I just recently moved out on about a year ago. I love everything about being on my own. The freedom, the fun, the being lazy. I met this girl and we have so much in common that we could almost be twins. We went on our first date last night, and I had a great time. But the whole day all I kept thinking about was, "Am I ready to settle down?" Am I ready to give this all up? Someday I know I want to find someone and have a family, but if I met this girl that I have so much in common with, shouldn't I be thinking, "Man I can't wait to go out tonight with her" but all I could think about is "Man I'm not sure I'm ready". Is 29 years old to young to start thinking about settling, or am I slowly settling into the life of bachelorhood. I would like to keep seeing this girl but I think she is already thinking of us being more. I'm not sure I'm ready for that. Anyone else out there not sure they are ready to settle?
2007-11-03 04:53:19 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are reading too much into it, you are not getting married yet, just go out with her and enjoy, but make that clear to her, if you are not looking for something serious....
2007-11-03 04:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At 29 he merely is familiar with a thank you to play "the sport" greater advantageous than you do. An hour and a nil.5 holiday time, the two procedures for a nil.5 hour of quite time spent with you... i'm sorry honey yet he's merely searching for a sprint... ya understand. despite if he did no longer attempt something this time, he's merely warming up the oven and taking part in jointly with your thoughts. Any guy in his previous due 20s with any experience of decensy does no longer date a 17 year old. (fantastically if he's married!!) in case you have been 27 and he grew to become into 39, it does no longer be such and subject b/c you're able to have greater existence journey. yet your present day project feels like a bad concept (with capital letters!). and despite if he and his spouse are "seeing different persons", you mentioned your self which you don't understand certainly if it is so... that, in of itself, could desire to be an excellent serious warning call that this guy does not take you heavily sufficient to be in a relationship with you.
2016-10-03 06:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by mehan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only been on one date, you like her, but why try to push it into anything more at this point? You can go out with her more, see how things go. If you decide that you really like her but are not able to "settle down" then that is just the decision you will have to live with. There is no "time" to start settling down. Everyone who pushes themselves to do it because they found a nice girl, or think it is what they "should" do, ends up getting divorced anyway. Live your life the way that feels best for you, and you will be happy. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks.
2007-11-03 05:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by lirpalynn39 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Look, i dont think you EVER really feel like settling down. the real issue is that when you meet someone who you think you could settle down with and be happy, thats rare, so whether youmeet that person at 20 or 30, you have to stop and think, am I likely to find someone more suited to me? if the answer is probably not (youre playing the odds of course) then go for it.
and contrary to the whole man-child culture we now live in, 29 is not too young to do anything.
2007-11-03 04:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by shightfuhk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You went on your first day with this girl and marriage is already in your mind? Wow, that is a big step. You have quite a bit of time before you should ask her or anyone to marry you. Take it slow. Go out with her, have your good times. 29 isn't too young to settle down, but nor is it too old!
2007-11-03 05:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by Brigit B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you are plenty old enough to consider settling down. I think what has you rattled is that you (yes you) are already imagining this relationship as being more, and you seem to really like this woman. Stop the what about the future thoughts, and focus on dating her. Have good times, and if she is the one that you are meant to settle down with you will become comfortable with the idea, but if not you won't. Give it time....both of you.
2007-11-03 04:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you just moved out a year ago you need more time to live life and learn about yourself before you can dedicate you whole life to another person.
Don't rush into anything, you can still see her exclusively without settling down..and if you fear the commitment, maybe you shouldn't see her yet if she has that effect on you :)
2007-11-03 05:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by britrob20 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't feel ready to settle down, then don't. It sounds like you've met a wonderful girl, and it wouldn't be right for you to make both of you miserable by gluing yourself to her when you don't want to be stuck.
Give yourself time to be her friend before you go beyond that. You'll be glad you did.
2007-11-03 05:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by Tigger 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
29 is only a number...the question is are YOU ready. If u marry too soo..u risk making yourself and wife unhappy because since you arent ready to commit you are very likely to be unfaithful. Go out..ahve your fun (use protection) but only get married when ure ready to give up bachelorhood.
2007-11-03 04:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
My sister just got married at 28, and now me and my b/f are thinking of getting married (I'm 23, he's 46!). Now I'm not saying that for the shock factor, but just that people get married at all sorts of ages. Don't feel pressured that just because you are reaching a certain age that you have to get married. Also, why does getting married mean you have to stop having fun!?? Find a girl who can have fun with you, even if you are married!
2007-11-03 04:57:32 · answer #10 · answered by S 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
time will soon move away from you and you will be in mid 30s and early 40,s by the time u had stopped thinking.
dint think much now, get settled sooner the better
2007-11-03 06:33:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋