I think that staying pure until marriage is a great idea, and I really WANT to stay pure until marriage. The only problem is, I don't know how to ask my parents for a purity ring. I am 13 years old, and my family is catholic. I love the Jonas Brothers, and this is where I found out about purity (promise) rings. No, I'm not just wanting to get one because they have them. I just think they are setting a good example for kids and teens and I want to follow that example. I really don't know what to say to my parents, because I already know just about everything about "The birds and the bees," but I don't know if my PARENTS know that I know everything. I think they know I know some things, but not all of it. So, I don't know what they would think. Somebody please help me by telling me what to say to them or how to bring this up!
Thanks!
2007-11-03 04:12:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First off I think it's a wonderful thing that you are waiting until you get married.That was the way God planned it...that's how it should be today.I am 20 years and I still wear my purity ring.Guys will ask what it means and I tell them that I am waiting on marriage.They have the up most respect that girls that still do that.Your parents I am sure will be very happy that you want to promise God,Yourself and them that you will wait until you get married.I can't think of any parent that wouldn't.You're 13 right? They would have to be blind to know that you don't know about "The birds and the bees".Come on...your 13...but it would look very mature if you went to them and say...This is what I want to do.Just sit them down one night and say I would like to give a commitment to God...and to y'all.I am sure they will understand.The best of luck! God Bless.
2007-11-07 03:17:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ashlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will be proud of you for making this decision. They were both 13 once and nothing you say will shock them. If you are afraid to say something to them out loud, Christmas is coming so write a Christmas list that says, something like: "I want a purity ring because I have come to understand what it means to stay pure until marriage and this would be a symbol to remind me of my promise to myself." Trust me, your parents will get you that ring and maybe even long before Christmas. Whatever way you tell them, don't expect an answer on the spot. You've been thinking about this for a while. Let them do the same.
It's normal at your age to think and know about sex, but your are showing maturity to think about the ring and its meaning and that would make any parent happy.
2007-11-03 04:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While the ring would be a good reminder to yourself of the commitment you've already made, is it really necessary to have that reminder in order to keep that promise to God & yourself? I commend you for consciously making this decision in your life, & I'm sure your parents will feel the same. Talk to them, & ask them if they agree with the example that wearing the ring would proudly state. If you present your case maturely, & without any sense of materialistic desire, how could they say no? Good luck, & may the Lord always be with you.
2007-11-03 06:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only hope that when I have children I have a daughter like you.
I think that's terrific!
Tell your parents that you want a purity ring because you think its really important to stay pure until marriage. Tell them that's what you've decided that you want to do. If you parents are Catholic, I'm sure they would be thrilled to hear that from their little girl. :)
Good luck and God Bless you!
2007-11-03 04:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say just tell them. I am a parent and I know that I would love to hear something like this from my children. There should never be anything that a child is afraid to talk about with their parents. Especially something as mature and well thought out as what you are talking about.
2007-11-03 04:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by dsi_samw 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speak to your priest and ask him to help you talk to your parents. A ring will not keep you "pure", you have to have the maturity to understand not only your own desires but how to cope with them. If you cannot remain "pure" without the ring, then your motives are questionable.
2007-11-03 04:18:24 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them. I'm sure they will support you in this and be proud of you!
Congradulations in taking steps to assure yourself a healthy and happy future!
2007-11-03 04:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just ask for one. It's not as if it's a bad thing that you want one. They should be happy you are making that choice.
2007-11-03 04:18:53 · answer #8 · answered by *Mz Ciska* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they will be so relieved you want to remain pure they will get it for you!
2007-11-03 04:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋