I am 19 and my boyfriend is 27 we have been together for just about a year. Before me he was with a 30 year old for just under 4 years. They were having issues so he left her and immediately persued me. anyways about 3 months into our relationship he confessed to me on his own that he cheated on me with her, i forgave him because he seemed sincere in his apology and i love him. He hasnt cheated since but she still calls him (i know this cuz he tells me) and it bothers me when she does call.. so i called her once to tell her i would appreciate it if she left us alone, and my boyfriend got mad at me for doing that. he says she is only a friend now and nothing more and he likes to keep in her girls lives (which are not his) since he was there for them for years. This girl is psycho and even tried showing up at my work to talk to me, i hate that he talks to her, but am i right in thinking that? or should it be ok he still talks to her? i need help...
2007-11-02 21:50:06 · 5 answers · asked by lvblonde76 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats a tough call ...
I am still in contact with a lot of my ex's and my husband knows them too, he's okay with me talking to them, and i've never cheated on him..
The reason i am still in contact with them is because they are all really nice guys and i like them (not in that way though).
I never call any of my ex's but they call me when things are tough. Like, I'll get a phone call from an ex when his loved one died, when a loved one cheats on him, when he feels depressed because his wife left him etc and i'll support him over the phone (never in person).
i know that what i am doing is alright. my husband supports it and understands completely. He knows all about it, no secrets.
so i guess it's a matter of working out what you and your boyfriend are comfortable with. your partner comes first, then your family, then your friends, then everyone else. that's how i see it anyway.
if your partner isn't okay with something, change it. so in this case, if you aren't happy or comfortable with him being in contact with his ex, he should be able to respect that and explain to the ex that she needs to find someone else to call when times get tough.
if he loves you, he'll want to make you happy. and put you before all others.
i wish you all the best xx good luck
2007-11-02 21:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by chilly 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG I can so relate my BF's ex kept calling checking our myspace pages everyday and asking people if she was as pretty as me she even sends his mom email.!!! I told my bf he needs to do what he has to do to avoid or stop her contact or that is is becasue it was becoming too much and it stopped
Be patient girl and hang in there fight for your man
She will wear down
2007-11-03 04:59:24 · answer #2 · answered by In LOVE with KNOWLEDGE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a guy, he still likes the other girl also.
2007-11-03 04:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by Neil 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they still are friends, but you might want to set boundaries, because if my girlfriend's ex came to my workplace, I'd be kinda freaked.
2007-11-03 04:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by Trainwreck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't tell her to leave he is probably involved with her. Maybe not physically, but he is enjoying her company. To me that is the same thing. Tell him to leave her or you are leaving.
2007-11-03 04:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by ADAM S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋