see i love my boyfriend alot how can i tell my mom that i want to be with him with out her telling me "you cant be with him " ?
2007-11-02 13:02:25 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are both under age, she has the authority to tell you that you cannot be with him. You can talk to your mother and tell her how you feel about him. She was your age once and knows the feelings you are having.
If I had a daughter, I would not let her date until she was 16 - 18 just because I have been there. It is hurtful when you care for someone so much and then they cheat on you. They don't have the guts to tell you they don't want to date you anymore, so they date someone else on the side. I wasn't ready to date when my mother told me I could at the age of 16. I went out on a couple of dates when I was 17. Nothing came out of it.
It is definetely better to become friends before you date someone. You really get to know them better first. And never have a physical relationship with someone when you really don't know them. When you have the physical thing, then those emotions get in the way of really getting to know the other person and how you really feel about them. Some people think they are in love when they have sex, and they are just emotionally involved. They really don't know the partners little things.
The best thing to do is to be friends first. Get to know each other slowly, then decide to date, and even then hold off on physical relations with them.
I have HPV because I decided to really be with a boyfriend. That is something that does not have symptoms. Guys can have it and give it to you and they not know it. The only way they know is if they get warts. I have never gotten the warts but I have the virus that leans toward cervical cancer. It is best to wait. I thought I knew my boyfriend then, but he didn't want to tell me some things.
There are other diseases out there too. Please be careful and talk to your mother. Be honest and open to listening about what she has to say. She is older and wiser than you probably think. Give her a chance to really share your feelings with her. Discuss what you do or don't like about what she says and let her tell you why she feels the way she does.
2007-11-02 13:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to understand your Mom instead of fighting her...ask her seriously WHY does she not want you to be with him? Maybe she knows something you don't....maybe she did the same thing when she was your age..
(don't gag) and it was a BIG mistake
...of course a lot depends, like how old are you? How old is he? How long have you known him? Loved him? Does he want you for YOU or so he can show you off to his friends? Maybe he wants you just for sex? Lots of questions. Sorry I have to say this, but....your MOM is a lot smarter and more savvy than you think.....she's been around the block too. Trust me, I wish I'd listened to my parents more when I was younger....good luck
2007-11-02 13:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by jazzbait 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do need help
2007-11-02 13:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by Zach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋