It feels like there are lots of boys that are interested in me but are too intimidated or scared of rejection that they never ask me out directly. How can I make them be more...confident? I guess...
ps. I would never ask out a boy.
2007-11-03 05:46:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-11-03 05:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy!
Just get him in a headlock
and tell him you won't let go until he asks you out
on a date!(joke!)
Ok, joking-aside: if you wanna get a guy,
You don't have to look like a "10".
Yes, looks ARE what attracts us at first, that is true.
But what's most important is that you make the best of what God gave you
to work-with.
If you are overweight, that will make your pool of potential
guys shrink for sure, so if there is anything you can do to be in healthier shape, that would be a big help. Don't just do it to land a guy, do it because your life may depend on it! You don't wanna die at a young age of a heart attack, or diabetes etc. do you?
BTW I feel that too skinny is just as unattractive as being fat, no matter what women's magazines or hollywood may say. Make sure that you wear sexy, yet not trashy clothes, get your hair and makeup done. Look your best.
Ok, now that you have made the best of your appearance, you need to work on being approachable.
Get involved at Church, hobby related organizations, dance classes, community groups,
Volunteer groups, political organizations etc.
Also practice starting convos with guys wherever you happen to be, starbux, the supermarket, a bookstore, wherever.
When you see a guy you are attracted to, smile at him and look him in the eye.
Be friendly and flirty! Also, take the initiative. Start a conversation with guys. Ask us out on dates too! I've had it happen to me a couple of times and it made my day!
Be proactive!
If you keep doing what you've been doing,
you'll keep getting what you've been getting.
2007-11-03 12:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by andybosik 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I just answered a guy who was scared to ask a girl out. I wonder why this is so difficult. I guess people are afraid of rejection. But the worst that can happen is the person says "no", and that doesn't hurt at all. It helps a lot to just smile. A smile conveys confidence and friendliness, it says you are so much in control of your life and the situation that you can afford to be gracious, outgoing, and friendly. Don't be afraid to ask guys questions about their obvious interests, even if it isn't too interesting to you, its just to get them talking...cars? sports? It might be boring to you but if they want to talk about it, it breaks the ice, plus they will think you are real interesting because you are interested in their interests. Anyway, be true to yourself, like Shakespeare said, To Thine Own Self Be True. Meaning never "settle". Look around because you have to, to meet the right guy, but make sure the guy is the right one. Good luck, enjoy life!
2007-11-03 12:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by jxt299 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation. There's nothing much you can do. Just try to be friendly with them. This will remove their fear and they will gradually ask you out.
Of course, even I could never ask a boy out!!?!!
2007-11-03 12:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by anu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i gusse u should smile at them and stare for seconds okay plz dont stare at them gor like 5 min which would make them not comfortable
2007-11-03 12:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by Haya L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to make it clear that you are interested....flirt a lot or something
2007-11-03 12:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋