I live in a house where no one cares for me. I am not old enough to move out but I can not live here anymore. i am in a situation where i am the most helpful but the least valued, and i have no friends because of the clothes i have to wear. I want to be adopted but don't know how to go about it. What can i do?
2007-11-03 10:23:39 · 7 answers · asked by Elizabeth S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
by the way, i live in a rural area and the nearest adoption place is 15 minutes by car. and i have tried to let my family know how i feel but they won't listen. i have had plans to run away after i earn some money in the summer.
2007-11-03 10:42:57 · update #1
What state are you in? First, you cannot run away. Bad things happen to girls who run away. Please don't even consider it. When I was a teen/tween, I had a lot of responsibilities that I should not had to have. Unfortunately it made me grow up fast. I felt like my parents didn't value me. I had many responsibilities but they still treated me like a child. I have a younger sister and brother. Now that I am an adult,
I see how hard they had to work just to make ends meet. The jobs they had were not white collar jobs. But, myself, sister and brother are all very well rounded adults that have good lives, and are college graduates.
The fact that you don't have many friends because of the clothes you wear us unacceptable. REAL friends don't care about your clothes. They care about you and the person you are. They should say "hey would you like to wear my sweater today?"
I have said about you before... You are a very smart and articulate girl. You seem to have a wonderful personality! Those are things in life that will get you far, not what you wear.
I will be watching for you and you always have me....Dani
One more thing. I don't think that by getting any authorities involved is the right thing to do. UNLESS you are being abused. I have found that getting other people involved only makes things worse. We can talk about it more later.
2007-11-03 12:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by Dani Bosco 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit your parents down and tell them how you feel!!! They are taking you for granted, because you are not screaming for attention, (probably like your brothers and sisters), so they don't "notice" you as much. They probably don't even realize it. Let them know, that you feel like no one seems to care about you, despite the fact that you are helping around the house, and with the other siblings, and that you feel left out.
Let them know it would be nice to be told that you have done a good job, and you feel very unappreciated. Ask your mom and or dad if she/he would be willing to set aside some time every week to spend with just you. Since you are the most helpful, you should be given some kind of special privilege, and that will also be incentive to the other kids to be a little more helpful also.
Parents get so busy these days, that they forget to stop, and realize what precious gifts their children are. Sit them down and remind them. Life is short, and you grow up fast. They just need to be reminded, that you need them too.
EDIT: The only other option I can think of is to get a job, where you can make enough money to live on your own, or with a room mate, and get emancipated. Then you are considered a legal adult. It is not easy though.
Honey, email me if you want to talk. I CARE. It sounds like you are a delightful person, and don't deserve the treatment you are getting. I'll call your parents and talk some freaking sense in to them. Life is too short for them to be so insensitive about their own child.
2007-11-03 10:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by CSmom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start to tell the people you live with that they aren't paying enough attention to you, and you don't appricate it. If they don't do anything, then you should probably look up some numbers you can call online, so someone can take you to a foster home, or something so someone can adopt you. I really think that your life at your home could improve though if you just tell the people you live with how you feel. Don't give up hope yet.
Good Luck! : )
P.S Don't run away, but if you feel like thats where you want your life to go, go for it.
2007-11-03 10:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call social services and tell them you are being neglected. You'll find a local number in the blue pages of the phone book.
You could also tell the school nurse, she's required to follow up on it, at least as far as telling the proper authorities.
What you really need to do is talk to your parents and tell them how you feel. Perhaps they think since you're quiet, you're ok.
2007-11-03 10:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Check around in the yellow pages to see if there is a community help center or a similar location where people in your town will be able to give you help with your problem and if it really comes to you needing to leave your home, they will most likely be able to help you out there as well. Most towns or cities have them so just look around a bit.
2007-11-03 10:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by dorygirl94 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take a deep breath and if you want to get adopted then ask your parents to go to the adoption place and give you up but let me remind you that if you go you might end up in a house that's going to pay attetion to you only to boss you around and make you do stuff you don't want to do
2007-11-03 10:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by soccergirl101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend did this she ran away to childrens servics and i she totally regreted it
2007-11-03 10:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋