I have just seen a profile on situk(sex in the uk) it was my boyfriends. I guessed the password and signed in. I seen a box he had ticked for one2one sex and an inbox full of unread messages dating bk from june this year. The profile only says his willing to travel, he has no photo and nothing typed on it. Im guessing he does not use it as the messages would be read. but the point is it hurts cos you think you know someone and when you see them on a site thats not really friendly i think and feel different about him. I dont wanna get involved with somone whos got dirty secrets and not to mention his on some other swinger/adult site saying his in to older women to have sex with to fill his fantasy, these profiles may well be from a long time ago, but what does that say about him, if his joined sites like that i think whats he doing now. Im not going to tell him i have seen this info, but im starting to question my trust for him and wonder about his hidden side i dont know about.
2007-11-03 05:52:26 · 9 answers · asked by ice_castles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is exactly why every other person gets a divorce, because this is the type of "rock solid, concrete base" relationships are based on...... you're words are "I dont wanna get involved with somone whos got dirty secrets and not to mention his ............. Im not going to tell him i have seen this info, but im starting to question my trust for him and wonder about his hidden side i dont know about."
Well, if this is truly how you feel, why start a lifetime worth of secrets and lies with this person, the fact that he has an online profile in a "dating site", other than that you would need only a videotape of your boyfriend with another person and you would probably still question it..... and the fact that you're snooping on him tells me that you have no trust for this person, and there is a reason for that...........
The answers are right in front of you....
wish you the best!
2007-11-04 02:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by AdventureTraveler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are right.
I'd do the same and would feel the same too.
You need to know when he last logged on, and you should be able to see that on his accound.
I don't think you can't trust such a person.
If he likes sex so much, to the point that he would arrange to meet strangers to jump them, then, I don't think it's something that'd just go away for ever.
It means that he doesn't have much respect for himself, and altough he is in sex with consenting adults, it's still disgusting.
I don't thik I could live with such a person. Contemplate a future with them and trust them at all.
Good luck.xxx
2007-11-03 06:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some questions for you.....
Why would you do something like that????
What about his trust in you???
Two wrongs don't make a right and BOTH of you need some explaining to do to each other.
The shelf life of your relationship turned from being shelf life of 2 day old bananas instead of canned corn.
2007-11-03 06:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by The Hard Truth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally myself i dont like the sound of this. If he has signed on a dating website and he is already with you it sounds like to me he is checking out other women. Plus i think myself hes not one nice guy if he is doing this behind your back. You could ask him in a roundabout way about the website. example oh i was in such a website and i dont really go for that thing what do you think yourself. Or you could go for B ask him straight out and see what his answer is. Ok he will probably say you had no right going into my account but at the same time he had no right going on this website telling people what he likes or what he does not like when it comes to sex.
if you get the answer or if you dont get the answer that you dont want to hear i would break up with this guy. personally myself i would not give this guy the time of day if he was checking out theses websites and plus it really kind of says alot about himself and what he wants in this relationship from you.
I hope that this advice helps you and if he denies all knowledge of this website than i would take a timeout and think about what you want for yourself and if you want another guy to treat you like this. After all your no doormat. There plently of fish in the sea.
I hope my advice helps you.
2007-11-03 06:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by IrishPrincess <3 my BC shep 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got to discuss your findings with him, and try not to be offended if you really want your relationship to continue. And may be he likes adult sites while you don,t. You 've got to be pragmatic in your dealing and discussing this .
2007-11-03 06:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by femoA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to question your trust for him, but you're the one hiding the fact that you check up on him and broke into his accounts to read his messages?
If you can't talk to him about it, why are you with him?
2007-11-03 05:56:44 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if these were before you met him then why worry. He might have found the woman of his dreams in you. Why is it that we are not open and honest about sex with someone we are suppose to love. You should find some way to talk about sex with him before you end up married to someone.
2007-11-03 06:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jokingly ask him if he's ever signed up. If he lies and tells you he'd never do it watch his nose grow.
2007-11-03 05:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by (notso)Gloriouspipecleaner 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just likes the idea of it.it's fun.
2007-11-03 05:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by little rose 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋