I'm involve in a long distance relationship. How can I keep the relationship going?

Question

We've been together for almost 8 months and not met personally. I'm from the Philippines and he's from the US. He's 54 and I"m 41.
We use to talk everyday but lately he's been busy with his work and schooling. He's taking an accounting course and has one subject left. I'm also busy with my work and writing. He's intelligent and a very visual type of man. Most men are, I think...visual that is. I noticed lately that when we talk the excitement is lacking .... he told me before i need to keep him interested ..... well .... i think he needs to keep me interested to though I did not tell him that. We have something really good going at the start, now I dont know where its heading .... How can you keep the fire burning in a relationship such as ours?

Answer 1

Hi. I've been in one for 4 years now. My boyfriend and I are almost 21 we started dating at 16. One thing that really helps us is webcams. He is from/in Germany and i'm from/in the U.S. Webcams are great because we get to see eachother online, its a moveable picture ^^. Another thing we do is send old fashioned snail mail (letters). They're great becuase they are more personal. I like to send my boyfriend a care package of things that he likes form the U.S. that he can't find in Germany and he tells me that the best gift for him is to either have me there or get some pictures. Try not to make your talking so routine, dont' just talk about the relationship and how you miss eachother, talk about random nonsence once in a while. It would help if you two set a date to meet, the anticipation of seeing eachother really helps. Good luck and let me know if you have anymore questions.

Answer 2

yeah you're creating a great mistake. Its solid he confessed because of the fact communique is a solid issue in a relationship yet he shouldnt have achieved it in any respect. There are no longer any excuses in any respect to cheating so even being long distance..that doesnt make it ok the two he ought to be unswerving to you no count what. None human beings answering this question can administration what you do or the style you sense so all i'm able to assert is think of this over an dask your self..is that this what i myself prefer? do i myself prefer to bypass in with a guy who cheated only because of the fact i wasnt there?? think of deep on it would you particularly be satisfied each and every now and returned or continuously? do you somewhat wana bypass by way of existence questioning if hes gonna only cheat returned or be with a guy wh oyou understand wont ever cheat on you?

Answer 3

i think men tend to take ladies for granted and need a shake up now and then --- im 54 and involved in a long distance relationship as well ---- i think that they can survive up to a point and then you need to meet find out if there is something strong developing and if so move closer together --- talk to him find out what he wants from the relationship and let him know what you want --- decide what is important to both of you --- your relationship or other things ----- best wishes

Answer 4

he is probably messing around with other women... men who have a long distance relationship cant handle it when they don't get sex or any physical contact with a women during a long period of time... and how do you know if you really have a connection with this person? you have only met over the phone/computer right? he might not be truthful and you don't know him... find someone closer that you can have a real relationship with instead of messing with someone way to far away to keep track of...

Answer 5

Long distance relationships are bound to fail. I mean if you can keep it going then good for you I am happy. But most of the time they fail.

Answer 6

I agree, long distance relationships are very difficult and usually fail. Do yourself a favor and stay away from long distance relationships. Less heartaches.