I hate my mom?

Question

I'm 14, and my mom and I don't seem to get along at all! Like she always finds away to be pissed off about something stupid, and she just talks to me like I'm a baby, and I don't act like one. She can't seem to say a sentence with out the word fuc*, *****, s!hit, and what else. And she is always in my bussiues and I wish she would just get the fuc* away. I'm not trying to sound like a ***** but I am just really upset and have been depresed lateley. What should I do?

look I'm sorry, i have bad spelling and the spell checker found no mistakes, and please dont insult me

oh yea anf to teh people that asked about my dad, we are ok we moslty get along

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Answer 1

Talk to a friend. Vent it all out by doing positive things. Do community service, join clubs at school. Try getting distracted and do stuff outside of home. Also, you need to keep your cool- it's the best way to be cool with your mom. Just walk away when she's mad, and talk to her once both of you are calm. I know what you're going through, I've gone through the same thing, except in my case, I'm dealing with cultural clash.

Answer 2

Sounds like every 14 year old. I went through it too. My mom was critical about everything and over protective. hurtful things were said and I regret some of them. you can't take back what you say. Be the bigger person and the more mature person. Forgive and try to forget. Get over it in other words. You will love her in "6 years" as was said earlier. Maybe your mom is stressed. She does love you, you know. That is why you should be thankful that she is in "your business" whatever that may be, cause you are only 14. What is so private anyway? You should not be having sex, drinking, driving, doing drugs, partying hard, or anything that your mother should not know about. Let her into your life, cut the attitude, and you will develop a better relationship with her. I wish someone had told me to get over myself when I was 14. I sure thought i was the bomb. Now i look back and see that my mom was only trying to be a good parent. Why not ask her what she needs help with and forget about yourself a little?

Answer 3

I feel for ya, really. Is there a certain time during the evening perhaps when she and you are calmer, less emotional? You need to catch her in a calm clear moment and tell her you want to talk to her about how your are feeling and that it is a very serious talk you want to have with her.
Tell her that when she talks to you like you are still a child, you feel snubbed, put down and talked down to. Tell her that when she cusses at you, you feel abused and a bit frightened at the anger she is showing you. Tell her that when she gets upset and pops off at you, that you feel like you are not being treated fairly and that you are basically feeling like your needs are being ignored.

Good Luck! You can only control your own behavior, and you can't predict how your Mom will react to this kind of discussion, but if you approach her respectfully and calmly, maybe you can get some things out in the open so that you both can deal with the depression you are feeling, okay?

Answer 4

Get help!! I know it sounds weird and to a 14 year old I bet this sounds really lame, but if you are writing it sounds like you care a bit, so get help, ask her in a letter to sign you both up for a talking session or even a bitching session with a councelor, they have low discounted councelors at universities or throught the county, etc. I had the same relationship with my mom and I wish we would've got the appropriate help, because i ended up in some bad situations because we couldn't communicate well, my dad wad also not around so we should've got help just because of that. or talk to another family member that will listen and maybe relay your thoughtd to her. Good luck and hang in there, moms usually never steer you in the wrong direction unless they need medical attention which then is another reason to get help.

Answer 5

Talk with a relative that's close to your Mom.That person can possibly help you to understand why your mother is dealing with things in this way,& maybe help you to resolve some of the issues.Be careful that you don't pick-up some of the habits you say your mom has...Such as (re-read your question)At your age,many kids have problems with their parents because the kids feel their old enough to run their own lives,& the parent feels your not ready to do that.Remember,your considered an adult at age 18,so until then your mom is head of househlod & your part of that until your out of the house,supporting yourself.Be easy on her...it's very difficult being a good parent...LOL

Answer 6

Sounds like you're having a bad day. Maybe your Mom is too. Try talking to your Mom. Maybe she just needs someone that will listen to her bad day. I know it's hard to believe, but your Mom was 14 once. She obviously feels that she made some mistakes when she was your age and she doesn't want you to follow that path.
Don't worry about it too much. Every teen feels somewhat crowded by their parents in one way or another.
At your age I was getting yelled at by Mom to get out and go to the movies or hang out with friends. I tore my knee up and became a bookworm. So, I was always at home. I guess my Mom needed some time alone. It'll get better.

Answer 7

hate is a very powerful word, Why don't you turn things around on her, over the next 3 to 4 weeks every time see acts like the ways you describe, try responding," Mom. I love you too. " and no matter what she says, always respond that way,
after 3 or 4 weeks I think you will see a big difference in her ways.
Depression is not to be taken lightly, if you don't notice a change in your mother after 3 to 4 weeks, you have better talk to a counselor at school, and let him know what is going on.

Answer 8

It is not OK to hate your Mom.
It sounds as though she is not being an adult by swearing at you. That is not OK under any circumstances.
She does have a right to be "in your business" she is your mother and you are 14.
You should try talking to your Mom and go and see a family counselor together.
Don't let things get out of control. A mother and daughter relationship is one of the most rewarding that you can have.

Answer 9

My mom doesn't let me do anything I want to do.When I want to play computer all she say is close it down,if I don't she close the computer herself.I know how you feel.an also my mom also say the word ***** a lot to me when I didn't do anything wrong.I hate my mom too.I am 16 years old and just 2 more years I am off from my parents.My parents is so annoying too.When I use the cell phone she doesn't let me.When I am in the bathroom she doesn't knock and she just come in the bathroom.The clothes that I love so much she dump it and the clothes I hate a lot she make me wear it!!! I hate my mom!!!But I like your question hope you feel better!

Answer 10

Since your young, you will think your mom is the worst person in the world, it's because you don't understand her. in a few years you will love your mom. when I was your age I used to say that too. I used to say how I hated my mom, and that she's a *****. but now that I grew up I don't think I can be the woman that I am today without her. I love my mom so much. And one day I hope you can feel the same way too.