Everyone says it and he stares at me weird. And for no reason he came by and gave me a pat on the back not butt. BACK
2007-11-02 13:02:20 · 63 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
eeew. Give it 2 more awkward moments before you report him.
2007-11-02 13:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by Noonie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe because people have started rumors about him, it has caused you to be more aware of every look he aims your way. He probably looks at all of the students, watch him more closely from now on and you might find its just normal, that you have been freaked out by what others have said. Patting you on the back does not make him a sex offender in the least. Rubbing your back is a different story. I think you need to sit back and think about what you are saying. Once you go to someone and open that can of worms, you cant go back. And if he is an innocent man, you might be taking away his career, causing his reputation to be forever tarnished, probably placing him in deep debt for the rest of his life so he can defend himself...so much will happen if you do this. Be CERTAIN before you do anything that may ruin a mans life, possibly put him behind bars for a long time, maybe lose his family, and if he has small children...I could go on and on. The bottom line, dont listen to rumors. You need to use your own judgement and common sense here and ask yourself "If I didnt hear those rumors, would it have bothered me so much that he patted me on my back?" Be very careful where you go with this. It could also change your life, and not necessarily for the better. Especially if it turns out not to be true, which I believe to be the case here, based on what you have told us here. Also, maybe he is staring at you because you are staring at him?? Maybe this guy is wondering why you are staring at him?? Maybe you dont even realize you are doing it!! Like I said...be very careful here.
2007-11-02 13:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by answers4u, not insults 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very serious actualization. Do not go any further if it isn't true. That teacher can lose his job and his rep. BUT IF there is a legitimate reason why everyone thinks this is true, it should be dealt with immediately. A pat on the back is not legit.... The teacher would have to have had/been inappropriate with a student. Please remember gossip and rumors are not fair if it is just because the teacher looks at you the wrong way... Please take caution in this matter and get HELP if it is needed. Tell mom or dad of your feelings and concerns.
2007-11-02 13:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think male teachers get a bad wrap these days. Would you have thought twice about it if it were a female teacher??? Be careful about throwing comments and accusations around, you could ruin a person's entire life! career! family! when they may just be completely innocent. If you have reason to suspect, then go ahead and suspect, but don't start rumours or entertain rumours that others are spreading unless you have well founded suspicions yourself. If you decide you do indeed have well founded suspicion then go talk to the school counsellor, especially before the principal, other teachers or regional schooling sectors... (just so that you go through the proper channels is all). I hope you are wrong, there is already too much of that in this world and I think it's sick!
2007-11-02 13:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by violet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People will say anything. What's the problem w/a pat on the
back? Maybe you were actually doing school work at the time and some others wern't? You can find out easy. Have someone 18 or over put in his name; they will give you access to info on sex offenders in your area, no problem. Why does a pat on the back make him a perv though???
2007-11-02 13:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by Carol (Yeah I said it!) G. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can look on your local state's website to find a list of registered sex offenders in your area. If you don't know the website address just go to the main Yahoo page and type in "(your state) registered sex offender list".
Sex offenders are definitely not allowed to be teachers so I highly doubt your teacher is a sex offender. It's just a rumor going around because kids are immature and like to start horrible lies about innocent people.
Accusing someone of being a sex offender is not a joke and should not be taken lightly.
Also, it was a pat on the back- that's nothing inappropriate at all. You are most likely just thinking he is looking at you weird because you hear all these rumors about him. Unless he actually does something inappropriate (like tries to touch you in a private area) then you have no reason to worry and don't need to tell an adult. Do not fasley accuse him though because you can ruin his career and his life because of a rumor.
2007-11-02 13:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by Madison 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately these days it is sometimes hard to tell the difference between someone who is just being nice or being "too nice". If "everyone is saying it" it could be for many different reasons. It is not okay to accept a rumor as true. If you know of a true incident where something inappropriate happened then speak with an adult - either your parents or an adult at your school. I had a weird teacher once, but he was just weird and never acted inappropriately, but had weird eyes like you described.
2007-11-02 13:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by BECKY P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just innocently strange... so that alone wouldn't concern me... BUT if YOU feel uncomfortable around him.... genuinely uncomfortable then I strongly urge you to talk to your parents or guidance counselor or both for that matter. A pat on the back in my day meant an endearing "job well done" or "hey there" nothing more... Just be careful not to cross your wires and think something is there when it isn't... but also don't ignore something that makes you uneasy either.
2007-11-02 13:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kishauna_P 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would just be really skeptical of him, but i wouldn't tell alot of people that. If he is not then you will give him a reputation that he does not deserve. A pat on the back is not a sexual gesture, but if you feel uncomfortable talk to the principle. Just don't spread rumors about someone especially someone you have to see everyday! Just watch out and don't be alone with him. Good luck.
2007-11-02 13:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by Sadbrowneyes13 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen carefully...this is a very serious charge to make against a person because it can gravely affect the rest of his life. So, forget the fact that "everyone says it", but if you have tangible proof or are made to feel uncomfortable in his presence, then tell someone in authority right away. I didn't tell you these things to scare you away from making a legitimate claim because if he's guilty he deserves what will happen to him. I just want you to be sure you're listening to your own mind, and not to group hysteria. If you're sure, report it now.
2007-11-02 13:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my one teacher I had, if you would get a good score on a test he'd pat you on the shoulder or rub your shoulders for some reason but, he was really nice and I know he wasn't a sex offender cause he did it to the guys and girls in the class. But anyways, one girl freaked out on him for it and almost got him fired for sexual harassment. Well, he was a great teacher but he acted weird. Maybe, they might be like him.
2007-11-02 13:06:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋