I met this guy a couple years ago and we became instant friends, talking for hours on msn every day. We have A LOT in common. We were friends for about a year and then started dating. We went out a few times, but because I was going through some personal things at the time, I sort of ended things with him.
He has since moved on and is seeing someone he says he is serious about, but we are still friends and chat daily with each other and I realized recently that I still like him. He's really nice and supportive and we have similar backgrounds and hobbies.
What should I do? I know it's not my place to say anything and ruin his current relationship, but I'm finding it very difficult to just be his friend right now and not anything more then that!
2007-11-02 15:31:27 · 12 answers · asked by Sarah M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd say to just be honest with him. You may lose his friendship; you may gain his love. For all you know, he's still in love with you and just dating his current because you ditched him.
2007-11-02 15:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are two things you could do:
1) tell him how you feel or 2) don't say anything.
Telling him > Pro: he may eventually like you back
> Con: it could potentially become awkward between the two of you
Not telling him > Pro: your friendship with him will remain in tact.
> Con: you will never feel fully satisfied.
You're probably going to be told this often, but it's your choice. I bet this isn't the answer that you wanted to hear (sorry!), but I wish you good luck on making your decision.
Make sure that whatever option you choose, you go all out and don't look back. Try not to regret the decision that you've made (this applies to not only relationships, but life as well).
2007-11-02 22:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lovelylady 3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a true friend then I wouldn't say anything about his current relationship. If it is truly meant to be for the two of you than you guys will end up together in the long run. But don't get involved in his current relationship, it could end up with hard feeling towards one another.
2007-11-02 22:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by lexi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that this guy is prolly a player, and he doesen't give a rats aass about anybody but himself. I think you would be better off moving on, you will be hurting for a while and you will be desperate to talk to him, the best remedy for this sort of thing would be to ask him straight up how he feels, and tell him how you feel. that's the only way you will get any peace with this. If he's still talking to you while he has a gf, it isn't fair. Love is something that is there. not sorta kinda. Lay it on him, or move on. good luck to you
2007-11-02 22:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by LOLZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you do chat everyday I would just let him know how u feel. The worst he can say is no. If it is no then it was not meant to be and find another guy the way u found him. You already have the tools u see.Do not be afraid of change.
2007-11-02 22:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be wrong for you to do anything to break up his relationship. And you may drive him away if you tried. you have all these feelings for him and it is tempting to try to get him back. you wouldn't like it if someone did that to you. I know that would be hard but anything you could do to move on would be a good thing for both of you.
2007-11-02 22:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's the excitement of having something that's not yours to have. I think if you were to rekindle the relationship you would ruin the one he has now and once you get him you would no longer want him. You ended it before, leave him to live his life. Move on.
2007-11-02 22:36:17 · answer #7 · answered by Sue-Ann T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Sarah, if you guys are still friends then tell him how you feel. If he really loves this woman he will say no and that you had your chance. All you can do is ask,, never know untill ya do.
2007-11-02 22:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being friends in that situation is probably not a good idea, for both of you. It doesn't mean you can't be in the future, for it may not work out with her. Its not fair though not to let him date her without distractions. be honest with him about it, he'll respect you for it.
2007-11-02 22:38:39 · answer #9 · answered by John B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay his friend and keep talking. you may not be his love intrest but you don't want to lose his friendship.
2007-11-02 22:37:13 · answer #10 · answered by epsilonlogan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋