This is for a friend from college who's getting married next weekend. We haven't seen eachother in about 2 years. During college, we hung out only a few times so it's not like we're very close or anything. I've been to a reception at the same place before and I think the per plate cost is about $110-120. How much is appropriate to give? ps- I'm bringing a date.
2007-11-03 02:18:52 · 42 answers · asked by mdel 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
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2007-11-03 18:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by vicki d 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it would be crass of the bride and groom to look at how much they spent on the reception and assume that your gift should somehow reciprocate for that. They are inviting you. It should be their pleasure to have you there. As to a gift, give what seems right to you. You probably have to buy an outfit and travel to the wedding too, so attending weddings can, all by itself, get expensive. If you are still young, you can spend $30-50, especially if you don't know then well. If you have been out working for 20 years in a professional capacity, you might want to spend a little more.
2007-11-03 02:24:15 · answer #2 · answered by neniaf 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't base my decision on the per plate cost, but then again, I would hope my guests would bring a gift that I would like not one that cost as much as my contribution to their dining. So...A fine crystal bowl, something with elegance written all over it, is a good gift, but you do not need to spend the equivalent of your dinner consumption on their gift. Many of my artsy friends bring special creations for the new couple, I am certain those are worth more to the newly married than fancy linens and certainly the cost wasn't close to the cost of the meal provided. So pick your decision point. Enjoy the party.
2007-11-03 02:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by b w 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should give how ever much you feel comfortable giving or how much you would like to give.
My wedding is in april and our plate cost per person is 15.95. Does that mean that people shouldn't buy anything that costs more? No, my mom just bought my fiance and I new bed as our wedding gift. It doesn't matter. In fact i've never heard the whole "your plate cost is XX.XX you should spend the same amount."
2007-11-03 04:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
eat a big hardy lunch from Mcdonalds and use that money to get her a cheap gift. I dont why people expect so much from others. give what you can. are you serious!110.00 a plate! i hope that it lasted you the month. i barely get 200.00 a month for foodstamps! must be nice and my wedding was only 300.00 and im happily married with some kinks but wow! money is too evil and friends who expect this. no matter how long its been friends should understand and forgive.
2007-11-03 02:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by ???? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't go buy cost per plate. Its ridiculous.
You give however much you can afford without being short of cash for everyday activities.
$50 is always a nice number.
2007-11-04 07:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whoa! $110 per plate? that's insane. i guess if she felt close enough to invite you, you should return the favor. if you don't feel like spending that much (or don't have that much to spend) get a gift instead. she most likely has registered in a few places. check out the registry. you are likely to find some cheaper items there and since they are on her list, they will be appreciated. when you get to the store, check to see if any of the registered items have gone on sale since she registered. if she isn't registered, buy her a gift that is really nice, but also on sale. that way it looks like you spent a lot without really breaking the bank on an acquaintance.
2007-11-03 02:30:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
you should give as much as you can afford. if you are doing it tough, just get her something small. its really not going to matter 10 years down the track, and to be honest, your friend may not even remember what you gave her after all the hoo ha from the wedding settles down. if you are doing nicely financially, then buy something that matches the "plate price" in dollar value. enjoy the wedding, and reconnecting with your friend. she obviously has fond memories of your time together enough to invite you after all these years.
2007-11-03 02:47:03 · answer #8 · answered by scary5 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've heard from someone who spent an enormous amount of money on their wedding that it is customary to give atleast what your dinner costs, so by that standard $250 would be the rate.
In my circle of lower middle class family and friends, I adjust the amount to how close I am to the couple. If it's a casual acquaintance, I feel I am just there as a church/reception filler and give $100 (I have a husband) without regard to how much they spent. Very close friends and family, I would give probably $500. Then, the rest could be anywhere in between, never with regard to how much they spent. That was their decision.
2007-11-03 02:29:59 · answer #9 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Honestly, if you can just buy something safe with the cash, like a gift basket or set of towels, that's the best to do. Second suggestion is to give a gift certificate for the new bride and groom to buy whatever they want from a home store or a department store, but if you really want to give them cash or a check than I suggest you should give at least 200 which is pretty much like paying for you and your date's meal in that place.
2007-11-03 02:28:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋