I have been talking to this girl on aim for a year and a half and in that time I have seen her twice once at her work and once at a craft show for her sister both time she ran off to the bathroom when she saw me. The last time I saw her was 11 months ago and I since tried to hang out with her she says she wants to hang out with me but find reasons not to. I told her if she doesn’t want to see that’s cool but she says no that she wants to see me? She loves to flirt sexy pics ECT. I just wanted to hang out as friends and see were things go if nothing but friendship then fine I am not looking for sex I am waiting till marriage and have told her that many times. So I stopped talking to her cuz I just got sick of it all. Two weeks ago she text me saying should come over to her house.
I ignored it then I got on Monday saying that she did something that would make me proud and she would tell me if I responded. Then Tuesday she call me on my cell (which I left at home) and text me saying
2007-11-02 20:01:55 · 13 answers · asked by . 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
“why wont you ever answer to me”.
The back story with her is that she is 19 her parents are divorced .The dad cheated and got another girl pregnant. The dad was never there for her before and after the divorced.She was in a long distant relationship with a guy that wanted her for sex only for over a year. They broke up last year. Since then she has gone out with many guys all who she met online .And all of them have been jerks( her words) and just wanted sex and she knew that before going out with them. She just got new bf a 3 months ago who she met on hot or not (dating site).
She told me I know her better then her best girl friend that she has known for years. And better even then her sister. For some reason She cares what I think about her. She wants me to be proud of her and I have no idea why.
I hate not talking to her I feel like I am letting her down but she drives me crazy I both love and hate her.
2007-11-02 20:02:21 · update #1
The thinhg is I knew when I was a little kid ( I am now 26) that I was going to meet someone just like and help her . I feel like god is telling me to do this. I am just a shy loner never been on a date ( I have been asked). I am not sure if I am wanting to think that it's god tell me to help and not me making myself think this.
2007-11-02 20:05:48 · update #2
I wish more guys were nice guys like you seem to be.
Maybe she wants what she can't have. She had your attention, and hid from you. Now she has a boyfriend, and you're ignoring her, and now she feels the need for your attention. This could possibly, psychologically, stem from her parents' divorce, and he wanted approval and attention from multiple parties.
She could also just be creeped out by the whole online thing. Maybe you could agree to meet her in a public place when she's out with her girlfriends or something?
Best of luck. God will sort it all out and do what's best for you both in the end. :)
Edit: Also, are you much older than she is? That could freak her out a bit, and could also explains why she's seeking your approval: you're like a new father figure.
2007-11-02 20:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Furr. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know for sure, but the internet seems to be a way to feel popular with some women. It's like some guys are an ornament for their ego. That's the way I feel anyway. It's like I'm an ornament to garnish her life, never anything real. I might as well be a doll in a doll house; imagined romance.
So move on dude. She's not capable of being honest with herself, and you will always feel that way with her. Until she deals with her issues, you will feel like someone who's tagging along.
If she is rich, figure that to be times ten. Rich girls like 'stuff'. And for the guys who have to endure these things, welcome to being a 'thing'.
2007-11-02 20:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well pray on it for a while and ask GOD, it may take time but He will answer you in some way. In the mean time talk to her, see her, but dont give up just yet wait to see what GOD has in store for you. Good luck brother
2007-11-02 20:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by timothy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on before you get hurt. She doesn't want to be with anybody right now and she is just messing with you it's not worth it man.. If you be patient you will find a nice girl. Don't worry man it's like i always say there is alot of fish in sea
2007-11-02 20:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a long talk with her and meet with her to talk about her feelings ect. But she sounds nice I think you guy are going to turn out well.
2007-11-02 20:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jarjar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her like a father figure.She wants guidance from you.
Tell her when shes screwing up and tell her when shes doing good,She looks up to you.This is the only way to handle this situation.
2007-11-02 20:05:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When two people want to be together, it's simple.
When things are this complicated, you'd be better of finding another girl.
2007-11-02 20:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by kowloon_girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a Christian, you should only date Christians. Otherwise you will end up hurt.
2007-11-02 20:10:09 · answer #8 · answered by Apostle Jeff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go she sounds one crazy mixed up kid.
2007-11-02 20:07:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you ned to do is figure out what going on with her. yuor story is confusing to me
2007-11-02 20:07:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋