Okay here is the deal. I am 26 years old and my mom still treats me like a child. She always thinks she right when shes not. Tonight she said I should apologize to her for calling her a hypocrite, but the thing is she called me lazy first. Why should apologize when I was just defending myself? I dont understand parents. I pray to God I dont end up like that! She thinks she is better than everyone.
2007-11-02 13:59:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The reason I am living at home is because my husband is deployed.
2007-11-02 14:18:06 · update #1
I'm sure you are going through a lot right now. But remember, so is she. It hurts to see your child hurting. And I am sure she thinks you are with your husband gone. No matter how old you are, if you live together or apart, we're human and occasionally we are going to disagree as parents and children. We are two different generations and try as we might, there are very few cases where mother/daughters get along 100% of the time. I just think you both need to talk things out and if during that conversation you feel led to apologize, fine, then do so. But don't do it just because she said so. You don't say why she called you lazy, but it doesn't matter. That's what happens when we argue...we end up saying things we don't really mean because we are hurt and angry and want the other person to feel some of that. The key is communication. If you cannot do anything about your living situation now, then you both have to make every effort to get along for both of your sakes. You want to come out of this with a better relationship than when you went in. One day you will cherish or regret this time you spent together. Good luck.
2007-11-02 16:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by swtserenity43 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents say things out of anger and don't realize what they have just said. What you should try doing is talking with her about the way you feel. Simply tell her it hurts you when she talks down to you. Name calling is not going to change a situation. All its going to to is cause more stress. Being that your an adult now and she's and adult there should be more and better communication. you only have one mom apologize any way. She might of started it first, but you just ended the fight. To defend oneself is not stooping to an others level. Defending yourself is simply saying what bothers you. If she can't see what she is doing then maybe write her a letter telling her how you feel. Be patient with her, kids don't come with instruction. And as far as you being a parent one day, honey you will make mistakes that you will regret. Good luck
2007-11-02 21:17:55 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you need her....for now...I don't know why she would make any negative comments to you while your husband is deployed.....but since she wants to start name calling...try to control yourself during these situations....and say as little as possible......don't defend yourself by acting like her.
If she wants an apology then tell her your sorry....sounds like name calling isn't really who you are anyway....I'm sure you don't want to hurt her....but you were hurt.
Why did she say you are lazy, anyway? Did that hit some truth inside you.....maybe you could do more? At 26....married....back with mom....it will be hard.
And when it gets hard....look at the situation like rent....instead of paying for rent somewhere....you have this price to pay....you might want to reconsider which would be the highest price.
2007-11-02 21:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by willowz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you are the smarter person. Sooo if I were in your position I would apologize in order to keep the peace.
It might show your mom how grown up you have become.
2007-11-02 21:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ray D dog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To get along with her, your best option may be to apologize even if you don't feel you did anything wrong. And trust me, most parents don't stop thinking like parents even when their kids are over 40, so you might have to accept it. Good luck
2007-11-02 21:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by Keith B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my mother treated me like a child, I would act like one. I would eat her out of the house, ask to borrow the car and hit her up for 20 bucks.
2007-11-02 21:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you have anybody else you can stay with ? If so you should do that. Sound's like your mom still thinks of you as a little girl .
2007-11-02 21:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by dollbaby2407 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey wait a minute here Your story is missing lots of honnesty You are 26yrs and still living with your mother but your fithing each other What is stopping you to have your own appt Answer this question to yourself
2007-11-02 21:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
have a logical look at the situation, take a bit of the emotion out and see whats left,
do you pull your weight at home? is she still doing your washing and cooking etc etc and paying your way or are you self sufficient?
you are 26!! move the hell out, she probably wants some space
2007-11-02 21:15:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i would apologize so that ur mom wouldnt get any more mad
2007-11-02 21:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by lena n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋