My friend is a housewife with a nanny and a made and is always showing off?

Question

My friend is a housewife with a young infant daughter. She has a live in nanny and a cleaning lady. Her husband is a lawyer. She is always asking me to go to lunch in the middle of the day but I can't because I have a job. I have a daughter and sometimes we will take our daughters out together. When we go shopping she takes both her daughter and the nanny, and she will shop while the nanny pushes the daughter in the carriage, while I am pushing my own carriage and watching my own daughter. She spends a lot of money on clothing, beauty products, lunches etc, and she knows I can't spend a lot because I am widow, but she still insists on going to expensive places to eat and shop while she is with me. Even when we are having lunch, she will send the nanny off with both of our daughters, so we can be alone.

Answer 1

Sorry, but your friend sounds like a SNOB. Unless she has some kind of disability, she dosn't need a nanny and a maid if she decided to become a mom. Also, if she has all this free time on her hands, why isn't she doing something to better the community like volunteering? She sounds like she is just trying to show off to you how much money she has. You need new friends girl. She sounds like she is very insensitive to your position, espcielly with you being a widow.

Answer 2

If she can afford all of that, great for her. You need to just tell her, look....I can't afford that place....what about XYZ? And if she says no, tell her you can't go. If she really insists on going to places you can't afford, she isn't the best friend in the first place.

Everyone has their own idea of what being a good parent involves. Some people might think she is a horrible parent, some might think she is doing a great job......it's an opinion. Everyone has one. I wouldn't focus on what she has, I think it's more about what she is willing to do for the friendship.....if she can't go to lunch at a less expensive place once in a while, then you might need to seek out some new friends.

Answer 3

Your friend is allowed to have a nanny and maid if she wants.
Who cares how much she spends? If you enjoy spending time with her, you can go along shopping but not buy anything.
As for where you eat, YOU insist on a place you can afford. Or don't go! You can do playdates at eachother's houses and they don't cost a dime. You need to do what is right for you and not be so concerned about your friend and what she has.

Answer 4

This lady needs to think about what she is doing and try to spend more time with her daughter, and not to spend that much money what happened if her husband was to leave her for someone else what would she do then.

Answer 5

She has the right to all those nice things if she can afford them. Tell her you are on a budget and can't go to the most expensive places. Next time, you pick a place to eat.

Answer 6

who cares those girls are never going to be close to their mom as you and your daughter are...she cannot be a good mom so she decides to hire someone else to take care of them...she might be showing of how much money she has but she is showing how bad of a mom she is...i can't believe she needs a nanny and a maid and she is a housewife...wow her hubby picked a good one..poor kids will never get to bond with their mom.

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