This is the 3rd wedding for the both of us and I want to ask his first ex wife whom is my very dear and only friend since moving here 3 yrs ago, to stand up for me at our wedding. We all get along including the kids. Is this weird?
2007-11-03 04:49:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's different from most situations involving an ex, a new love and children. In some people's eyes it is weird...to me I envy it. I do NOT like the mother of my mans daughter. I tolerate her but by no means would i call her a friend.
If you truly value her as a friend...then involver her in the wedding. I think it is great that women and men can move beyond their past and make the life they currently have a happy and healthy one for all parties involved.
Good for you and your families..
2007-11-03 05:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Leticia,
It is not weird, it's stupid. How can you ask your future husbands ex-wife to stand up for you. Do you understand the feelings that will come out at the time of your wedding. Ex or no-Ex, every couple has their good time and bad times worth of memories, and weddings are the times when the good times just happen to pop-up in ones mind. Don't curse yourself by doing this. After that honey it is your decision and you know best. Don't open up can's of worms that you don't need. Good Luck.
2007-11-03 04:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by Simbha 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not if you all get along - however I would ask both your fiance and his ex wife separately and privately to be absolutely honest about their feelings and if either has hesitations I would find an alternative and just let it go.
2007-11-03 04:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not weird, nuts! With that many weddings under your bed already, why not skip your friend on this wedding and let her "stand up" at your next one?
Out of curiosity, does "stand up" mean bridesmaid, maid of honor, witness or what?
2007-11-03 04:58:33 · answer #4 · answered by Laredo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well just be careful cause they may be still having sex so it is hard to trust the ex's but, if you can trust and feel OK walking in on them without killing them (if,)they do get in bed together then keep it this way but, remember they did it once they may do it again.
sometimes it is best to keep her your best friend and not let them two be friends at all cause it will keep them from falling in love again. just a thought....good luck...PS it is your wedding do as you feel cause it don't matter what anyone else thinks......
2007-11-03 04:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if that's what you want. This is you and your fiance's wedding. If both him and her are okay with this and you all get along like you say you do, I see no problem with it. Congrats!
2007-11-03 17:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is odd. However. I believe it is possible for people to move on.. if he's cool and she's cool.. then why not.. but I hope you have a little age on you to be on wedding number 3
2007-11-04 15:32:25 · answer #7 · answered by wonka wonka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unusal, but it is also great for the kids. If she is truly your best friend, by all means, ask her to stand up with you and share in the happiness.
2007-11-03 04:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wouldnt you all find it weird for her not to stand up for you?
i think it shows you are all mature and adult about the potentially awkward situation. congrats on the wedding, an i hope it all goes well...
2007-11-03 04:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's how you want it. You all get along theres no hard feeling between the two of them, go for it.
2007-11-03 04:53:37 · answer #10 · answered by jzmom327 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋