how to deal w/ mom? i superduper need help i'll love you forever if you answer :] <3?

Question

shes insane and im sick of not being allowed to hang out with anyone, and i havent had a sleepover in almost a year; the last time i went shopping-3 months ago.she always wants to go everywhere with me and wont let me hang out with guy friends who are mormon and wouldnt put a move on me like ever!!! im 15 and she wont let me wear eyeliner or mascara because it makes me look too old, and gets mad at me for my grades when the lowest grade i have is a B! also i cant hang out after school until my homeworks done, chores done, room clean, practiced my french horn and bass guitar for 30 minutes each. every day. no joke. she wont give me any money, even for all the chores i do, and i have to get it from babysitting if i want any, but she often wont let me go babysit. AAACCCKKK!!! help me! i'm dying inside.

Answer 1

She sounds overly protective. That is a sign she cares and is worried about you. Perhaps you can do something that will reassure her about yourself, and she will trust you more in your own world.

Answer 2

i just fixed that problem with my mom. so heres some advice:
be responsible & loving for a while, then gradually bring up one issue at a time, calmly. one day, a day when u two did not fight or are going to fight, bring up the subject of responsiblilty. tell her (once again calmly & reasonable) that you believe u r doin a good job with your responsibilities and you want some more of being trusted to hang out with friends alone, go to the mall with my friends, babysit, get a job and/or handle your own time. if she gives u any respnsiblilty at all, accept it, say u would like more, then do it perfectly. if u argue back (although its hard to fight the urge) she will see u as irresponsible. every once in a while bring up the subject agian & wait 4 her to allow u to do more stuff. tell her that ur guy friends are ur friends & u just wanna hang out with them, bcoz they're ur friends. make-up: get a professional lesson, so u both will b able to see how to do it right so it looks good 4 ur age. then daily., for a while, ask her opinion on ur make-up too much or too little. this will do u both good. when u get a low grade, calmly tell her that u are seriously trying ur best & want good grades and u promise to bring them up soon. by u taking responsility, she will b : ). every day u should do chores & homework. if u want, ask her to do ur hoomework & 1/2 ur chores,, then friends, then other half of chores. then when she sees this working, ask to do homework, friends, chores, & keep doin this pattern until u have a flexible schedule. tell her u luv or dont luv the horn & guitar, but u dont want to practice daily. tell her u wanna spend time with ur friends, get caught up with school, etc. ask do do it less & less each week, until once again ur times are flexible. i hope this helps & good luck!!

Answer 3

Fifteen is such a dramatic age. I remember once when I was 15 a june bug landed on my hand and I went hysterical. At 15 your hormones are churning and everything seems so tragic, or dramatic.

When my youngest daughter was in high school, they had peer counseling in one of her classes. She came home and told us that she never knew how bad some kids had it at home. She said some of them had alcoholic or drugged out parents, so they had to do the cooking, cleaning and care of younger siblings. She realized that our taking away her phone temporarily as punishment, wasn't so bad after all.

I doubt seriously that your mom is insane. You're at an age that you want more independence, and less of being tied to her apron strings.

I'll bet that if you talked to her and your dad rationally, calmly, and told them you would like to have a little more freedom, you all could reach a compromise.

Remember, your mom just wants what is best for you. She loves you, and doesn't want to see you make wrong choices.
If you act maturely and reasonably, they will see that you are ready for a little more freedom. Handle yourself responsibly, and see what a difference it makes. And, no yelling or blowing up at your mom!

You are not dying inside, you are just 15.

Answer 4

1. Romance 2. Trust 3. Sharing 4. Joy 5. Compatibility 6. Tenderness 7. Respect 8. Patience 9. Humor

Answer 5

I am a mother of 2 teen girls 14 and 15. It is not that we forgot what it is like to be a teen, it is the opposite!! We remember alot of it and want to protect you from things we went through or our friends and family experienced. You will be 18 before you know it and out on your own. Things will totally change then and in your 20's. You will survive and your mom may end up being your best friend. You may not truly understand her until you have a child of your own. It is part of life, we all go through it.

Answer 6

Being a mom myself and helping other mothers at my church with their teens and counsoling them as well it sounds like your mother is begining to feel the empty nest syndrum. She see you as a young lady and wants to begin the final touches of guiding you in the right direction and the right road. It is not that she doesn't trust you it is the opposite, she just don't trust the male guys that you hang with. During this stage in our children life parents begin to see themselves and can pickup like rader when you are thinking of things to do. Try talking to your mom as you would a friend. Ask your mom can you talk to your friend she has in her and it will let her know that she has not lost you altogether. She feel that you are drifting apart and is unsure how to mend the gap. Plus she is also trying to let you see that it is important to have more than one skill in case the other skill flops. In short parent sometimes forget how it was when they were young. Start a comversation with mom and ask her how was it like when she was growing up. Prayfully it was a good childhood and not bad, but if it was there was some good times that will out weigh the bad. And this will establish the begining of a new bonding with you and your mother. She is only trying to keep her baby safe as she can from the monsters out in the world . And pray would not hurt in asking God to intervene and make things comfortable and tolorable with you and mom. Do not be in such a hurry to being a adult because it is not an easy job and enjoy your childhood as long as you can and your teenhood also. Pray on your situation first and follow the guidelines that God gives you. You will need to be in a quiet place to have your talk with God and believe me the almighty will give you the answer and will show you in what mannerism to be in. I shall say a prayer for you and your communication gap with your mom should get better from here on out. Mom just may be your best friend, there are plenty of mothers and daughters who are best friends. Good example is me, I am one of my daughter's and son's best friend still to this day and helping them with their children. I sincerely hope this will be of some assistance to you as it has been to me with my 5+ adult children, 7+neices and nephews and my 30+ church babies that I mentor and counsol to. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

its okay...im 15 too. my mom oes nuts when i put on makeup. she thinks i also look too ollld. anyways i feel like that too. i mean there are days where mine lets me but most of the time its like that. also i get good grades and when mine is a B she says why is it a B why not an A! i think they just want the best from us...they dont know our needs because tehy forgot how to be a teenagerr. tell her how u feel and tell her u want some fun in your life! good luckk

Answer 8

Honest Hon, you're not gonna die. You are ready to grow up and she cares enough to want to help you grow up right. The world is a scary place for parents these days. Keep showing her how great and responsible you are and before long, she'll give you a little more leash. Try not to hang yourself.

Answer 9

Oh wow, you got alot on your plate huh? Talk to your mom, make her realize what you do around the house to help her out and all the extra activities that you do and how good your grades are! And if you wanna go out, introduce your firends to your mom...make your mom trust you...thats how i did it! But, it realli does get much better when u go off to college or when u get older! trust me.. mah mom used to be like that.. now since i drive and i go to college and im helpin' 'em out by alot...they trust me and they let me go out whenver.. best of luckx333