Some words of encouragement to help me snap out of it?

Question

I know that self pity has got to be a sin. I am not sure how to identify it, so please help. I am just overwhelmed, and need some words of encouragement. I am so thankful for my job(full time), my children(two boys, 3 & 5), my parents who are very supportive, my partner who is holding my hand on my path toward God(but lives very far away). I am also grateful that my kids love their dad so much and he loves them, though it is not often that he is "available" to see them. So why do I feel so alone and pitiful? How to hold on to faith and trust?

Answer 1

I'm reading a book right now by John and Stasi Elderidge called, Captivating. In one of the chapters it talks about just what you're talking about. It's got a chapter that talks about how men "don't want to go there" when women get to talking about things. At one point during this meeting (a meeting with the women about planning for some event), he asked, "and do you feel alone in this?" And all of the women said yes. And then it struck him, and he asked them, "personally, do you feel alone in your personally lives?" Every one of them broke down balling saying yes, each and every one of them feel alone, even if they're constantly surrounded by people and otherwise happy in their surface lives.
Upon all of his praying and path God lead him to in this, he came to the conclusion that the core problem of this is that its an attack of the devil. Lucifer, in his origional glory was was BEAUTIFUL. He was the morning star. He was bright and lovely. This was his downfall. And WOMAN, namely Eve, and each one of us women are her descendants, gets attacked by the devil. Women inbody God's beauty. This is threatening to the devil, as he once was the imbodyment of God's beauty. So he attacks us in an attempt to take away, or taint, what God gave to us.
He says also in this book, that women are life givers. The devil also is threatened by this. Women not only bring life by giving birth, but also by our nurturing and our relationships in this world. We are and imbodyment of God's nurturing side, God's relational side, God's life giving side. This threatens the devil, and he attacks us for it, like a life long goal of taking down that which God made beautiful.
Now I'm not one to quickly or actively blame the devil for every single thing in this life. But in a way he has some pretty good points on the subject. And I'm not done with the book yet, so I can't just yet share the conclusion. But maybe consider reading this book. You can pick it up even at walmart, i found it in my walmart. It has its ups and downs. My friend described it that some women completely love this book, others don't really care for it. I probably fall in the don't care for it category. However, it's working its way into my heart. I guess it just takes me to some sensitive areas of my childhood that I'd rather leave buried, but in the end, I believe its definately something God has lead me to, and is helping me with its content. Consider reading it. It might help you.
So to the question how to hold on to the faith and trust? It might sound cliche, but Let go and let God. I know its easier said than done, but just give it to God. And pray. Give God a chance. If you earnestly ask him for something, He will deliver. Even if its, "God help me to stop swearing," if you earnestly meant it from the bottom of your heart, you will find yourself catching yourself. God's just a prayer away. So ask God for more faith and trust. And give him a chance to deliver. Also, as hard as it may seem, try reading your Bible every day. I don't stick to it, but I try. And I know that it helps my every day life. It keeps me in check.
Let me leave you with this verse...
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Philippians 4:6 NIV

Answer 2

We can get like this, but it is important to never lose sight of God, of the big picture, God leaves us not for one moment, God has great plans in all of us, You are so blessed to have wonderful children, a job, and most of all God, Don't let the world overcome you, Sometimes just getting up a couple of minutes early and some soul searching and talking to God, as our Best Friend helps, God will talk to you, you'll know what to do, we need to rise above any challenges that come our way, We have Jesus Christ and Jesus Christ has already Paid the Full Price, has overcome all, think about How Much Love The Lord has for you, wow, it is just overflowing, We need to be happy for another day, things could be alot worse, think of new things to share with your children today, Wow they are at that age where when what they learn now will be with them, that has to be encouaging, You have The Lord, You have Your Family and you Have an eternal Life with God, Forever, Always, We got to ask Jesus for a hand sometimes to lift us up.

Answer 3

It is very hard to deal with feeling alone and not supported enough, I tend to be in the same place as you are. I get my support through meditation/prayer, and make myself stronger spiritually though Mind-body exercises, eating healthy, and not over indulging. Now you may not think you have time to do these things, but you don't need much time to get results. Just do what you can do, when you can do it. Don't dwell on these uncomfortable feelings you have, keep your energy occupied doing something of value, even if it is resting.

Answer 4

You are looking to your outer life to tell you if you should be happy. Be happy anyway. Ask for direction and it will come.
True happiness always comes from true love. You might want to review the Beatitudes.

Answer 5

I think that when we are going through times like these, God is drawing us closer to Himself, to prove that He is there for our every need. He may be showing you that people, no matter how much we need them, we need Him more. I like to listen to praise and worship music during these times. Reaching out like you are also helps. I hope that you get an answer that is soothing to your soul. God Bless You

Answer 6

I Peter Cast all your cares on Him, for He cares for you.

Romans 8:28 He causes all things to work together for good for those who love Him.

He is willing to make you unhappy that He might make you holy. (from a sermon)

Jeremiah 29:11-13

I am praying for you!

Answer 7

girl its saturday night hook up with some friends and go to a movie and dinner o dancing and wine the beach something to get you outta the house with your girl friends hire a baby sitter for the kids.

Answer 8

Wait a second, you don't live with your husband? Something smells fishy.