I have a girl that I minister to a little bit and she has told this and I don't know how to respond?

Question

Does God still love her and is she saved? She asked Jesus into her heart and asked for forgivness of her sins and really honestly loves God. But she never has felt loved by God and doesn't "feel" like he loves her.

I want this understood she has been abused pretty close to all of her life and she has asked God for help before and never felt like she got it. It seems a lot goes against her and seldom for her.

She said she at one time (not clear if it was before or after becoming a Christian) told God she hated him because he hates her. She said she cried and cried for days after and thinks this is th worse sin ever.

Without "quoting" scripture what do I say? She is very sweet and I know she loves God and studies his word but because of all of this she is really hurting.

Are there any MATURE christians that can advice how to handle this?

Thank you in advance.

All the answeres on an exception of a couple are awesome and I greatly appreciate it. Thank you.

Answer 1

Before all else you did not answer if she is out of this situation. If She is not then you have to do something about it. Report it to the authorities, bring in a social worker! Stop this abuse.

If she is in a safe environment now you must first off realize one of the important things to remember is you cannot handle this alone. the child needs the help of a professional counselor who is experienced in Child abuse to help her overcome the esteem issues she faces.

Secondly, who would ever suggest that quoting bible verses really help?

Help her instead visualize God as a loving father waiting to greet her with open arms and feel his love while she is dealing with the pain of recovering from her abuse. Let her know that God loves her and this did not happen because God hated her or it was his "will" or some test of faith. But bad things like this happen as a result of people who turn their backs on love (whether they profess religion or not) and turning to anger, hate, revenge and self hate.

Let her know God does not fly in to rescue people, cure them, or any of those things people say can happen if they pray hard enough. prayer to God is about about finding the strentgh that he gives us to help us face whatever comes our way. Let her know this is where she will find his love and his strength that will help her on this long road of recovery as she takes the steps and does the work to heal herself God will be walking with her.

Good luck and blessings for you and her.

Answer 2

First of all Love is not always an emotion. Sometimes, lots of times, we have to remember that we love, even when emotions or feelings of Love are no where to be felt.

The ONLY unforgivable sin is giving credit for what God has done to the devil. The leading priests and lawmakers were called blasphemers and told they were going to Hell for one reason alone, and that was because they told the Israelites that the miracles that Jesus was doing were from the devil and not from God.

So, your little friend can rest easily knowing that anger at God , while misdirected, does not keep one from entering the gates of Heaven.

ITs easy to stray from God while bad things are happening and it seems that there is no way to make them stop. You are young and have no power, and even if you do tell, adults all decide what is best and you end up in situations that make you feel worse that if you had just kept your big mouth shut.

Sound like I have been there? I have. ITs not a pretty place, nor is it fun. It is something that must be lived through, if for no other reason than to let another know that they also, can make it through.

Everything, every one of us ever goes through, good and bad, is a lesson to learn or an experience to share for one reason or another.

Sometimes , I think that if childhood had been easy for me that I may never have accepted Gods love and forgiveness and just went out and lived in the world without a thought of eternity. If so, than all abuse and shame and tears were worth it.

Answer 3

First, you need to explain to her that she cannot use feelings to determine reality. Our feelings are based on our own thoughts. True spirituality is intellectual, and is related to how you understand the world, not how you feel emotionally. People who base their religion on emotional feelings will always end up like this girl - wondering what is real and what is not, and wondering why they don't feel the way they did before.

As for religion, you need to explain to her that God is not like a human being who holds grudges. You should read Ezekiel chapter 18, and then go talk to her. In Scripture, God is only concerned with the present condition, not the past. She didn't offend him, she didn't make him mad, and she didn't do the worst thing ever. It is debatable whether or not her actions were even a sin in the first place. You need to emphasize what a waste all this turmoil really is. What happened yesterday is completely irrelevant - what matters is now.

Answer 4

If she has endured so much abuse of course she would transfer onto God anger.God could have prevented this abuse,but he has not,ask her to seek God about her calling.Someone I have much respect for has told me God takes our misery and turns it into ministry.Love is not always a feeling,its a commitment.God knows her heart and understands her heartache and anger,it may be very beneficial for her to seek professional council.Most who have been put through fire God has a call in their lives to set others free.I have gone through fires and still am,I often do not feel Gods love,but within my mind I believe what he says in the word about what he feels for me.Have her read scriptures declaring what God says about her,if you would pray over her to break off assignments on her life as this is very real in the spiritual realm.We all have a purpose in our lives and some are called to suffer to set other captives free because they have been set free themselves.God understands our humanity and our brokenness,and our blame towards him,she should forgive God as well for allowing abusive people in her life and forgive them.God gives us all a free will,and she has obviously been affected by others who live by free will run riot.She is in my prayers,as I walk this road with her.Don't stop ministering to her and pray for direction,and just love her right where she is,the Holy Spirit will use you,and you will see her grow and be used of God.Refinement is painful and some it seems start out the most painful of ways,but never the less we need to submit to God and tell him not my will thy will be done.Shalom

Answer 5

Being young and innocent, and believing in God, she probably feels responsible for all the bad things that have happened in her life. This would describe why she got mad at God. She is frustrated.

I think that its very important to explain to her that the bad things that happen in her life are a result of the circumstances of her life at that time, and not a direct reslut of her behavior. Use one bad thing that has happened to her, and explain it through to the end of HOW it happened, in the most practical sense. She will start to understand that its not all about her.This is a very simple statement, but it is very important for her not to feel responsible for all the bad in her life.
She will probably say, "Well then, why do all these bad things happen to me?" I would suggest that you say that you don't know. Make her aware that there is lots of 'bad" in this world. Let her know that she has not been singled out by God to suffer for her actions. Tell her that even good people get sick and die. It sounds kind of morbid, but it will take a lot of weight and guilt off her shoulders.

She needs some of her own space and time. At this time, keep the religous concepts to a minimim and just let her open her eyes up to the world God creates outside of her own problems. Let her see God as the crator of all things good and bad. She needs air. Just go for a walk with her and keep the converstions light. Don't play God for her. Let God play God, right now just be her friend. Let her take the lead, and just be there for her.

Answer 6

I was abused as a child also, and it has taken me a long time to believe that God loves me. I knew He cared because He saved me, but I doubted that He could really love me, I felt like I was such a terrible sinner and Christian. She is so blessed to have you in her life. Just keep loving and accepting her right where she is. You are probably her eyes to the love of Jesus. Just keep encouraging her and in time God will heal her heart and she will be able to accept His love. It takes some time for people that have been abused, especially if it is by a man, because we see God as a man, to be healed, but it will happen. She will then begin to minister to those that have been hurt in the same way. You are so sweet and kind to care so much for her. God Bless You and give you the wisdom and words to minister to this hurting one.

Answer 7

Can the drowning save the drowning? Here we have a brainwashed Christian who wants to "save" an already screwed-up girl by brainwashing her. Only, it's not working.

A "mature" Christian is one who has become like a little child. Make a blank slate of your mind by having your brain washed. This is fine for people who have not much of a brain to wash.

Of course she does not feel loved by God, as there is no God to love her in the first place! Would that she would just understand that the reason she is not loved by God is that there is no God to love her. But she has already been brainwashed to a degree where she "believes" in the existence of that God. So she must conclude that, as she does not feel loved by him, but she still believes he's there, she has committed some "sin" against him.

Nice going! Screw up an already screwed-up mind by introducing the concept of "sin", the most mendacious and malicious concept that has ever been invented by men.

Don't screw up this girl any further, and leave "helping" her to professionals, psychiatrists and the like, you hell-bound intender of "good".

Answer 8

Go to the New Testament and read the story of Jesus holding the little children in his lap.

It is not her fault that people do bad things to her

God loves her very much and anyone that has hurt her... God knows about it and the punishment they will get will be a lot greater than they can bear

Mark 9:42
And whosoever shall offend one of these little ones that believe in me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea

Answer 9

We look at the TRUTH that is presented to us in the scriptures. To rely on mere feelings can mislead us.
The facts of the Bible teaches that God loved the world so much, etc. (John 3:16) and in many, many other places. This means even her.
Perhaps, just perhaps, the difficulty is this: she has not been able to differentiate between how people are or can be, (abusive) and how God is. His ways are far different than ours are.
Hasn't Jesus said that no one can come to Him, unless the Father draws them first? Since THAT is true, then it stands to reason that she was the object of God's work...God did draw her to Himself.
Show her how God is, and how much He has loved, even her, but it may take a while for it to sink in.

Answer 10

To say that you hate God is no more sin than any other. It can be forgiven if you ask. Forgiveness is not a feeling. It is a promise from God. If you ask He will forgive. It makes no difference how many times you ask He will. If your relationship with God is dependent on feelings, then when you have the flu, there could be no relationship. It is hard to believe and trust God that you are forgiven, but you must.