I'm so confused... HELP!!?

Question

Sorry this is going to be kind of long. Well first off I like this one guy named Drew & he even told me he likes me alot. Well I use to be best friends with his ex but now she hates my guts. Well yesterday he said he wants to go out with me but he doesn't want Ashlee (his ex) to find out cause he still wants to be friends with her. She cheated on him almost 3 times and when he found that out he said he didn't want to be friends with her at all but now he's saying he wants to be friends with her. I told him she's eventually going to find out if him & I go out. I'm just afraid if him & I start going out he's going to be cheating on me with her. And another thing is when we're in 2nd period he's all up on me like hugging me & stuff but in 4th period he acts like I'm not even alive. So what should I do? One more thing... I like this other guy Edmin who is friends with my friend Crystal.

Well after they dropped me off at home Crystal asked Edmin what he thought of me. He said I was kool & we should hang out again. Crystal knew he wasn't telling the whole truth so she went come on tell me what you think of her & he told her he likes me & he wants to go out with me. Crystal told him that I like him alot & he went I like her alot too but I kind of have a girlfriend but she's been cheating on me sence the first day we've been going out. Is she really his girlfriend then? Crystal & I both asked him why he won't break up with her & he said cause he still likes her a little bit but he likes me more. We both told him I would never cheat cause thats wrong. The problem is I like Drew & Edmin alot. I asked my friend Raven what I should do & she said wait a month so he can relize he should be with you but I don't want to wait forever and then get hurt. I'm so confused!! HELP ME PLEASE!!!

Answer 1

I think you should forget about "Drew."

If he genuinely liked you, he wouldn't care who knew. So scratch him.

And you didn't give enough details about guy #2.

How old are you anyway?

Trust me, you'll date many guys before you find Mr. Right, so just don't get too serious with anyone.

If a guy seems worth your time, go for it. Just remember not to compromise yourself or waste your time.

Answer 2

Stay away from Drew. Too much drama. He's playin anyway. If he really likes you there is no need for all this secrecy. You already admitted you are worrying about trusting him and you haven't gone out yet. Why would you ever want to go out with a guy you don't trust? You'd always be miserable. As long as Edmin and Crystal don't have a thing with each other, give Edmin a try instead.

Answer 3

I wouldn't trust him, he still cares way too much about her and there is a bigger reason he doesn't want her to know than what he has stated to you. Basically, he is not over her

On your update:
He is still not over her and doesn' t appear to be ready for a new relationship yet. Be his friend right now and don't rush anything, he will come around when he is ready. Since he is not over her, and say he hooks up with you, if the other girl again shows some interest in him, which is common...he may start hooking up with her again as he does most definitely still have feelings for her. He doesn't sound like a bad guy and no doubt you are better for him but I can't say it enough, he is not over her and until he is, it is not a good idea to move beyond a friendship. Wait for him to get on steady ground again and make sure she is out

Answer 4

If a boy or man cheats once, he will cheat again. Take yourself right out of this relationship, now! Look at your question. Read it again. He is nice to you in one class and ignores you in another. Give the jerk the heave- too. Concentrate on other things in your life and some time in the future, you will meet a boy who respects you and loves you, but ONLY if you respect yourself. It sounds to me as if you have low self esteem. Get stronger within yourself. Know that you are on this earth for a reason. Make the best of your life NOW and you will grow up to be a happy adult. I am a grandmother now and I have found out in my long life, that if you LOOk for love, you will never find it. If you concentrate on making yourself a better person, stronger, without looking, one day it will just happen. Then it will be the right relationship. It won't be if you go looking for someone, like your friends Edmin. Concentrate on your school work now, and I promise you that in the future, your life will turn out to be a happy and successful one. Love yourself before you can love anyone else.

Answer 5

I think you've answered your own question:

"I'm just afraid if him and I start going out he's going to be cheating on me with her."
"....but in 4th period he acts like I'm not even alive."

Leave that boy alone and Edmin too. If you even need a guy right now, just find a boyfreind who will respect you and treat you well and who you also care about. But the best course of action for you would be to focus on your studies.

Answer 6

For starters, stay away from Drew. He's going to mess with your head. You don't need that sort of baggage, what with that ex girlfriend of his always lurking in the background. If you like your friend's friend, why are you thinking about Drew?

If Edmin is your friend's boyfriend, don't even think about making a move on him. If not, why not go out with him? Or get your friend to ask him for you (isn't that what tenagers do?)

Answer 7

This sounds like an audition for "Days of Our Lives: High School"

There's a couple questions here: Do you care what your ex-friend thinks? Do you trust this guy enough not to cheat on you with his ex? What's this guy's problem that he can't decide on whether he likes you or not.

Answer those three questions, and come to an answer based on that. In matters of emotions, it's smartest to not let emotions get in the way.

Answer 8

He is trying to be with more than on person. Tell him its either out in the open and around everyone or take a walk. He is not over the first girl and might be using you to get even with her.

find out from crystal if they are close first, if not then go for it

Answer 9

The best thing to do in this situation is try to stay away from any guys yo9ur friends have dated. That is one of the female rules. You loose friends and usually end up loosing theguy in the long run .. BUt if your friend cheated on him and he wants to talk to you you neecd to clear things up with your girl first. LEt her know flat out IF YOU LIKED HIM YOU WOULDNT OF CHEATED ON HIM 3 TIMES! let her know you have real feelingsfor this guy and you honestly think if given the opportunity things can work out. But you Wont try unless she is willing to stay out of the picture. He could be acting like this in class because he doesnt want it to get back to anyone. I had a guy that I dated for 3 years! He used todate a friend of mine that was a little hooch magooch! She cheated on him with half of the football team and he never new about it until I brought it to his attention. My friend was hurt but she knew she was wrong! She would of stayed on his *** if I wouldnt of stepped in. Sometimes thats just what you have to do . But first you need to Think about who you really want .... After you have done that ...deal with your friends...... Let her know that Your feelings are true and zYou need her to step out of the picture so you can make the next move..... PLay hard to get until then. If a guy knows your there ... after knowing what has happend in his past he will expect you to be there and deal with the situation no matter what ... that could be the deal in class... If he trys to hug o you ... tell him ... Oh now you want to play lovey dovey .... what happend to 4th period huh ? .... It will drive him crazy and make him want you more! Good luck Girly... Go get your man!

Answer 10

Throw caution into the wind, that's what I'd do. It sounds like you're afraid to make a mistake, which is ridiculous considering you're young and bound to make them. No one who has their head on strait would expect you to have perfect judgment or to never hurt anyone's feelings. Try not to be nervous and look at the situation logically, as if you were not involved and just observing. Once you do that the answer will come to you.