How can i persuade mum to...?

Question

I have wanted a dog since i knew what one was and I am 13 now and my parents have never gotten one. Recently my mum heard that one of her friends jack russell cross' was having puppies so she told me and as you would expect, i got very exited. Ever since she told me i have been looking up about them etc and she keeps telling me " the more you go on, the more i don't want one!!" and it's really annoying because i can't help it! She keeps getting further and further away from us actually getting one despite me telling her about all the good things about them. Anyone know how i could maybe persuade her? or is there a small breed that would maybe suit us such as a west highland terrier? Help would be awesome :)

Answer 1

Your mum doesn't want one because she knows it will be her who will end up paying for it (vets, food, insurance, jabs, etc) and taking care of it (walks whilst you're at school, cleaning up its wee til its house trained, etc). The best way to reassure her is to prove with actions not words, how mature you are. Why not be a volunteer helper and/or dog walker for your local animal shelter. Once you've done that for a few months she will have to at least concede you are showing commitment and a mature approach. Plus you might meet a lovely dog there who is in real need of a loving home.

Answer 2

You could try asing your mums friend if you can go round and help look after the puppies when they are born. If you can be seen to do ALL the messy jobs that come with having a puppy (not just play with them and then moan when they piddle on your lap) maybe then you can show your mum you are willing to put in the work needed to take care of a dog. Also don't nag show her you are researching and still interested by borrowing books on dogs from the library and looking at websites.

Answer 3

Honey, stop nagging. That's what's ticking your mom off.

Now, I do have a suggestion: Since you've never had a dog before, find all the literature you can about taking care of them and study it. Often when people think they want a dog, they think of cute fuzzy puppies and don't think of things like walking them, come sun or rain. And they don't think of cleaning up the accidents, or getting the shots or having the dog fixed.

If you still want a dog, help your mom more around the house without being asked, and let her see you trying to learn about the dog you hope to get. Hopefully she will decide to go ahead and get the dog.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I went through the exact same thing when I was about 14,every time I'd talk to my mom I always brought up the subject of dogs.It actually got to the point of when ever she saw me,she'd say "don't even mention the D word".Any way for my 15th birthday she told me we were going to collect my birthday cake,when she actually brought me to the local rescue center,where I got my very first dog,a jack russell x pom.I named her Roxy.My b-day was in October and the July before that I did a weeks work experience at my local vets clinic,to show my mom that I'd try and learn as much as possible about dogs.I also volunteered at the rescue center.So why don't you try getting some work experience in a vets or your local rescue center or even helping a friend look after their dog.If your mom does allow you to get a dog,don't rush into it by getting the first dog you see.Think about whether you want a big or small dog,non-shedding,what energy level etc.
Good luck.
xxx

Answer 5

first of all - jack russells are one of the worse dogs to own - they were bred to be sent down rabbit holes and things to hunt and they still have this in them - they have a very ratty and agressive behaviour - ALL teriers are the same, trained or not!

secondly, a dog is a life long thing - they need feeding, vetting, excersise and alot of love and attention. your obviously gonna be at school most of the time - so obviously this dog will be left to your mum. you havent got any money coming on so how will you afford the VERY expensive vet checks? food? the basics a dog needs? and theres the what ifs! what if he gets ill? gets run over? vet bills are costly ranging from a couple of hundred plus (it cost just short of £100 to get our dog 'done') are you willing to pay these? can you train a dog? having a dog is like having a kid - its not easy.

stop nagging your mum - she obviously has already thrort all of it thru and knows that she is gonna be left with this dog she never wanted, its not fair on her and certainly not fair on a dog.

Answer 6

What a coincidence I am getting a toy small dog too try some of these: shih-tzu, papillon (my favourite!), yorkie and West highland white terrier.

I have only just persuaded my mum to get one. Try getting pictures of dogs and hnging them on the wall ( she can't get angry with you for doing up your room ) tell family members how much you want one so they will report it back to your mum, KEEP QUIET ABOUT IT IN FRONT OF YOUR MUM. Go out with friends walking their dogs, if you have any other pet in the house E.G goldfish, cats, budgie's ETC then take total care of them......

hope this helped good luck!!!

Answer 7

I know its hard, but your mom is sick of hearing about dogs. The best thing to do now is to stop talking to her about them but make sure she can see you researching them and studying up about dogs.

Also, I'll bet your mom used the old responsibility argument with you. This means that you have to take out the garbage, clean the dishes, ect ect. The best responsibility one is to go for walks by yourself. Then start inviting her and if she asks just say "I really like walking." Walks are a way to open up dog conversation in a neutral enviroment and with good cause (PLUS a bunch of good excersize for everybody).

Answer 8

You may really want one but your mum will probably end up feeding it, walking it etc. It really is a hard job especially house training!! What a drag for your mum to clean up after it. Lay off it for a while and wait a bit longer. You never know she might surprise you!

Answer 9

I know exactly how you feel, trust me, I wanted any kind of pet when I was younger, but my parents were adamant... they were not going to buy me one, FULL STOP! My next door neighbours' cat had kittens and they offered to give one to us, but 'no' was the answer my parents gave... I've always been annoyed at my parents for not getting me any pets, when one day my dad decided to buy me tropical fish!

I know how you feel, but try getting someone else to ask your mum, and ask her why she won't let you get a dog... then try to compromise and meet somewhere in the middle.

Good luck, hope you get your puppy!

Answer 10

well i hear u. im in the same position right now. y dont u just wait til her friends dog has her puppies. when the dog has her puppies then ask you mom if you and her can go see them. when u go there and see them ask the owner first if you could have one when they are old enough to be without their mom. then if she says yes which she probably will since shes your moms friend then ask your mom if you can keep one when they are old enough to be away from their mother and tell her that her friend said it was ok. most likely your mom will say yes.thats how i get stuff from my mom when i want it. hope it works. e-mail me and tell me the deets and what happened please.