My parents and his has been friends for more than 30 years and there's never been bad blood between me and his family but since i got together with there son the gossip never stops. and it's all bad things said about me that's not even true.His mom who was the worst died recently. After a big family fight between my fiance and his family we dont see any of the family. That's the way we chose it. We're getting married December, a intimate wedding and we're only inviting his father and suster from his site of the family.
2007-11-03 07:18:37 · 19 answers · asked by asaukv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like you have the support of your fiance and thats what counts. Sounds like you 2 are handling it just fine getting rid of the toxic people.
2007-11-03 07:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice is to not feed into their negativity or the gossip. By reacting to what is said will only reflect on you. I would ignore them and avoid them. They are just trying to give you a hard time but they are the ones that will have to get over it. Remember, you do not have to prove anything to no one. All that should matter is your fiance. -So, don't loose track of the ball. You have to also understand that you can't make everybody happy, so why not just concentrate on making yourself and your fiance happy.
Remember, don't stoop to their level. -Keep your head up and keep your eye on the ball. -God Bless.
2007-11-03 07:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, talk approximately extreme upkeep! so as that they brush aside each and every thing you tell them as unworthy. there is one thank you to remedy that difficulty - supply up telling them approximately your wedding ceremony plans! in the event that they create it up or make a tenet, say something ambiguous, like "oh yeah? that would desire to artwork" or "i will tell my fiance approximately that concept!" no longer something committing to something, whilst changing the concentration from "disapproval of your plans" to "attention of their recommendations," that's what it is going to be. My MIL did this, although needless to say to no longer the quantity which you're coping with now. Mine stated those votive candle holders that appeared like mushrooms. She had already offered something like 40 8 of those issues before asking us if we'd choose to apply them! I stated the reception hall would not enable open flames, which they might not, to bypass that one. T there replaced into different stuff, too, yet only bear in mind that no longer each and every concept would be a undesirable one. For all the "undesirable" recommendations the MIL made, the only we certainly enjoyed have been given inadvertently ignored because of the fact of the different stuff we ended up having to handle that replaced into unrelated. It replaced right into a disgrace because of the fact we had those decorations for around the nutrition buffet waiting to be placed on demonstrate, yet they in no way made it available because of the fact of a few unexpected room changing that happened. So carry on your weapons, do no longer substitute your plans except you and your fiance choose to alter them, take the recommendations in stride, and function relaxing on your special occasion! making plans a marriage could be stressful, however the top consequence would be eye-catching!
2016-10-14 21:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for your fiance! He is a man worth keeping! He knows what he wants and is there on your side - 100%. This happened to me - my future mother - in - law asked my husband to choose between her and I. He choose me and we have the happiest marriage ever!
Ignore the rest of the family. Who are they to judge you and whether you are "right" for your hubby to be. Did you interfere in their choices?
Enjoy your intimate wedding and look forward to a lovely life together. You are marrying him - not his extended family!
2007-11-03 07:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it best to cut family ties before a marriage ,especislly when the family does not respect or like you. If your soon to be husband is ok with it you should be too. and hopefully they will began to miss the both of you and the grand kids later
2007-11-03 07:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by ladydy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it isn't true what there sayin then don't worry about it. He loves you and you love him right? There is always going to be someone who has to cause trouble but just turn the other cheek that makes you the better person. They are the ones who are going to miss out, if they can't except you for your and except this is who he has choosen to marry then hell with them. All that matters is if you 2 are happy with your life!
2007-11-03 07:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by sarah w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 8 years and have never really gotten along with his family. His two sisters are disgusting slobs and his brother is a drunk. I just go there when we have to, christmas, birthdays etc and don't really talk to them any other time, unless absolutely necessary.
2007-11-03 07:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't really a wrong or right answer for this. The only thing you can do is what is right for the both of you even if that means having to compromise somewhat.
2007-11-03 07:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't see them, then most of the problem should be solved.Focus on your wedding, the holidays and each other. Don't let their words hurt you. Smile and move on. Good luck and congratulations!
2007-11-03 07:43:01 · answer #9 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cope by sucking it up and being nice to the family that raised your husband. He wouldn't be the person you are in love with today, if it weren't for them.
2007-11-03 07:23:36 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋