I have been babysitting these kids since july, first i started watching all 3 kids ages, 9-6-1. plus i have a 3 yr old and 9 month old. I watch these kids 7 days a week from 2-12am. Well now im only watching the 1 yr old monday-friday. but on the weekends i have all three. i only get paid 15 dollars a day for the 1 yr old and 25 dollars a day for all three. The one yr old is bad. biting my kids, hitting them, it is soo bad my 3 yr old is picking up the behavior. and im tired of it. the 1 yr old is also always sick and not had a bath in awhile. my kids are always getting sick. i want to quit but i dont know how to tell her. she is my husbands cousin. so he is related to the kids. Help!
2007-11-02 22:07:21 · 15 answers · asked by crystal 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
You are clearly fed up. Give her 1 months notice. She clearly will have to make arrangements for childcare. She may not be able to afford it. You can not and should not be responsible for raising her children.
But don't just quit. Give her a month's notice, open up your calendar and be very clear. One December xx, that will be our last day. Invite her over for Christmas dinner or whatever you normally do. Just be clear that it will end.
She may complain about the cost but don't worry. It is her problem, not yours. Be firm with a smile.
2007-11-03 01:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by momeeeof1 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your husband first about the same issues you posted here. Hopefully "he" will be the bearer of bad news for his cousin and tell her himself that YOU can't watch these children anymore. Hope this helps some. IF he doesn't tell her then your only option is to talk with her. Tell her how you feel and that your child is picking up behaviors that you don't like. When family is involved it's never a "simple" solution.
2007-11-03 01:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by OMGiamgoingNUTS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that you have decided to pursue some other job options and you wont have time to babysit anymore. its understandable that she is your husbands cousin, and you want to spare her feelings, but there is no point in you being miserable and being paid slave wages for watching these children. where i am from, one child 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, in day care costs about $245. so this woman is definitely taking advantage of you.
2007-11-02 22:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by Bamafan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*** that!!! Tell her that you dont have enough room in your car and you want to start getting your kids out the house more often. Tell her that your kids are expressing to you that they dont get enough time with you, you dont owe her an explination and your husband needs to understand that you need a break. He is secretly wishing you didnt want to keep all of those rugrats anyway and he cant wait until you quit to be honest with you!!!! Give her a 1 week notice, and thats it. ITs time you PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN!!
2007-11-02 23:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lovely 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...
I would tell her that the schedule is rough on your little ones and it seems that since you started watching her children your children are getting sick a lot. Tell her you can watch them for the next week or two but you can't continue to watch them after a certain date.
2007-11-03 03:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jacob's Mommy (Plus One) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could either be honest or say that you are finding it difficult to cope, that you need a break away from kids and want to try a new job. Be nice, say I don't want to drop you in it so I'll give you a months notice to find alternative arrangements. Don't feel bad, she is getting child care for peanuts from you.
2007-11-02 22:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by Heather B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and just say they are too much for you to keep babysitting them.
I honestly don't know how you have been doing this for so long. I would be exhausted to say the least. if you don't need the money then i would say to the lady you need some "me" time now. I think you do...... Good luck
2007-11-02 22:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by i love my garden 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just tell her it has become too much for you that you will watch them til she finds some one else but really are feeling overwhelmed, so is 2 weeks long enough? make sure you put a time limit or you could be in for trouble
2007-11-03 04:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that it is getting too much for you and you can't handle it. You shouldn't have to put up with that behaviour. I babysat children who used to kick, punch, scratch and swear at me. In the end I told their mother and told her I wouldn't be able to continue looking after her children.
You should perhaps tell her what they have been doing, if you feel confident, if not, just resign.
2007-11-02 22:12:12 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you should tell her that watchin her kids keeps you from having quality time with your kids and you need a break and if its possible find her a replacment babysitter someone you know that doesnt mind doing it.
2007-11-02 22:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by sprinklz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋