Me and my boyfriend started dating 3 weeks after he broke up with his ex girlfriend. We have been together 2 months. I know it seems childish but considering him and his ex are not friends, I would like him to remove their photos from public view (facebook and myspace) Pictures of her laying on him and on his lap are just uneccessary now that me and him are together. Am I overreacting? What bothers me is ive seen him look at them so he clearly knows their still there. Ive asked him and he says he doesnt feel like removing them but I feel like if he cared about me he'd have no issue with it
2007-11-03 06:21:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if he's your boyfriend then he would remove them because it is disrespectful.
If I were you, I would NOT be his girlfriend until he removed the photos. Then again, maybe a guy who doesn't respect you is NOT THE GUY you should be dating. Dump him and find someone else who is as serious as you want to be about relationships. This guy doesn't sound serious or sincere about caring about you.
2007-11-03 06:30:51 · answer #1 · answered by Dina K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's on the rebound with you. After only three weeks apart from his ex, he hasn't given himself enough time to make the break from her and he is using you as a distraction in order to try to forget her. Looking at those photos of her sure doesn't help as it only reinforces the attachment that he still has with her. This guy isn't fooling anyone and you're not to blame for feeling disrespected. He's still into the ex and there is where the issue remains. As for overreacting, you're not to blame for feeling like that either. If he's serious he needs to make a clean break and get rid of ALL the remnants of his past with her. You deserve a chance now, but as long as he's clinging to the past you're never going to get a fair chance. And if you're caught in the middle between those two, it'll never happen. So, depending how much you like this guy, you can stick it out and see if he'll start focusing on you, or you can chalk up those two months as a learning experience and move on and hopefully someday find someone who isn't carrying baggage from a previous relationship.
2007-11-03 13:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf sucks. I agree with you. I think hanging on to pictures is a form of an emotional attachment. He's considering her feelings and his before yours. You should say, "Look if you still have feelings for her, I respect that and you should pursue those feelings. I can't be in a relationship with someone who is unsure about me." Of course you gotta be sure of the circumstances and actually follow up on your words. I don't want you to ruin a good relationship just cause you couldn't talk it out the right way.
2007-11-03 13:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by Quentpoy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not overreacting. They should be removed. He appears to still have feelings for her.
EDIT-Tinmantuzz: Worse than "me and my boyfriend" are the errors in your post... YOU need to do better in English. It's "my boyfriend and I." But other THAN that YOU'RE right. Tell him to remove those PHOTOS and get some of you in there or YOU will be out of there!
2007-11-03 13:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by RadTech - BAS RT(R)(ARRT) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For one thing dating him 3 weeks after he split with is g/f is way too soon. He still loves her and still not over her. If he looks at her pics then he still wants her that's why he won't get rid of him. I would break it off until he is over his ex. You don't want to be in the middle of it because most likely you are the one who will be getting hurt.
Sorry!!!
2007-11-03 13:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by conny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not overreacting. if i were you, i would want him to remove the pictures also. Plus, he should have removed them in the first place and replaced them with pictures of you and him. I agree.. if they arent friends then y would he still want pictures of them. Thats kind of weird. But yeah, you aren't overreacting and jsut let him know that it bothers you and ask him whats up with that. best of luck=]
2007-11-03 13:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he might want to still be friends with her. If they were really serious then he might still love her, He might not be in love with her but love her. I still love my ex and I always will I'm just not in love with her anymore. Like I said if they were serious like wanting to get married serious then he will still have feelings for her. All I can tell you is give it time, if he doesn't get rid of them in the future say a couple months then you should be a little worried.
2007-11-03 13:27:27 · answer #7 · answered by PNUT 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He shouldnt remove the pictures. Pictures are pictures, get over it. Yes you are overreacting. It doesn't even matter, they're just memories. In the end of life, memories will be the only thing we have. Let them live on.
2007-11-03 13:26:09 · answer #8 · answered by Imherealone 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
dont be so fussy
let it be he can see how good u r by comparison.
first understand him well . guys dont harbour illfeelings after break up and remain friends with ex and feel responsible for them too. it is their cool attitude. just keep involved or ignore and get on with ur life
2007-11-03 13:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by Bubli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right the pics should come down he should keep them but in a box out of your site because memories are good and its good that he has a big hart that he cared but he needs to make new memerys with you ps good luck
2007-11-03 13:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by rudybdog@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋