Help me and my boyfriend are pregnant.......?

Question

but he is addicted to meth and gambiling how can I get him to quit using?

Answer 1

What a great idea to bring an innocent baby into this mess. He won't stop until he wants to stop, and baby just gives him once more reason to use. So he'll stop when he's ready or when he's dead. Those are his two choices.

He can afford meth but not birth control??? I feel so sorry for that little innocent baby. Being brought up by a father who's addicted to meth and gambling. Wow, baby will be proud.

The best thing you can do is leave his drug addicted a*s now and don't even put his name on the birth certificate. He can claim paternity if he ever decides to quit and stays clean for a couple of years.

You are that baby's ONLY chance to get away from this mess, baby is counting on you to take care of him/her no matter how much you love a meth addict.

Again, you are this baby's only hope of growing up in a normal environment, and hopefully you will go to any length to protect your child, like a mother should.

If you decide to stay hopefully Children's Services will step in and take the baby from you.

Good luck

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Answer 2

Okay first of YOU are pregnant. He isn't. YOU have a child to worry about.

You cannot make anyone quit their addictions. No amount of threats, pleading, or negotiating is going to make them stop. It is called an addiction for a reason. The only thing you can do is love your child enough to stay away from this addict. Until he makes the choice to enter rehab and successfully completes it. And then they will recommend he not date for up to a year after getting clean.

You may want to believe you can fix him. That you can love him enough o make him stop or that he will love you and your child enough to stop. That is fantasy. You have to get REAL. His lover is his addiction. He would live and die for his addiction. Not you. Sad, hurtful, etc. But TRUE TRUE TRUE.

You need to work until you cannot work any longer and save every penny you can and go to your parents for emotional, physical and financial support. Then you need to find a program that will help pay for daycare while you work after you have the child. It is you and the baby now and you need to figure out how to manage. And if you cannot handle being a single parent, there is abortion or adoption or leaving the baby at a fire station or police station if you see you cannot do it.

And if you choose to remain with this person and choose to live with him after you have the baby while he is still addicted, I pray to God someone has the sense to call CPS on you. NO child should ever have to be exposed to this behavior because the mother is too stupid to protect them from an addict. There is never a reason a mother has to remain with an addict. Addicts think first about their drugs and think nothing of placing children in harms way. They are high most of the time and do not have the necessary thinking skills or forethought to handle even minor things like bathing a child. There has been child after child drowned while the parent goes off to get a fix. And that is the tip of the iceberg. And your situation is no different. It is not special. It will end up the same way if you choose him over your child's safety.

And you cannot place the blame entirely on the addict. You choose to have a child with an addict. You either didn't know he was or were in denial. Either way, that is on you. You should never have a child with someone you do not know well enough to see they are an addict or some you know is an addict. That is just plain stupid. And now you have to fix the situation by protecting this child that is blameless from the hurt his father will most certainly dole out. You have to provide your child a safe, drug free home. One with love. One were he never has to worry about the home burning down cause daddy is cooking up some meth. Where he doesnt have to worry about daddy's perv friend feeling him up or raping him in exchange for the meth dad got from him. The list goes on, but odds are you don't care enough to really protect your child. Odds are you are another woman with low self esteem that cares more about having a man that what that man is going to do to their child.
Prove me wrong.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to inform you but a man cannot become pregnant. I also am sorry to say that this is another cause of somebody who does not belong getting pregnant. Why would you even have sex with a person that is a drug bag? Do you have any idea what effects the drugs will have on your future child or did you not think about it? It saddens me that in many cases people who should be reproducing are not and the ones that are bring kids into this world that end up being messed up from all sorts of things with drugs being one of the major reasons. The only advice i can give is get rid of that guy. Sure you can send him to rehab but what are the chances he is even going to go in the 1st place and what are the chances of him coming out clean and staying that way? What you need to do now is re-think your life. The child and yourself will be much better off without that loser you got pregnant by in the first place. I know it hurts to hear it but i am being honest and i will also tell you i am disappointed to even hear about this. Do the right thing and break it off with him now.

Answer 4

You're going to need serious help for that. Meth is a terrible drug. I would never let my child be around something like it. I'd get him into rehab and fast. If he doesn't care enough about you and your child to stop the drugs and gambling, then he's not suited to be a father. If all else fails, leave him.

Answer 5

Um specific there's a secret abortion he can get yet you are able to desire to talk to NASA. it is going to be a sprint high priced in spite of the undeniable fact that that's punctiliously rather worth it. I have been given my boyfriend pregnant too while i became into your age, and he have been given an abortion. Our dad and mom might completely turn in the event that they ever found out!

Answer 6

Hun, whatever you get him to quit will only be temporary since it's not coming from his own conviction. I believe it's in your best interest to separate yourself from this guy and take care of yourself and this soon-to-be-in-your-life child. You're right, meth. and gambling are not in the best interest of a baby, but they're not in yours either! Please do right by yourself and this new life.

Answer 7

what were you doing w/ him in the first place .. Move on & forget about the father.. You have to think now about the baby thats on the way. Just stay away from him, you cant help someone that doesnt want to help themselve first. but its not the babys fold so .. Start concentrating on your baby now

Answer 8

Meth + gambling = BAD LIFE

Answer 9

You can't he will only change when he wants to. You can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do ever heard of the saying you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. Good Luck Hon I wish you the best of luck it's gonna be a hard battle.

Answer 10

If you want a good life for your baby you should just leave him. Your child doesn't need an addict for a father