OK - so I am 35 with 2 children. There is a guy who is 26 who wants to date me. Honestly I am not sure about it. I used to feel that I should stick to my own age group. Unfortunately for me - the guys that I have been out with only want one thing. If they say differently they end up being lairs. I have had it with dating...then he messaged me. He is a friend of a friend, that is how he found me. We have chatted a few times. He says there is something about me and I feel that there is something about him........Not sure what to do at this point. Should I or not? I don't want more kids and that is a potential issue. I don't care if he has them tho. I just want to know what other people think too.
2007-11-03 03:35:16 · 17 answers · asked by Anna F 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would just tell him you want to be friends only. You want to get to know him slowly right now. If, down the road, you both want more than the friendship, then you can decide to date or not. That way you won't be hurt and you will have gotten to know him more and know if you want to date him or not. It is nice to be admired. Give the friendship a chance, it might turn into more, in the future.
I am 40 and my boyfriend is 7 months younger. We were friends for almost 2 years before we started dating. We got to know each other first. We have also both decided, no physical relationship unless we get married. We don't want those emotions to get in the way of getting to know each other. I know that I love his passions, his kindness, his caring, and his generosity. He is funny and I love doing things with him. We keep busy. He works different days and hours than I do. We see each other about 3 days a week. We talk more than that. We both believe it is ok to do things that do not involve each other. We communicate. Honesty is good too. We both have the same moral beliefs and both are Christians. We know we want to date each other. He is a bit slower than me in making those type of decisions. I was ready before he was.
Take it slow and have fun getting to know him better.
2007-11-03 03:42:47 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going out on a date doesn't have to mean a life long commitment. Depending on the ages of you children, you may not want to introduce this young man to them unless you see your relationship going someplace. Do you want to find a mate or just someone to have fun with? It won't hurt to get to know this guy. You can't know what he is like until you spend some time with him. The subject about children, future plans, and the such do need to be addressed but not necessarily on the first date. Hope things go well and have fun.
2007-11-03 03:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by lilbitsanantonio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there. didnt work out for me, as he ended up just being a bit too young in some matters. very interesting man, and we had a wonderful time together, but he was still in "dating" mode, not settling down with one person for the rest of my days mode.
i dont think you can say definitely yes or no depending on his age, as some people can be mature enough, but generally speaking, be careful about investing too much energy and emotion with this age bracket.
OK, having said that, my husband is 6 years my junior, im 37, he is 31, and we met 2 years ago. he is mature enough to have an adult relationship with, and we have just had a child together. he loves my 7 year old and treats her as his own. its a bit of pot luck i guess. only you can learn if this man can be an important part of your life
2007-11-03 03:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by scary5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have two children, guys in your age bracket know that your kids will ALWAYS come first. This is not a judgment, just a fact of dating a single mother.
A 26-year-old has not yet learned that lesson. Trust your instincts, but know this is temporary, because he'll soon grow weary of the complexity and logistics of your children.
2007-11-03 03:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you still care about what people think, then you're as immature as the 26-year-old. When you stop caring about what people think, then that is when you know you are happy. And isn't that the keyword - happy? Do you feel happy with him? If yes, then why all this verbal nonsense? Don't worry about the future - live for now.
2007-11-03 03:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by teeveejunky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't deny your feelings! Who knows, you might be able to have a rewarding, lasting relationship together! Love comes in strange disguises. My fiance and me are 12 1/2 years apart age wise and our relationship has been the easiest, most caring relationship I have ever been in. Give it shot, listen to your heart on this one!
2007-11-03 03:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by handlebar knocker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All different issues being equivalent, the guy will in a lot of cases pick the most proper woman and the female will in a lot of cases pick the richest guy. youthful females have a tendency to be hotter. and because it in a lot of cases takes your time to receive or legally inherit wealth, a lot of time you spot the age distinction. it is not any longer our faults that our search for for a mate is so superficial. we are socialized to be this kind, at the same time as jointly pretending it is deep with make have self assurance such issues as unconditional love and soul associates.
2016-10-23 07:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just date him and see how it goes. Start off slow with some dinner dates. The more you spend time with him, the more you'll see if he's someone you'd want to persue.
2007-11-03 03:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take one step at a time. You're rushing things through your mind. OK, he's interested and so are you. Go on a date, get to know each other, take it from there.
2007-11-03 03:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you are even asking, he is not 16, he is 26 & that is a man in my eyes.
2007-11-03 03:39:02 · answer #10 · answered by wha-happened@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋