What is your take on birth control as a Christian?

Question

I'm trying to decide if I should be using birth control as a married born-again Christian or if it is wrong. I didn't even know that it could be wrong because everyone seems to use it that I know. I would love to see the different views on this. If you have scriptural references that would be great. If you think that birth control is wrong that most likely makes oral sex wrong too, don't you think?

When I say birth control I mean preventing pregnancy. Not the use of the hormone for other health purposes.

I mean any kind of prevention of pregnancy...not the hormone drug.

Answer 1

I was raised to think that birth control was good and a responsible way to plan a family.

I have since changed my position drastically. I believe it is wrong for many reasons. One thing that helped me see the truth was the Humane Vitae.

Sex is the expression of love. Physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. When we give ourselves to our spouse it should be fully and completely. Not withholding any part of us or blocking any part of them. If you feel that you have a good reason to postpone having a child then you abstain during the woman's fertile time. This allows you and your spouse to be total in your giving of yourselves and your inviting God into your marriage.

Sex is a wonderful, pleasurable experience. God intended for us to desire each other and express that desire in sexual union. The primary purpose of sex is procreation. When sex works the way it should, pregnancy happens and children are brought into the world. Our contraceptive mentality has rendered sex a sterile act. One in which we expect NOT to get pregnant. Therefore when pregnancy happens, people get upset...it's an "accident' they say. Then they seek abortion. Abortion has become a necessity in this world because of our use and expectations of contraceptive sex.

As a married couple, God should be invited to every expression of love you share with your spouse. If you pray and decide that you need to wait to have children, then you abstain and God has been part of that decision. If and when you get pregnant, then you welcome that baby with love because you know that every sexual act has the possiblity of bringing life into the world. You will know that this child was given to you by God...not an accident but a purposeful person.

Additionally, oral sex is okay as long as ejaculation takes place in the vagina. This means it's perfectly okay to share and love each other in pleasurable ways but the actual act of ejaculation must be open to God and to life.

It is amazing how much sense this makes when it is looked at from God's perspective and not from our selfish perspective. It is difficult at times to abstain from sex but even those times offer couples a different way to share and express love. It also opens the lines of communication. When you are choosing to participate in God's will, you find you and your spouse are more open to discussing sex and family.

http://www.scripturecatholic.com/contraception.html.
http://www.catholic.net/RCC/Periodicals/Faith/11-12-98/Morality2.html
http://www.catholic.com/library/Birth_Control.asp

Answer 2

there is nothing wrong with BC. it is a moral issue, but standard BC has nothing wrong with it because the egg never gets fertilized. The plan B-day after pill and the IUD are the only ones that i do not agree with because in both cased the egg can become fertilized and then the body aborts it. So pills, shots. No problem. The two mentioned above, I would stay away from because of how they work. Besides this, there is still the small chance that you can have a birth control baby. if that was to happen, you KNOW it was God's will.
and oral sex in marriage is not wrong. God does not give married people a bedroom rulebook. He wants you to have fun.

Answer 3

I mean teachnically, you shouldnt have sex before you're married but once one has been introduced to it, chances are, they aren't going to stop so birth control actually is kind of evil in it's own way because it's messing with the human body's natural ways but it is good to be responsible if you're going to do it, you might as well be responsible about it (if you dont want children). It's just the way life is now days. I don't think people should live by the good book word for word..people spend too much time on that and they should just be worried about whether or not they know right from wrong and if they're being the best person they can be for themselves and the people they love. Some people take it too literally. Im not a virgin. I have a son and Im not married...I believe in God but I regret nothing. I love HIm, I'm thankful for everyone and everything in my life and I pray everynight. Once again, I regret nothing. I'm doing the best I can and I'm always working on being the best person I can be but...I never followed a book written by man. However ,I do think about the example that Jesus set and when I go to judge or talk about people, I think about him and how everyone has a reason to be the way they are and I try to let that guide me. I also think about just the way he treated people in general. It helps me be a better person too. Just do what YOU want but whatever decisions you make, be confident in them. Let them teach you. Don't regret anything and keep God in your life. He understands all of us.

Answer 4

well I believe God would have that we be fruitful and multiply, but also we must consider the ramifications of irresponsibly having multiple children without means of support. I have found that people that grow up in houses with 6 or 7 kids are very socially well adjusted. so in conclusion, I have nothing against birth control for couples that wish to manage their families responsibly. but having a large family could be a good thing too in the right environment.

Answer 5

Read the "Beware Warning Label" on the prescription phamplet. WARNING: Its like how many pages long and all in fine print. Then decide for yourself how you want to do birth control. Sex was made for a marriage couple pro-creation and of course "pleasure" purposes. However one chooses to do sex that "definitely" cannot pro-create; it is not permissible.

Answer 6

Birth control is not forbidden in the scriptures.

It is a Biblical requirement for parents to provide well for their families- too many children makes that a problem.

Method of contraception is up to the couple. They should just avoid abortive methods of contraception i.e those that prevent the attachment of the fertilized egg to the uterus wall.

By the way, just because 'everyone' seems to be doing something does not make it right. The thing to ask is "How does God view it?"

Answer 7

birth control is not wrong. god's instruction were to fill the world, not overfill it.

oral sex is a homosexual practice, irregardless of who does what to who. if a women does it to a man or man to a woman. anal sex is also a perversion according to the bible. i do not have exact scriptures, but if you remember how sodom was treated by god, then you can see that their practices were not approved by god.

man to woman sex is the approved way. penis to vagina is the approved method. sex is for procreation and recreation.

edit:i see some other expansive posts, do not confuse facts with quantity. it's god's decision, and his word is the bible. that's where you need to go to find out.

Answer 8

This is the reasoning I have come to. If you put your total faith in God working through you to unfold and fulfill your life purpose, then you will surrender your child-bearing to him as well. Therefore he let's you know through your thoughts which result in actions, when to have sex or even whether or not to use BC. Does born-again mean that your life is fully aligned with God's will? I've been through a conversion, I don't think of myself as a born-again, but I always trust that my will is His.

Answer 9

Size is what really matter for the Bible ladies...!!!

Ezekiel 23:20 - There she lusted after her lovers, whose genitals were like those of donkeys and whose emission was like that of horses.

There is nothing in the Bible against Birth control. A lot of men in the Bible wished to have been aborted!

Job 3:1-4,11 After this, Job opened his mouth and cursed the day of his birth. He said: "May the day of my birth perish, and the night it was said, 'A boy is born!' That day—may it turn to darkness; may God above not care about it; may no light shine upon it for it did not shut the doors of the womb on me to hide trouble from my eyes. (11) "Why did I not perish in the womb, and die as I came from the belly?

Jeremiah 20:14-17 - Cursed be the day I was born! May the day my mother bore me not be blessed! Cursed be the man who brought my father the news, who made him very glad, saying, "A child is born to you—a son!" May that man be like the towns the LORD overthrew without pity. May he hear wailing in the morning, a battle cry at noon. For he did not kill me in the womb, with my mother as my grave, her womb enlarged forever.

Answer 10

NO WAY is it wrong! Use it!
Oral sex is not wrong!

Nowhere is there any reference to birth control being wrong.