I got back with my boyfriend 4 weeks ago after a 2 month break up. He wanted to try again and go SLOW. I am very emotionally attached to him, but it seems that he isn't where I am just yet. He knows that I am a few steps ahead of him. He claims he is working on it. He told me hes half way there to committing 100% to me. We are in a relationship and I didn't think its suppose to be this complicated. I was advised to back off a little bit, but what does that mean? Does it mean not calling/texting, not asking him to come over? I try to step back emotionally, but its so hard because I am in love with him. I don't want to lose him again. Please help.
2007-11-03 06:42:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is a tough situation to be in. Unfortunately, based on my personal experiences, and those of close friends, if it didn't work the first time, it probably won't be any better the seconnd time around.
However, if you're willing to give it a shot, backing off may be your best bet. The more time you want out of him, the more he claims you're suffocating him. Let him call/text you, or ask to spend time with you. If he truly wants to be with you, he'll come around.
But you're going to also have to accept that he may not. I know, it's hard to lose someone you love, but remember that there are plenty of other guys out there. So, don't get hung up on one guy that can't give you 100% because you may miss out on a guy who will!
2007-11-03 06:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have to back off from anything. If you two are dating then yes calling him, texting him and hanging out is the normal thing to do. He's the one that needs to step up his game. You do what you feel is right for the relationship and if he can't handle it then maybe its not the time for you two to be together. Don't hold back just to keep him with you, thats not the way it works.
2007-11-03 06:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by Pwizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it just means to give him abit more space, u knw hw guys dnt like it wen gyals get clingy. anyways iv had the same problem too in the past, just give it time. at the end of the day u can do ur bit so he cant turn around and say to u that ur not doing this or tht, if hes agreed to commiting to u then allow him some time, youve onli been together for a shorth while...:) hope it all works out for u!:)
2007-11-03 06:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by sweetnsimple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really from my point of view you need to sit him down and tell him how much you love him. Maybe that can get him to commit to you 100%. Sometimes boys feel that if they do committ 100% they might get hurt. So you have to see it from his piont of view. They tend to have fears the same as girls. They don't wear it out on there sleves like girls do.
2007-11-03 06:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says that he is working on it and he's half way to committing 100 % to you, believe in him. You will not loose him at all, there's one call faith that you should do. Trust him, it is important that you do.
Try to have fun, play along, make him satisfied, make him go crazy on you, make him love you..
2007-11-03 06:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are either with someone or you aren't. During this break he's seeing other people, you do know that right? Since he's not 100% committed to you, he is dating other people, you do know that right? Seek counseling for your dependency issues.
2007-11-03 06:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you are. If you are a teenager...then I would say relax and have fun. Commitments are not high priorities (especially with guys).
If you are an adult, then he is stalling time and playing the field. Period.
2007-11-03 06:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by Hammer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to guys, slow means: take it real slow, less texting , less i love u, less phone calls, less staying over or coming over to ur place.
take it slow..y rush..u r just afraid of losing him. u r too used of him being ur side every min. u shd b like him, take it slow. go out with frds more. watch tv. read a bk. pick up a new hobby.
2007-11-03 06:46:20 · answer #8 · answered by devileye_98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space and let him contact you. If you call and text him all the time it will push him away
2007-11-03 06:45:34 · answer #9 · answered by mommacat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋