I hurt myself again. I don't know what to do. I just lost control of myself. After 7 months of being clean. This was not supposed to happen. Not now. I thought everything was cool again. But appearently not. I don't know what to do. I can't go to my parents, I can't got to my best friend, and I can't go to a counsler. And anyone that I talk to won't understand me. I don't know what to do. I'm panicing right now. Help me?
2007-11-02 17:38:34 · 35 answers · asked by [Skye] 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm going to give you one simple piece advice that I promise you is absolutely true.
Even if you disagree, please read to the end of my answer, and then make up your mind. You owe it to yourself. But this might be hard to hear, ok? Here goes:
The biggest mistake a person who engages in destructive behaviour can make is to assume that his or her problem is so complicated, or so sick, or so twisted, or so unique, that nobody will understand it.
That's it. Pretty simple sounding, isn't it? But hear me out.
It might help if you pretend for a moment that there are 2 parts inside you. There's you, and there's the person who does bad things. You want to stop. You want to stay clean. You want to be a good person.
But the person who does bad things, your other half, wants to keep doing the bad stuff. And the only way this person can keep doing bad stuff is if it convinces you, in any way it can, not to look for help. So it fools you into thinking that whatever your problem is, nobody is going to understand. Or care. Or that you're the bad person, and you don't deserve to be happy.
But this is a lie, and it's the lie that's preventing you from getting the help you need. I know it's hard, but try to be objective: if your friend was in pain, wouldn't you do everything you could to get her help, even if she didn't think help was possible?
This other side of you is not your friend. But you can be. Do yourself a favor and talk to a professional about this.
I promise you, no matter what's going on in your head, this person will have dealt with it before. There's no such thing as a new neurosis.
Good luck, and don't sell yourself short.
2007-11-02 17:57:33 · answer #1 · answered by relaxification 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't panic. Take a deep breath. There are people that understand you. There are professionals that can help you, that know what they're talking about. Ask your parents to take you to a counsler, just to talk out some of your problems, because you have some things that you have to put out on the table that you need someone outside your family to talk to. There ARE people that know what you're going through, you just have to find the right ones. Calm down! I hope I helped! Good luck! :)
2007-11-02 17:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you broke the skin and your tetanus shot isn't current, go to the nearest urgent care clinic tomorrow early and get a tetanus shot. That's the first order of business. Get the damage looked at and treated.
Don't panic. You've done this before and you're here now, well enough to communicate online. People do some extreme things when they're under stress. Some of them do drugs, get drunk, eat whole bags of candy, watch five dumb movies in a row...and they still live to fight another day.
What your job will be, after you take care of the medical stuff, is to identify the stress that made you do this. Then you get some help dealing with the stress. You may have to get your doctor's backup to get the stress in your life turned down if your school is causing it. If it's a peer problem, a counselor should be able to help. You do not have to specify what you did to hurt yourself when you talk to a counselor before you know the counselor well enough to trust him/her. Just say, "When I get stressed beyond a point, I hurt myself. I need help stopping the stress before it gets me to that point."
Remember, nobody on earth has the right to push you to the point that you want to hurt yourself. Not a parent, not a spouse, not a lover, not your school, certainly not one of your peers.
2007-11-02 17:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by silver.graph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, sweetie and don't beat yourself up. You did the best you could for as long as you could and now you have the opportunity to try again. Seven months is a hugely long time and you should be patting yourself on the back for a job well done!
Now take a deep breath, maybe a long warm bath and concentrate on getting through tomorrow. Then concentrate on getting through the next day and the next, slowly but surely you will make it to 7 months again, then 8 months. Any recovery has set backs, call it a learning experience and go forward. Someday you will meet someone who is in your position who needs your help . You will be wise and caring because you have been there. Best wishes and I'll be praying for you!
2007-11-02 17:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by tlcats 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dealing with this as secret is not a good idea. That is a big part of why it happens. Once you are open and let other people in, then you are closer to having control again.
It might seem like you will lose control by letting others know, but you are actually taking control.
I agree with others, you need to find someone that knows about this and knows how to help you. You need an expert. They know what to do...where as you don't right now.
2007-11-02 17:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first answerer has no concept of what you are going through.
If you do a Google search on "support for cutting self" you will get almost 3 million websites. Right on the first page of the Google search are quite a few that may be of help to you.
Try not to panic. Just get to that search. I'm sure there most be hot lines on there.
Take care.
2007-11-02 17:45:57 · answer #6 · answered by ThisIsIt! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you go to a counsellor? Cant you ring a Lifeline or something, there are people out there that can help and talk to you if you ask for help.
7 months is a good stint for not 'hurting' yourself so this is just a minor bump in the road. Your not perfect - no one is. You obviously dont want to do it, so recognise it and move on and dont do it again.
You'll be fine.
2007-11-02 17:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are talking about. You need to go to an AA meeting (I mean everyday), get a sponsor, work the steps, read the book, and help others. Through yourself into this way of life. A spiritual experience is vital if you want to live a good and full life. The above steps will give you a spiritual experience.
2007-11-02 17:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by ADAM S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, calm down girl. You're gonna be alright. Second, I know a lot of times it seems as if there is no one to talk to, and that no one understands. I feel for ya sister!! People always say "its ok to talk to your parents, they'll understand!" but that's not true at all. I wish i could give you a hug right now. Just remember that crying is all right. It makes you feel better. As to how you hurt yourself, i don't know and i don't want to know. But ur gonna be fine, girl. Just give it time. And remember, bad times just make good times 10 times better!
Luv u and sending u an e-hug =)
2007-11-02 17:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by Sammy Skippy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, a trick Q
try to focus on doing something else like helping other people you don't know or find a job, keep urself busy all the time. But unless your body is suffering from a illness which your don't know about it. Its best if you can go to a doctor and ask then to x-ray your body see if you got a bone broken
2007-11-02 17:45:12 · answer #10 · answered by Thousand Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋