Should i be worried about my husband and sister?

Question

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my husband and my sister used to be really close, as in BF and GF. but me and him just got married recently and even then im still worried. she comes to our house everyday, i wouldn't tell her to leave, she's family, but they broke up years ago and now whenever she comes for breakfast, they'd always be fighting. as in really fighting! maybe he's just sipping his coffee and she'd come and make a rude comment about him and they'd fight. sometimes he'd start it, she'd be eating pasta or somthing and he'd make a "you'll get fat" joke, and they'd fight. useually its by the time our little girl goes to school, but if i turn my back on them just for ten seconds, he'd have her in a headlock and she'd be bashing him with a mug. they've also wrestled in our living room b4, now, just which way should i be worried? how can i just stop this, they both know how immature they're being but its like i have 2 more kids!!

Answer 1

I think it is time to sit down and have a talk with both of them!
You have a right to not be uncomfortable in your marriage or in your own home....
They may play it off as you being jealous or insecure, but let them know that you have feelings that are important and they need to respect you and those feelings if they are going to be a part of your life.
Take a stand! (in a loving and mature way)

Answer 2

She may be your sister but ANY relative or friend coming to the house of newly weds every day is too much. You need to tell her that she cannot do that anymore. Be firm and tell her once a week (or once a month) is her limit and keep lock your doors so she doesn't just walk in on the days when you haven't invited her over. (Actually, by letting her come over every day, she's rebonding with your husband and that will only lead to trouble. Wrestling with him is way over the line of what they should be doing together, especially given their history together.)

Then sit your husband down and tell him that you, he and your kids need time together alone in the mornings to bond as family and that you've told your sister she can only come over once a week/month from now one. Since they are acting like "kids" then you act like their mother and set some rules down. Then stick to your guns.

Answer 3

"they've also wrestled in our living room b4, now, just which way should i be worried? how can i just stop this, they both know how immature they're being but its like i have 2 more kids!!"

Your husband shouldn't be rubbing his body up against ANY woman except you. They still have feelings for each other, from the looks of it. I think it's always a bad idea for someone to marry their sibling's ex.

Answer 4

Okay, if my fiancee and my sister were wrestling on the living room floor, I would definitely be worried. It makes it even worse since they used to date. It sounds like to me that they have feelings for each other still. They both need to grow up and start acting like adults. My fiancee and my sister actually just tolerate each other and I think I like it better like that, especially after reading this!

Answer 5

I almost think they are still into each other and trying to cover it up. Talk to your sister about it but keep an open mind about what is said. maybe she needs to move on and find some one for herself. But if she would like to be with him will you let her is one question. If you do not want to add some one to your relationship thats ok, but tell her. If you do it will bring you all together and closer and the fighting will stop unless she likes it ruff. I Hope you all will get along and it works out for you three...

Answer 6

First of all, what kind of person are you?
I would never date or marry a person that my sister used to date or was married to. You should be ashamed of yourself. You are disgusting. That is just a line you never cross. Your sister is probably harboring some anemosity deep down because of you two. It sounds to me like even though the two of them are fighting all the time, they obviously have some unresolved issues between the both of them. LOL, how dare you say that you can't ask your sister to leave because you are family?? Did you think about the fact that you are family when you decided to marry your sisters ex? You are the lowest scum on the earth. I wish my sister would marry my ex. I would beat her black and blue. We'll my sister would never do such a thing, she loves me and has class. You obviously dont!!!

Answer 7

Get them a set of boxing gloves, & tell them to get it out of their systems once & for all, but don't let it happen in the house. Then there's another possibility.....as silly as this sounds, maybe this is a cover for other feelings between them that should REALLY concern you -- catch my drift?

Answer 8

If you have asked this before, why are you asking again?

If you want to keep your husband and save your marriage then tell your sister to stay at home. You know very well what is going on.

Answer 9

why in the world did you marry someone your sister used to date? there is problems right there....

why does she come over for breakfast all the time? personally i think they have still issues and by them seeing each other it is just going to bring out the bitterness or perhaps more between the two of them.

in all honestly, your sister shouldnt be coming over all the time like that.....to me (knowing how girls are) she is coming over to be seen by him. i dont care how long ago it was when they broke up.....none of it sounds right.

this is not a normal relationship for the three of you. they should not be wrestling around like that either.

i would be afraid to know if this is ever going to become more then what you wrote. i'd be afraid of old feelings coming back around.

i would kindly ask your sister to respect your wishes and not act like that and not come over as much (especially if all of a sudden she comes over a lot more then what she used to).

Answer 10

They shouldn't be hitting each other,what I mean fighting can lead to other things. They just shouldn't be the in the same house together.