I'm in a very new and very intense relationship. Usually I'm a take it slow kinda person, but this guy totally swept me off my feet. I met him 4 weeks ago through a mutual friend, he told me he loved me within hours of meeting me. Told me he wanted to marry me/live with me/kids with me. I've met his kids from his previous marriage. He's 16 years older than me, which is not unusual as I prefer older guys. Things is, he is more intense than I am and more sure about 'us'. When I spoke about having doubts early on and if I ever say anything remotely hurtful (even without intending to) he tends to be very sensitive and take it to heart and then get cross/upset/not talk to me for a couple of days. On the last occasion where he was ignoring me, I couldn't stand it, and travelled down to see him (2 hour train journey) without telling him and basically I was snubbed by him, he treated me as though he did't want me at all even after I'd made the effort to come down to see him (continued below..)
2007-11-03 07:10:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and work things out face to face. So I left and went to stay with a male friend nearby. We ended up sleeping in the same bed and kissing for about 10 seconds before I stopped it, absolutely nothing else. I was pining for my bloke so much that I broke down in tears the next morning and my male friend was full of advice and sorry that he'd tried it on with me. When my bloke called me two days later (he hadn't even rung me to make sure I was okay after leaving his) I told him the truth about where I'd gone after leaving his, although I said that we'd slept separately and nothing had happened. Then 2 minutes later after he questioned me a bit more, I told him the the full truth. Now he thinks there's even more to the story, i.e more that I'm hiding because I didn't tell him the full truth in the first place. He is immensely angry and wants to go see my male friend (who he knows fancies me anyway). We sort of broke up three days ago and I haven't heard from him since. What to do???
2007-11-03 07:15:51 · update #1
I would not bother with him because something does not sound right about him being very intense in this relationship. I think he is a control person and not very trusting so better be safe than sorry find someone else before things get out of hand!! Good Luck!!
2007-11-03 07:16:25 · answer #1 · answered by peanutbulls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do what i will! I recommend needless to say sure I do spend relatively a number of of time to repair up yet why no longer? NO i'm no longer shallow yet i certainly get exhilaration from fixing myself up being that i'm a GIRLY lady. I understand no longer all and sundry is into hair and makeup yet i'm. some ppl are into tats and piercings, i'm into makeup o properly! females, we choose our hair accomplished, foreheadwaxings, nails accomplished, makeup, outfits, the appropriate accersories, etc. all of those issues provides up rapid!! no longer which is composed of outfits only getting the hair accomplished could be an rate that may no longer decrease priced!! while i glance extra useful on the outdoors it does make me sense extra useful on the interior. that's something I do for MYSELF no longer different individuals...I ADMIT IT TAKES ME approximately an hour to totally fix as much as the place i'm happy. that would desire to comprise doing each and every thing hygeine-smart and seems smart to look suitable. Now if in a hurry, i will slender it right down to 0.5 an hour or ten minutes (for only makeup) human beings consistently mistake me for a style (or recommend I evaluate it) so thats a extreme known to uphold! I ought to look good lots of the time. I evaluate myself certainly acceptable yet i'm remarkable with the appropriate hair form, makeup and outfits...I desire how i glance with makeup. there is not any way a guy ought to take longer than me. I even tend to love enormously boys (no longer too enormously individuals) yet those i certainly fall for are the scruffy adult men! Its strange. If the guy thinks he seems extra useful than me, that would desire to be a difficulty!! lol...I dont like adult men in makeup some adult men can pull off "guyliner" even with the undeniable fact that that's sort of female! :-)
2016-10-14 21:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You used up your allotted number of words, but from what I can see, this guy is a manipulator. Her enjoys keeping you on the defensive and off balance. The silent treatment seems to work on you so he will use it for all it is worth !
It's time for you to move on ! Find someone who can be honest in a relationship, I don't believe this guy is being honest, after all four weeks is not enough time to know someone, at least not someone with whom you want to spend the rest of your life !
2007-11-03 07:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is very egotistical. He may be charming but it sounds like he wants JUST ONE THING FROM YOU--what most guys want without a committment. He thinks--why buy the cow if the milk is free? So he takes for granted that you travelled to see him. He wants you to be in position of weakness and under his spell--and you are.
2007-11-03 07:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he's been hurt in a previous relationship that's why he's blanking you. if you really want to be with him my advice is to give him some space he'll come to you then have a chat with him about how you feel when he gives you cold shoulder treatment and ignores you things like that take time to get over whoever you are.
2007-11-03 07:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this whole relationship sounds really, really stupid.
no offense.
He sounds like a stalker, and you cheated no matter how far you went. It really does not matter at this point.
Your four week relationship is doomed. Oh well. You'll get over it
2007-11-03 07:15:28 · answer #6 · answered by hunydipped 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship sounds like too much work. Being with someone is supposed to be fun...not a bother like this sounds. Try to find someone new...best bet I think.
2007-11-03 07:14:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cheated on him and told him, and he wants nothing to do with you because you cheated, then why does it matter if he believes how far you went? Cheating is cheating. If you want better chances of holding onto a relationship, don't cheat. It's not like it's incredibly difficult to do.
2007-11-03 07:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by ♛Qu€€n♛J€§§¡¢a♛™ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are his rebound girl. He's replacing his lost wife with you. When that doesn't work out, you'll be dumped.
2007-11-03 07:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you cheated on me i wouldn't believe you ether whats to say you never did what your saying you didn't why would he trust you??
2007-11-03 07:13:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋