is "Tattle Tales" - prefer the Al Pacino character role in "The Scent of a Woman" and how that character dealt with those types.

That said, I think you are being too nice. Like you I love all kids as well. However, if this boy's behavior is getting worse I would suggest calling his parents and telling them that he is no longer allowed unless they speak with him on the language he is using to your kids. Friendships are friendships but for most people family is everything.

"Stupid" and "ugly" are two of the worsed words in the english language and I personally place these words as worse than the "N" word. Unfortunately this little boy is getting the same treatment at home and now it is spilling over to his personal character and relationships with others his age and near his age.

Hope this works out BigM; but, again you are being too nice and giving people more chances than they deserve.

Gerry

Answer 5

He needs a punishment when he break the rules. Talk to his mom first and decide a punishment and then inform the child of what is not allowed and if he break the rule what the punishment it and then do it each and every time! None of these gets on my nerves I just try to help the child to do something different then what they are doing. Helping a child is the best thing you can do. It takes a while but they do get it.

Answer 6

Whiners.

Suggestions for your situation, don't let this kid come to your house. Your son might be ticked, but all you need to do is tell this kid that what he does is not acceptable in your house. Call his mother and tell her the same thing, and he isn't allowed back until he can be a little more polite. End of discussion. You tell him, he keeps doing it......there is no consequence for his actions. Just do it, or be prepared for his mouth to keep on running.

Answer 7

all of the above listed. is outrageous...
but i would say.. the same as you... disrespectfu./rude is the worse..
I would walk up to the kid.. and tell the kid.. with my finger pointing in his face.."Look here we are happy to have u here.. but if u are to remain here.. U will not talk like that in my home or u will have to leave, do u understand me??" depending on the age.. I would give him another chance.. 1.2. and 3 he is out the door.. each and every time he came it would be the same.. it is not fair to ur kids to allow him to continue such,, and they will learn from him to treat u that way.. and they will say.. U let ? talk that way.....then what??

A child is a REFLECTION of his parent.. so that tells u what kind of a home life this kid has.. and no sense of direction.. u will be a asset/teacher to him..

It is ur home.. and U RULE !!!!!
good luck...

Answer 8

Hmmm, No General Brats category. I don't like the ones that lie, or the ones that mess up my place, or the ones that whine and throw hissy fits. Some kids I'd like to beat myself. But instead they are on the time out regimen, which just really prepares them for a sit in jail. The fear of a whoopin kept me straight and out of jail. A spanking once a year is sufficient.

Answer 9

From your list, I would pick disrespectful/rude. Another one that gets on my nerves are when little kids scream at the top of their lungs for no apparent reason at all.(They're not hurt or scared) I love hearing little kids laugh when they're having fun, but not screaming!

Answer 10

So many of them go hand-in-hand. Usually if they are disrespectful and rude they are also bad mouthed, bossy, whiners. I guess a disrespectful little brat gets on my nerves the most.