Should I be trying so hard?

Question

Well im a single mom at 19 and I get alot of negative attention from EVERYONE! I feel like I have to prove myself to other women who have kids who are much older than me. I have a harder time because im a full-time student taking 8 college courses I have a six month old who is blind and who also attends school which I have to supervise and Im going back to work.

Should I try so hard? I really want to finish school and obtain a well rounded education but this really ticks other moms off who are stay at home moms with little to no education.

Answer 1

Well I am still in shock from what I read, but I smooth it over with the understanding that you have only been on the planet 19 years, that makes your words a bit easier to take.

Some of your words make you very transparent, it is very aparent that you don't understand what it means to be a Parent.

the main body of your question used so many I's were they truely Eyes, you would be the MONSTER with 10,000 I's , whereas if you gave your child the time and consideration your child really deserves, that child would grow up to think their mommie had Eyes in the back of her head :)

so okay, this is America and in this country you can do as you choose, Go get your ROUNDED EDUCATION, but don't put down Real Mothers who know something you don't, what is it that those Mothers with little or no education,, as you so cruely, arrogantly and childishly phrased it, know that you don't know? it's this ,, Mother is the name on the lips of children for GOD and that it is far better to have earned the title of MOTHER than any degree from any university, for while we may one day, have to address you as Dr.Suchy MUCH , or Dr.Big WIG with the rounded Education,simply because you mastered the art of keeping a #2 pencil sharp on test day, circling those multiple choice questions you remembered the answers to,, I am sure there are those of us who will always hold in Higher Esteem, a Mother who sacrafices ALL for their Child....

I wish upon you Compassion, Wisdom and an UNSELFISH HEART before your journeys end....

Answer 2

You are a single parent, and really you have no choice but to do so that you can provide for your child. It makes it even harder for you because you have a handicap child. I have an Autistic son. I am married, and I am a stay at home Mom. I have a hard time even though my husband is here to help. I could not imagine what you are going through right now. What you need to do, is not worry about what other people think. You need to provide for your baby. You cannot do that working at Dillards are Burger Kind. You need your education, and I know it stinks, but it does mean less time with your child.

I am sorry that you are dealing with all of this. I wish I could give you a great big hug and babysit your child myself. However, your child needs the schooling so he she can learn to cope and live with being blind. Sometimes as parents we cannot do those things. I know I do not know how to train my Autistic son, so he went to school at age three. He is seven now. He is doing well.

I hope everything works for you.

Answer 3

I am a soon to be first time mom at 35. I just wanted to say that don't listen to what anyone says or does because of your age. Better yourself and do it now. A good friend of mine is finishing her masters. All she keeps saying is that she should have done it when her daughter was young (she had her at 17)
If you have the means to educate yourself then do it, in the long run you will be happy you did. Who cares what the other moms say- find other support groups that moms will actuall encourage you to be the best you can be!

Answer 4

Those moms can honestly shove it! You are doing amazing for your situation and I know it doesn't mean a lot coming from a stranger, but I'm proud of you! I know how much it sucks to get all negative attention from other moms, I was 15 when I had my oldest daughter. I continued going to school and went onto graduate college, I found the same thing from daughter's friends parents who all seemed to resent my want to finish school rather then stay home. They'll get over themselves, you should only do what you think is the right thing for you and your baby, thats whats important not what the other moms think.

Answer 5

As a mother of 3 v(the first being born while I was 19) the best advice I can give you is....Do what feels right to you. Listen to your instincts and follow your heart. Forget about what other people thing and do what feels good to you, and what works for your baby. I wish I knew this when I was a new mother. Have fun with your child because they grow up so fast. Cherish your time together and always be thankful that she/he is in your life.
Peace
GG

Answer 6

I say go for it! Your education is a must for a better job, some day. I would even try some kind of college or community college. I know right now it is such a struggle to make ends meet. But, the more education you get, the more it will help you in the work field. Don't listen to others! Go for it!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I no the feeling I had my daughter when I was 18 and I was single when she was 2 months old so I had to go back to work, they woman in my family were upset by it. But you have to do whats right for you. My daughter is now in 2nd grade and i'm probaly the youngest mother of the class I dont even talk to any of the other moms in the morning when I drop her off!!

Answer 9

Yeah they are mad. You know why??? Because they are jealous! You have ambition and you are making your dreams come true. To them, you look like your winning a race they aren't able to compete in because they stay at home and have dull boring lives. You are doing something that they can't and it bothers them. If you can swing it, then keep it up! Finish school, work, and take care of your children. You will earn so much respect from everyone (you already have mine!)

Answer 10

If you think you can HANDLE the work load you're carrying- then ForGET about what the other Mom's think- & GO FOR your Education! Obviously you want more of a "Life" than they do... -& if trying Hard & Succeeding gets you what YOU want, then your Son will see your example & make something of HIMSELF- as well. It's YOUR Life- so make the MOST of it!!! -And Good Luck! :)