im going to kill my sister soon!!! well, in my mind anyways....help please?

Question

its human nature to be protective right? i married a kind and calm man that never abuses me, and always loves me. i love him more than ever. apparently my sister can say the same. i have stated sooo many times that he's my husband and if she does anything that happens to take him away, its her head. heh, take away the serious attitude, im really insecure because my sister spends almost as much time with him as i do. at first i was ok with it, he's her new brother in law, might as well get to know one another. but i swear!! when we sleep in our bed, half the time i wake up and she's cuddling right beside him. im like WTH can't you get someone else? my husband doesn't really mind her, she doesn't really seem to bother him in anyway. but i feel like she's getting too close to MY husband and she had the NERVE to ask for a "friendly family hug" then she kisses him quickly right after saying "cmon its just a tiny kiss". im thinking about moving and just not telling her where we are. well?

she's 16, were im 20, he's 23

cr@p 17 sry

Answer 1

Yeah, I would say she's getting a little too close for comfort. You need to sit down and have a little chat with your husband and find out why he doesn't have a problem with your sister acting like that. It's not normal.

Answer 2

She acts so bad! Well, is there anybody that can take her away from you? I mean, can someone control her? Did you try to talk to her? Do it. Or, put someone other to do so. It might be a misunderstanding, but since you are annoyed, she should give up, this is a rule! But I am wondering with you... Are you married and you live with your sister? I think that you should buy a new house, you should have done when you got married. I am not sure about your budget, but it is very bad when this happens. If you don't feel comfortably with this solution (you are 2 and she is one actually),you could force her to move away, maybe in another city. And make sure that you won't accept her when visiting when your husband is around. Also, try to get her know some other guys, she must put her mind away from you, it is not a game, you are a couple! Good luck! ;)

Answer 3

Looks like a case of the little sister crush that all women eventually have with their other sibling..... I felt the same way and I advise that you nip it in th bud before it escalates, I mean, they're only human... not to give u any bad thoughts, but I mean, when ur married, spiritually, everything else is supposed to come second to ur husband, and her being in the bed with u all is not a good idea, much less to say, its kinda immature.... sit her down in a nice setting and explain to her that u guys are married.. ya da ya da ya.. and whether she likes it or not, she has to respect it because she can never give u the love that he does......

Answer 4

wow if my sister did that to my husband i'd first try to be civilized and ask her why she's behaving this way,and get your husband to tell her while your present that he isn't comfortable with her actions, if that doesn't help then i'd kick her butt and tell her if she wants to be recognized as your sister then she needs to get a clue and be more respectful towards you guys, flirting is one thing but cuddling and kissing is out of bounds, then id either move and not tell her where im at or change the locks on my door and not allow her over anymore how old is she anyways?

Answer 5

i think you should sit down and talk to her one-on-one. then bring your husband in and talk to both of them about whats bothering you and see if you can come up with something a little less drastic of moveing and not telling anyone where to.

but i have a question, is your sister living with you and your husband? why is she in the same bed as you guys? or have you just not moved out of your parents house yet? because these would be things me and others need to know in order to help you with your poblem.

Answer 6

Girlfriend, your sister and husband have serious boundary issues. Tell them both that your bed is a two person bed and that she is NOT allowed. If your husband has problems with that you have more than a pushy sister, you have a husband who is not committed to you. Your husband should tell HER that he is married to you and from now on he is kissing, hugging and snuggling YOU and you alone. You deserve his full attention!

Answer 7

hmmm....you know...in the past few years I realized, it is better to tell people outright what you have in your mind.....that way, you are saving yourself the trouble of lying or hiding things from the other person and not feeling guilty doing that.
I think it is time to have a chat with ur sis. If that doesnt help, move out. However, you dont have to hide from her as to where you are moving..... the distance then would itself sort things out!

Answer 8

omg im so sorry
but u didnt say how old your sister was and how old you are so i cant really say if your over reacting or not. cuz like if your sister is like 10 then you should have anything to worry about but if shes closer to your guys' age then thats wen it would be concerning. you know? but she IS your sister and just talk to her about how you guys need "alone time" between you and your husband i mean.

ADDED
ok well im 16 and maybe she just wants a guy to have some fun with cuz maybe she doesnt have any that hang out with her or like spend time with her. but yea idk maybe if she had a bf [if she doesnt already] she would be less clingy to him.
well yea. just a thought!

Answer 9

i think u should move she needs to get her own man and quite taking yours but you should tell her where you are because she is your sister and you dont want to completely destroy your relationship with her

Answer 10

change housing away from her or just move to another state