Should i quit my job? My job stresses me out so much, that its making me sick and causing problems in my life

Question

I work in childcare and i really enjoy working with kids, but the daycare i work in now is horrible. My boss treats me unfairly-(im not the only one she does this to.) i get yelled at for everything. If i dont get all my work done, i get yelled at but if i dont leave on time, i get yelled at. She is just really hard to work for.
Also, one day, my boss told me that my job should come before everything else, including my family and health.
I got talked to because i wasnt doing enough stuff with the kids, so i went out and spent over $200 on crafts and she told me i couldnt use them, they were too comercialized.
I, among with others get in trouble for every little thing we do, while others would get away with murder get put up on a grand pedastol.
What should i do? I live in a small town where there arent many job opportunities and my husband wont let me quit even though we can afford me not working until i found something better. Its a no win situation....help me!

Thank you for all your answers! Everyone has been really helpful. Ive been looking for a new job, and just havent found anything. Im going to continue looking, because at this point anything is better than the job im in now. Im also going to talk to my husband again, and really tell him how much my job is stressing me out. Hopefully he will understand more of why i want to quit if i stress to him how much i hate my job and why.
Thanks again for all your answers! Ill bve checking later for more!

Answer 1

Sweety, your health and family always comes first! Your husband should understand if this job is stressing you out so much. Try to find another job and QUIT, LEAVE! THis sounds so familiar. You should not have to put up with no one's abuse. STart selling Avon or something you can do at home. Volunteer at a school until there's an opening position to hire.

Answer 2

Quit. I was in a similar situation (high school teacher) a few years ago. It got to the point when I was having panic attacks as I had loads of lessons of mixed ability students so for each lesson I had to plan 3 levels of materials. Plus, the school organised stacks of totally pointless after-school meetings, often about things that didn't concerìn me in the slightest but i still had to be there. I really hated it. I stuck the year out until the end but then left and went freelance and it's a whole different life now. Also, becasue I wake up feeling calm and happy, i approach everything in my life differently, including my relationship, so I guess I'm a nicer person to be around.
Don't let your husband dictate what you do, especially as it's making you so unhappy. Talk to him and show him that you're not work-shy; it's just this particular job that's getting you down.
Life isn't a dress rehearsal so do what you feel - and probably know deep down - is best.

Answer 3

How is it affecting your health? If it is bad enough so that you are sick all the time, yes quit.
My new boss is like yours and if I didn't have 23 years invested, I would leave. Since our husbands don't like the thought of us not working, let me see if I can give you some ideas.
Depending on the age of the children, get some colored paper and glue. Get yourself a book of simple origami. Let them fold paper. With the glue and some water color in tubes, you can make a simple stamp. Let the children make a design on some hard paper with the glue. Let it dry. Brush the color over it and put a piece of paper on top. Use your rolling pin to press the top paper. When you pull it off you can see the design. Cheap and easy.
If they are allowed music, find the album or cd of Peter, Paul and Mommy. Make them get up and dance to Puff the Magic Dragon and I'm being eaten by a boa constrictor.
You'll be working with them, giving them exercise and expanding their creativity.
There's nothing you can do with your boss. They'll find fault with everything no matter what. Just remember that this means something is wrong with them...NOT YOU. I have to repeat "Not me, not me" all day. Find yourself a similar phrase. Children are a blessing and those who work with them are blessed...first for having them to enjoy and second for helping mold them into the individual they will become. Good Luck!

Answer 4

I know what you are feeling right now. I used to be in the same position as you. I had A LOT of paperwork to do in addition to answering a multi-line phone. The phone literally rang so many times, it was like one after another. I had to pick up the phone and then transferred it to one of the managers. If I was on the phone it means I couldn't do anything else. After all, I can't be in 2 places at the same time. So, I had to stay late to finish my work. My boss didn't want to give me much overtime. She said I can only have 2 hours overtime a week, which is nothing. So, without telling her I clocked out and went back to my desk. I know that it is illegal, but, if the work didn't get done then whose behind gonna be on the line? Mine of course.

Anyway, find a new job. I don't know why your husband wants you to work even though you don't need to. Maybe he thinks you'll get bored staying at home and might end up cheating on him? Or maybe he wants to save up money for the future so both of you can retire early? I have no idea. Go talk to him heart to heart, with calm mind.

Answer 5

Start your own daycare. Since you like the kids if you were to start taking business classes and figured out how to start a business then get your home ready you could do a day care in the home. Get a business and child care licenses then start finding customers. So when you give notice on your job you will have your new day care starting two weeks later.
Maybe you should change lines of work all together, what else would you enjoy doing?

Answer 6

yell back i doubt your boss will fire you........she just need some fire up their aSSSes sometimes.....this is what you need to do sometimes to get respect from others. Tell your boss to shut her mouth and she is being rediculous.....If she fires you then go to the local paper and write your story and what you think..........Word travels very fast in a small town.....you husband should respect any decision you make.........DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY AND NOT EVERYONE ELSE This is the point of being free in america, you can say and do about anything you want.....just quit, call the state on their butts, and then starts your own childcare, Its not that hard my mother has her own childcare business and she makes about 200 a day if not more and she does not spend much on expenses because the state will pay for most of it including food for the children and some of the rent for the daycare facility........good luck

Answer 7

if this is part of a larger group and there is someone above your boss, prepare a statement of your complaints and have the others she treats this way as well sign it, and perhaps even see an attorney about a lawsuit for harassment.
I am concerned though that you are with a husband who wants you to work even though it is causing problems in your life. That sounds like a real jerk and maybe you should consider leaving him and the job and moving to a town where it is easier to get a better job. good luck to you.

Answer 8

Don't quit yet, just keep trying to find jobs around or near your area, you'll find something. If you like working with kids then try to find something kid oriented & you would enjoy. When you find something that you're sure will work for you & you've talked it over, go for it. Also, get together with the other employees who are in the same situation & talk about how you could work together to solve some problems. Good Luck! =]
hope that helped=]

Answer 9

Look. If it's causing u so much distress... Leave the job.

What's more important? Slogging ur guts out for a lousy boss? Or u being a happy person? Being a happy person has MANY benefits. It will give u a positive outlook on seeking for a better job.

Answer 10

Start looking now...maybe you have to travel further to get a job, but you can't work in a place that makes you sick.
The fact that your husband won't "let you quit" concerns me too. You have to do what is in YOUR best interest or it will effect the relationship too.
Start applying for other things, or a stay at home business.