My mom is a good person but she's starting to head down the wrong path. My mom and her boyfriend of 4yrs broke up about 6mths ago and ever since then she's been a single mother with just me. She is broke. She's also been dwelling about her ex and now she's trying to meet a new guy. So, far all she seems to meet are alcoholics and scums. She seems to feel desperate about meeting a guy that she doesn't care who shes meeting anymore. Now, she is dating losers and drinking and I dont know what to do. I pray for her and I try to encourage her but its not working. I mean she is not that out of control but soon she might be out of control. What should I do? Help please....
2007-11-03 05:52:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry you are going through this difficult period. I know you feel that your Mom is 'falling apart' but you are young and may not have 'all of the facts.' I suggest that you talk to a RELATIVE (your grandmother or grandfather, aunt or uncle) who can take a look at what is going on and make a good adult judgement about whether or not an intervention needs to be made. As for you, I suggest that you try to relax ... I know that you are worried about your mother's well being, but basically it's YOUR well being, too, and you feel 'out of control' right now. You NEED to 'turn this over to an adult relative you trust' and let THEM decide what, if anything, needs to be done. You need to get good grades in school, and do well in all of YOUR things. It's your mother's life, and she can 'ruin' it if she wants to (to her, it may NOT be 'ruin', after all) ... so ALL that you can do is to talk to an adult relative, and then try to relax and let time take its course.
2007-11-03 06:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, but I know this can have an effect on you in the future. I think you should try to talk to your mom about it bothering you. If you have tried and it didn't work you should talk to someone your mom might listen to about it. Grandparents or Aunt & Uncle. My mom did something like this when I was in my teen years and it still has effects on me and I'm in my mid 30's. My mom had depression issues and left us alone for long periods to be with her "bf" of the day. Some women feel the need to have a man to make them feel whole. That was my mom. My sisters are both the same way. I don't know how I excaped that, but I am thankful I did. Make a note of what your mom is doing and how it makes you feel so you don't repeat the same patterns. These kinds of things do tend to be handed down from mothers to children.
Good luck and keep strong.
2007-11-03 06:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by Kim M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your mom is going through this and I'd feel the same way if I were in your situation. The best thing for you to do is be honest with her and tell her how her behavior makes you feel. You can also be encouraging in trying to get her working again, maybe you can go walking with her to get her in shape, I just think right now she's going to need a lot of support and I think you're just the daughter to do it.
Good luck and God Bless.
2007-11-03 06:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yu didnt say what age you're yet.....i'm fifty 4 years previous and that i can inform you that I had this similar form of hurtful painful relationship with my mom at the same time as i changed into youthful and nonetheless residing at living house 40 years in the past and it remains in my thoughts. i'm sorry to inform you that this may likely no longer replace till you're a lot older or by no skill. it is your mom who needs to understand her movements are incorrect and hurtful and he or she is the guy who will favor to regulate her distructive habit. regrettably there isnt a lot you could do except to inform her it appears that evidently merely how her frame of mind hurts you and keeps on hurting you and ask her merely precisely WHY does she seem to relish doing this to you? for my area i imagine your mom must have very low self-worth and the in easy words way she will justify that she is larger than she is is to placed you (or everyone really) down in an attempt to seem more advantageous or smarter. Verbal abuse is sometimes the worst form to ever forget or get over. that's a extreme form of abuse. Your mom needs extreme help and also you do to for you to get by existence with out carrying this with you perpetually. search for suggestion from a pro quickly, very quickly.
2016-10-23 08:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by hodnett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is do your best to keep her on the right path, if you feel a guy she is dating isnt a great person try and allow her to see it without forcing it upon her, real sorry this is happening to you and that i cant give the best advice but the best of luck to you
2007-11-03 05:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by charles b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that your Mom is behaving this way honey.
I'm a firm believer in Prayer
as the 1st and best thing to do.
Secondly, I think you should write down everything
you want to say to her.
Then decide how you can say it in a caring,
loving and humble way.
Then sit her down and have a heart to heart talk
with her about it.
2007-11-03 05:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by andybosik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to her and tell her what you think about the guys that shes dating, and tell her that there is aguy outthere for her and she shouldnt be choosing guys that are not worth it and tell her that you love her so0 much and with or without a guy you will stil love and that she still has you in hher life,and that you dont want her to go trough a bad path because you love her and shes important to you,GOOD LUCK! :D
2007-11-03 06:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by kendra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me and if you just make it so you are on her good side and you are always positive, so every time she sees you she is happy and cheerful. So then she likes to see you. Also make sur you are very open and on talking terms with mum.
2007-11-03 06:00:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show up at her place with some drunk guy (that you know!) just to prove a point. Then get her into more positive social circles.
2007-11-03 06:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Feel U. Good 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you talk to her ? Do you let her know she is loved ? Do you go out with her , just to have fun ? How about counseling ?
2007-11-03 05:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by htuch2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋