My daughter rellocated to a new classroom because hers was overcrowded, and I get a very pedophilesque vibe from her new teacher.
What do you think, have you ever felt this way? Do you think it's rational? How did you deal with it? Should I move to another teacher?
2007-11-02 17:46:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Yep move her, mothers instinct, it doesn't matter what proffession they are its something you can't be too careful about.
When the new doctor put my son on his knee (i thought that was odd) and rubbed his leg that was enough for me.
Its not right,(my son was 2)
I have met quite a few in my day (mother was a perfect target)
if you are unsure just do it to ease your own mind, better to be overreacting and have nothing happen than go against your better judgement and regret it.
safe keeping
2007-11-02 17:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Could it be that this is your daughter's first male teacher and you are weirded out by the fact that a man is teaching young kids?? It is still strange to me to see so many men teaching, but it's a reality. My son has 4 male teachers and a male principle and he's in 1st grade! How many times have you met him? Have you seen him teach?? Have you seen him at recess interacting with the other kids? If you haven't then I would suggest you go to the school and watch what goes on before you make a decision.
If you do feel strongly about it then talk to the councelor. Don't tell her that you get a 'perv vibe' from him, but just tell her that your daughter has been through a huge move and is having a hard time adjusting to the school and she would be more comfortable with a female teacher.
Good luck....I really do think Mother's Intuition is the best thing God gave us, but we also have to use our judgement and make an informed decision.
2007-11-03 01:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by SuVmOm 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think I'd be very careful going by a "vibe". They are out there to be sure...look at that 25 year old teacher that tried to run away to Mexico with the 13 year old boy...but in general, I'd say that most teachers are screened for that type of thing. If you do decide to move your daughter, keep your reasons to yourself unless you have something more concrete than just a feeling on your part.
2007-11-04 16:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the teacher a male? Could this be the real reason you've got that vibe? Elementary school male teachers get a tough rap, and it's almost always unwarranted. If you've got an honest and open relationship with your daughter, you'll be able to discern more from the conversations she has about the class. I don't think a "vibe" constitutes relocation in most schools (especially if you word it that way). I suppose if I knew more about what you're saying, it'd be easier to give you advice.
2007-11-03 07:27:59 · answer #4 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
talk to the other parents of kids in the class and get their feel on it. Police checks only cover those that have been caught. You are probably just overreacting but we are told to trust those feelings. Ask if you child can be transfered to another class as you don't feel a male teacher is the right choice at this stage
2007-11-02 21:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should use the mantra "innocent until proven guilty" and just be aware of him. Most teachers have to be police checked and all sorts before being given a job teaching children so if there was anything in his record he would'nt be there.
However without going into specifics and name calling, I would teach your daughter about the dangers of strange men (even teachers and doctors....) being inappropriate towards her and that if anyone ever did anything she didn't think was right she should tell you straight away.
I don't think its irrational but sometimes you need to trust your instinct and othertimes you need to not be judgemental where you have absolutely no proof to back it up.
Good luck
2007-11-03 01:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think's it natural as a parent, and good to stay aware, but I don't think it's rational. The statistic that sadly most victim's parents seem to miss is that most cases of pedophelia are perpetrated by friends or relatives within the family. People who have known the children for years and have earned their trust. Rarely will new strangers who have such low self esteem that they seek out children be brave enough to attempt to seduce someone they feel they cannot silence with fear or trust.
2007-11-02 17:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by backslashyourasterix 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Rational or not.. if you feel this way the only thing that may bring peace of mind is to move your child into another class. However, I would do it asap. To many relocations means to many adjustments periods.
2007-11-02 17:58:22 · answer #8 · answered by nusias9 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be on guard for early warning signs from your child. Have a "talk" with the child on what is NOT acceptable at school. Make sure you remind the child that they can tell you ANYTHING and you won't get mad and they won't get in trouble.
2007-11-05 06:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are paranoid, plain and simple. What is it about him that gives you the creepy-crawlies? In this day and age, a pedophile would be insane to take such a job in view of the public and not even a teacher on the straight and narrow would put themselves in a position to EVER be alone with a student. I think that you ought to talk to him at your first opportunity and learn more about him before giving yourself over to your feelings.
2007-11-02 19:04:30 · answer #10 · answered by MHnurseC 6 · 2⤊ 4⤋