ok, first of all, I LOVE animals and i love dogs especially but my boy friend has an adorable chiuauha and he treats it like its his child! we cant go out to the movies unless he can find someone to watch the dog. when we are watching tv, the dog will try to jump on the couch and when he does, he scratches my legs up because his claws are so sharp and my boyfriend just says "he's just a dog he didnt mean to" but he still wont train him! i feel like a dog should be treated like a pet not a human.it is so frusterating.
the dog had free reign on the house, when he uses the bathroom on the floor, my boyfriend just cleans it up, and doesnt do a thing about it. what should i do?!
2007-11-02 13:11:09 · 26 answers · asked by kelly h 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
its he does things that physically hurt people and i dont see the problem with getting onto the dog if he is hurting someone, that is an issue that i believe should be fixed, would you let your 2 year old punch you in the eye and not let him know that he shouldn't do that...even if he didnt do it on purpose? or your kid breaks someone's window with a baseball. would i be a bad parent if i taught the child to be more careful?
2007-11-02 13:34:08 · update #1
it sounds like your boy friend is an excellent dog parent. my fiance and i are the same way.
if you cant deal with it then maybe you two are not cut out for each other.
add- ok seriously. whats the probelm? your boyfriend wants to get a pet sitter for the dog? not a problem. your boyfriend lets the small dog on the couch? not a problem. your boyfriend cleans up after the dog? not a problem. the dog scratches your legs trying to get on the couch? trim its nails and pick him up or wear pants. the dog has free reign of the house? unless he is getting into things, thats not a problem either.
the only problem would be if the dog is just randomly urinating and defecating in the house. is it in one spot? is it on newspaper or a pee pad? is it on the carpet?
i still think you are the one with the problem.
2007-11-02 13:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by bob © 7 · 5⤊ 9⤋
Sounds like your boyfriend is not being a Pack leader ,but a friend. Even if he loves the dog, that doesn't mean the dog doesn't need boundaries and limitations. I love animals myself but I also Love myself and my friends and you need to have a good healthy balance. When you find that your own life takes a backseat to a dog such as scheduling your movies around a dog, that is not healthy. Your boyfriend sounds like a passive, submissive guy. Just talk to him, tell him how it makes You feel and that you are concerned but that you would like to support him and help him. Offer to take training classes w/ him and the dog. If your boyfriend is this kind to his dog, I'm sure he will be sympathetic to your feelings as well. He needs to also know that sometimes his spoiling or soft nature can actually create more bad habits. Just need a happy medium.
2007-11-02 19:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by Rexydoberman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a girl with commonsense, this dog needs training and there is hope for you and your boyfriend and.....the dog. Currently here in Australia we have a show airing called "It's Me Or The Dog". This British lady (can't think of her name) comes into these households with out of control dogs , exactly like your situation, and performs absolute MIRACLES. I recently saw an episode where she had to train 4 chiuauhas to stop peeing, running the house, aggression etc. In the end she had these perfect well mannered dogs and EVERYBODY was happy. I suggest looking up "Its Me Or The Dog" on the internet and get a copy of her series. What she did was easy, straightforward without having to be angry. If your boyfriend can't help out with this simple solution, well then......you know. This situation is soooo treatable without anyone having to be upset. I'll get back to you with the name of this trainer. Good luck!
This dog trainer is called Victoria Stilwell.
2007-11-02 14:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by Margastar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excellent answers from Bambiero, Michael S. and Cristal. It's obvious your boyfriend loves his dog, but true love includes proper discipline. He's creating a monster with this little dog and I predict big problems if not corrected. As much as I love my dogs, bad behavior is not tolerated. I want my dogs to be good ambassadors for the breed as well as being a joy to live with.
At this point, you'll have to become part of the solution since your boyfriend isn't seeing a problem. Suggest going to training classes together. I see many couples together at class. They take turns handling the dog and can ask questions to help deal with problems they are experiencing. This way, the trainer can be the one who points out areas that need work, rather than you becoming the 'bad guy'. Our trainer offers private sessions at home to better evaluate and treat problems.
Good luck! I hope for your sake, as well as the dog's, your boyfriend truly wants to be a good pet dad!
2007-11-02 14:11:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would say that your bf is a good and responsible owner the only problem would be if the dog randomly urinating and defecating in the house.
Well anyway, you should understand, us so called dog owners don't treat our dogs as pets, their family.
Talk to your bf. My wife talked to me about the stuff (actually just one thing) she didn't like about our dog. She didn't like my dog jumping on her so I just trained my dog not to jump on her. But do not expect an overhaul. Most probably, you can get the no scratching and no peeing and pooping in the house.
2007-11-02 15:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was going to pass over your question, then decided to add my two cents worth. I had a boyfriend, it was serious, who was constantly criticising my dogs with just about the same issues that you have (no pooping or peeing on the floor). It got to the point that I didn't like him because of it and moved on as your boyfriend will. Him criticising my dogs was in effect, in my mind, criticising me. My husband thought my dogs were great, thinks the two dogs and cat we have now are great, and it's obviously a better situation all around. So my advice is, if this guy is a keeper, you'll need an attitude adjustment. Good luck.
2007-11-02 14:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by Little Ollie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like the dog does need some training, but is this your house (and dog) as well? If not, then unfortunatly you don't have much of a right to complain. I am the same way with my dog as far as going out and leaving the dog at home by himself..most of the time, I won't do it, but my dog is also decently trained....so, unfortunatly, I have to side with your boyfriend on this one. So, I do know that he isn't going to change, no matter what you do...if he doesn't want to, can you take the dog to training?
2007-11-02 13:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by jess0811 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
All dogs need to be trained properly, not matter the breed or size. It would drive me crazy too (not so much the couch jumping but definitely being able to use the house as his bathroom)...talk to your boyfriend about how you feel. Offer to help, suggest a trainer, but don't attack him about situation. That's probably the only thing you CAN do. Remember, you can't help someone who doesn't want it. Also, don't give an ultimatum if you really care about this guy....you know who he'll choose. Good luck.
2007-11-02 13:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by Cristal 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend will not change the way he is about treating his dog. Maybe you should look for another boyfriend. He doesn't provide discipline to the dog, imagine how he raises his human children in the future. I agree with you that dogs should be treated like animals, not little humans in a dog outfit. I guess all you can do is either talk to him about how you feel or find another person who shares the same view as you are.
2007-11-02 15:25:28 · answer #9 · answered by Wild Ginger 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you know why the networks are going to Europe and the Middle East with Obama? Because he invited them. When McCain went, he *didn't* invite them. Given that the media focuses mostly on "process stories" instead of issues, you're not missing anything. Also, all this scrutiny cuts both ways -- if Obama makes a mistake, it's well covered. To make you happy, we could have the media spend more time on the gorilla rape joke that McCain told...
2016-04-02 01:27:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should commend your boyfriend on being such a caring and loving individual. You should have respect for living things, including dogs, and be happy that the dog feels so loved and cared for and has such a loving "parent". You should respect the bond that your boyfriend has with his dog, and not try to change him or destroy it... even if you're successful at doing so, it will have killed a little part of your boyfriend, the loving and caring side, which I'd think you'd find endearing.
The dog was there before you, right? Well, either deal with the bond that your boyfriend has with that dog and has had BEFORE YOU CAME INTO THE PICTURE, or leave. At this point, you're replacable, the dog isn't. Also have some respect for animals as sentient beings who, like humans, have feelings and crave love. Maybe you should join them, allow yourself to care and become part of that bond.
If you can't do these basic things, then you're a conceited, uncaring, and selfish prick and it's only a matter of time before he gets fed up and dumps you.
EDIT: Oh, I'm terribly sorry... did the tiny dog accidentally scratch when trying to get onto the couch? You're right... what a little delinquent!
What's your boyfriend supposed to train the dog to do... file down his own claws?
You really do just sound like a very jealous, insecure, and uncaring girl, and I'm amazed a guy who seems so nice actually likes you. You're lucky.
2007-11-02 13:22:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 5⤋