Is it possible for a man and a woman to be friends only?

Question

Now pleawe don't quote 'When Harry met Sally'! I'm talking about a man and a woman who keep in contact over a long period of time,say months or years...even though they don't live in the same area. They may not be in contact very often but the friendship still continues. I've heard it said that a woman can have a man as a friend only but a man always has a 'soft spot', I mean feelings of attraction for a woman he keeps in contact with. Is this true? Would love in particular to hear from the men on this one! Also, if a guy has actually kissed this girl at some stage and keeps in touch with her, isn't it more likely that he holds some desire for her beyone a brother-sister type of feeling?

Answer 1

I have tons of guy friends. some of them I think i am attracted to. some of them neither one of us is attracted to eachother, and the rest of them might be into me. I think it can happen any way. feelings or no feelings males and females can be friends. I am also friends with my friends boyfriends and i have no attraction to them either.

It's pretty obvious when someone has feelings they usually don't ever go left unsaid if the friendship continues to go on. There will be tension between two people that are just friends where one of them has feelings for the other. It is obvious I think so it's pretty easy to know when that is the case.

Answer 2

I beleive that women can interpret these relationships as friendships. Men not so much. I'm a guy and I have a lot of lady friends. Most of them I am attracted to and would definately get intimate w/ them if the opportunity arose. Now some of these women are married or in serious relationships and I respect that to the point where I have no desire to try to ruin their relationships or even see those relationships fall through on their own. At the same time, if these cute girls weren't so attractive, I probably would not be interested in maintaining the friendly relationship we share. I do have some lady friends who are single that I will not ask out. The reason for this is basically b/c I feel that I am capable of dating another woman who is more attractive (or may be in a romantic relationship w/ someone more attractive at that particular time) and therefore I won't make a move. I will say, though, that I make more of an effort to find time for and make plans w/ my lady friends who are more attractive. Some of these girls are friends that do live far away and we continue to keep in touch. I can't explain what exactly it is that compells me (and really most other men) to maintain contact/friendship w/ women we find attractive. I suppose there is the hope that if we're around eventually some sort of sexual sparks will ignite. Although realistically, I understand that the longer a friendship maintains plutonic w/ a woman, the more she is going to categorize me into the "no date zone." This may sound kind of sick, but I think part of it is just the self-esteem factor of associating w/ attractive members of the opposite sex. It's nice to be out in public w/ a hottie, even if it's definately not a date. Also, if I feel comfortable talking to and connecting w/ beautiful women (that are unavailable/friends), then that might improve my confidence and in turn my success rate when I ask out a beautiful woman that I meet who is single and who hasn't yet locked me into her "frienship zone."

Answer 3

It is definitely possible for a man and a woman to just be close friends. If you're friends with someone there's obviously attraction on some level, whether emotional, mental, physical, or a combination of the three. I think that a guy who has a t one point kissed a woman who later becomes a friend might from time to time remember that kiss and what you both could have been if you weren't friends. Then again it isn't unnatural for a guy to get over that and be content in just being friends. A soft spot must naturally exist in a man for a woman he at one time liked. Sounds like you don't want to just be friends with whomever you are talking about.

Answer 4

If there has been intimacy, like kissing, it very well may be more than just a friendship. I believe it is possible to be "just friends" and this keeps some distance between the two people physically. To be a friend, there has to be some level of attraction but there doesn't have to be a desire to kiss or cuddle or further. With your guy friends, for example, you may mess around and ruffle each other's hair or whatever, but of course you would feel no desire to kiss them or something, same with girls.

Answer 5

Yes it can happen but most of the time there is some underlying attraction between the two )Unless the other is physically challenged) What if you two were left on an isolated island for a year - would you bang eachother? That is the real question.

I personally have many lady friends (including close ones) but I would not mind hitting the sack with nearly all of them once in a while. It is human nature so you just need to accept the underlying feelings but it is easy to go no farther than friendship.

Answer 6

Yes if the man is gay. The woman may not know about the attraction but the man always does. The reason for this is not what you think.

It's actually more about guys who aren't interested. If a straight man/boy isn't interested in a girl, then subconsciously he does not want other women to see him hanging out with her. So most men avoid one-on-one friendships with women they are not attracted to, so they don't drive away a woman that may be interested. Logically speaking all that is left is gay guys and guys who have a crush on you.

Answer 7

Yes, but it doesnt mean they wont be attracted to each other. Just because you are attracted to someone it doesnt mean you have to act on it and when you dont and you stay close then your friendship will last.

If you kissed someone and she want to remain your friend but you have feelings for her then let her know because she might feel the same way and waiting for you to make a move.

If she brushes you off then she dont want that at the moment and if you can stand being around her knowing your not right for her then cool, if not cut her off and stop torturing yourself.

Answer 8

absoloutely i have a best friend who is female ? but .... and a big but !
we always end up arguing simply because of jealousy because we obviously have feelings for one another . but it isnt only gays who have girl friends this is so stereotypical the problem with all thoughs guys who feel that way is the fact that they think theyre too masculine to have a female buddy . If your truly connected with your innerself then you can do anything and not feel embarassed at all .

Answer 9

Yes I have a guy friend and he is going to get married. We have known each other forever because we live on the same street

Answer 10

This,, well is silly because 2 people (man & women) can just be friends alot of my friends are boys and we are always nothing more then friends its possible !!