My daughter wasn't constantly held as a baby, but it seems lately these last 3 months all she wants is for me to hold her ...constantly and if i set her down she starts screaming and throwing a fit like if she was hurt. She will cry so hard she stops breathing for a second and then screams again. I am just curious if there are any suggestions on how to get her to play and sit alone on the floor without me having to constantly hold her.
2007-11-03 04:29:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I would hold her as much as you possibly can!! Get a baby carrier to make it easier, (I lvo e my mei tai!) but she's probably just going through something developmentally (emotionally?) that she needs a little more comfort. Don't worry about spoiling her! How can you emotionally spoil someone? ANd to clarify, this doenst mean hold her 24/7, but as much as you can reasonably do so. Does she like taking baths? Bathtime has been great for me when my children are too clingy!
When she starts throwing a fit I would recommend saying something like "You are upset. You want me to hold you." "I love to hold you, and I will again soon" Or something . I find with my children, tantrums are stopped as son as they understand that I understand. Then I can communicate my message to them. They grow so fast, its important to enjoy these days!
2007-11-03 05:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by Brie ; 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not breathing for a second and then breathing again is normal in any baby or child of any age. It doesnt mean a damn thing, other than theyre really upset.
If you dont want to have to hold her all the time you have to put her down and let her cry. Show her some fun toys, stay near her, encourage her with a song or some words, and leave her alone. Every time she cries and freaks out and you pick her up you're teaching her that she's right about wanting to be held, that she's not safe or entertained any other way.
Just because she was fine all along, until three months ago doesnt mean anything other than that she just figured out three months ago how to get you to pick her up whenever she wanted.
Give her some toys, show her how to play a little, stay near her while you're working on something else, and talk to her. She'll cry, gag, hold her breath, fall over, scream and all sorts of things- thats just what they do.
2007-11-03 04:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She is probably going through a faze. However, you do need to break this for both yalls sakes. You will need to let her scream it out sometimes, and eventually she will be able to cope with being away from you. I know it is hard. Just reassure her, give her hugs, and tell her good job for sitting on the floor. Do this slow, placing things in front of her she really loves. Play with her on the floor for a time and then walk off. Let her cry for a bit and then come back and reassure her. Let her cry no longer than ten minutes. After a while she will get the point and she will not cry when you leave because she will feel safe. This is the age when they began to realize everyone is different. It is normal, she just needs some work.
2007-11-03 05:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She has learned that she will get her way, or at least your attention if she holds her breath. As hard as it is just ignore that, she will not hold her breath any longer than passing out. No, I am not meaning to sound cruel, but that is the most that will happen and she will not do that for too many times. She is going through seperation anxiety that is normal for most children her age. It really just takes alot of patience, and keep in mind every time that you think about what you need or could be doing rather than holding her.....unfortunately they will reach an age where they will not speak to us, much less touch us. Soak it all in now, that way when she is older and we are the "embarrassing" ones you have these memories.
2007-11-03 04:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by tryin4freedom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I learned through my sister's daughter who is 4 months old, to just let them cry... u cant spoil a kid too much, but attention is a must in some babies and sometimes, u cant give it undivided; i suggest u put her in her swing or distract her of some sort and let her cry because crying will not harm her in any way.... the worst is that she'll fall asleep, but then I guess thats a good thing... just make sure she doesnt have a health problem of some sort causing her to constantly cry like that....
2007-11-03 04:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by Beauty07 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do it gradually, set her down and let her cry, try to find a toy or music or something that she likes a snack and let her have a little cry. Continue to do this all day, even giving her to someone else, she will get used to it, my son was the same way and he got over it. You have to wean them off of you, but still give them those cuddle close moments of the day as well. Good Luck, it's a hard one.
2007-11-03 05:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by fiona t 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is a phase that she is going through try putting her down and distracting her with other things like toys etc. if that doesnt work just leave her to cry as she will soon learn that you are not going to give into tempertantrums and will soon give up
2007-11-03 05:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
aww babies! my first was like that, you have to let them cry sometimes, its hard but they have to learn paitents and learning that at an early age is eaiser on them! i have twin boys and they had to learn paitents at birth! but the breathing thing is normal my girl did that to! its scary when they do that but they will learn it takes time but letting her cry for 3-5min is not a bad thing it makes stronger lungs!! (i heard)
2007-11-03 04:42:57 · answer #8 · answered by Ivana M. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋