whos right parents or child?

Question

if both the mother & the father tell the child they are a worthless piece of sh*t
and when the child grow up enters into an abusive marriage
and stays cos the marrige reinforces what they were told all their life,

wouldnt it be obvious then,that the child must really be a worthless piece of sh*t othewise they would have had atleat the love of 1 parent,or a spouse that saw them as worthy

is it true some peopel are simply worthless

whatkind=there were ALOT more things than worthless i just didnt list them!!

whatkind=does a lifetime of ongoing molestation,physical and emotional abuse count,i mean could you understand why someone might stay involved in a abusive marriage given that history?just curious?

Answer 1

No...noone is worthless. That is a horrible situation.
However, when parents/peers/spouses treat someone as such and consistently tell them that they are worthless, many people grow to believe that they are. Just as anything else. If all they've ever known their entire life is abuse then of course an abuse relationship could be some form of twisted "comfort" to a person like that and they will be less likely to attempt to find a way out.
But people can always change. All it takes is one person to step into someone's life to completely change their perspectives of themself and the world around them. Every person has some sort of worth...it just depends on if they choose to find it.

Answer 2

Your question is such a great one, because millions of people must believe this is true.
Your first impressions of life and self worth come through your parents.
If your parents are screwed up, they will lead you to believe that you're worthless. To "prove" it to yourself, you will naturally gravitate toward a partner who will abuse you, just so that it can be "true", what your parents taught you when you were growing up.
All I can say is that I am SO SORRY that you had to deal withh this.
And no, no one is worthless, not even you. Make a choice today to look at yourself with new eyes. I believe you have great potential if you can put aside the lies you have been fed about yourself. What terrible abuse this is.

Answer 3

I think a child who's parents have said this to and has an on-going issue should seek councelling. No one is a worthless piece of sh*t. And no one should be made to feel that way. However...as someone once said "The only person that can make you feel bad about yourself is you."
This child (or adult child of abusive parents) should be seeking councelling. The parents of this child (or adult child)should be seeking councelling as well.
Adult children of abuse do not see their worth. Sadly they feel they don't deserve to be happy because it's been indoctrinated into them since they were very small. The truth is...everyone is deserving of happiness and love. And perhaps someday this child will learn the tools needed to get that.

Answer 4

1. A parent should never say that to their child or anyone else for that matter.
2. There is no such thing as a priceless piece of sh%t, so therefore, no such thing as a worthless peice of sh%t, right?
3. Love is blind
4. Parents only guide us and yes influence us. But as adults, we have a choice.
5. And finally, there are worthless people, your parents and your spouse. Find love other places, it is out there.

Best!

Answer 5

Sounds like you had a difficult childhood, then began a difficult adulthood. I'm very sorry for you.

I want you to know that you are not, in fact, worthless. You have a great deal of value that seems to have gone largely unrecognized, especially by you.

Please believe me when I say that despite the hardship you have endured, you can make choices that change things for you. Your parents, abusers and unkind partners may have treated you badly, but you don't have to allow that to happen any more. Expect more from yourself, those around you, and be a good person. Things will get better.

Answer 6

Good Job Ariana..You just hit the damn ***** button me...trust me that isn't easy!!
NOW LISTEN HERE!!! My father was and is still abusive, never once hit me, however he abused me in many other ways. My mother stayed in that relationship..she did try to be a good mom to me and did love me and support me, however i did end up in a similar relationship as my parents when i became an adult.
This guy would HIT ME, RAPE ME, BELITTLE ME, NEGLECT ME, CHEAT ON ME...and you know what...the week after he hit me for the first time, he asked me to marry him...I said YES!! Wanna know why? I thought i "loved" him. Thankfully I got out of it...however I am soo lonely now that I almost think that bad attention was better then how I feel now. However its not I know. However, I stayed in the relationship for 3 years, switched the wedding date twice because of problems. I thought that staying in an abusive relationship for the longest time was all i deserved. I also thought it was better to be abused then be ignored or being mentally abused by my father. I thought it was better to be with him and marry him then it would be to come home. It took me MONTHS AND MONTHS AND YEARS to figure out that it was only right to leave him and he wasn't the right person for me. I am not worthless....I wasn't worthless a year ago either even though I was told i was. My ex now tells me that everything he ever said to me was a lie he just wanted to hurt me...because i was the only one who could tell him something and hurt him....I got into his heart and it scared him. I never hurt him on purpose i would just be honest and truth hurts sometimes.
What actually need to happen with this girl is she needs to look up on line or go to the library and look up different kinds of personality disorders. She needs to read about them, understand them, then she can learn that its THEM and not her....however there are also personality disorders that she probably falls below as well....as I do too....This is not a negative, its just a true thing that needs to learned about others and ones self...so you can learn how to deal with others and how to protect yourself and help yourself.

I am going to bet that she is Co-dependent (I am too) So I recommend the book "Co-Dependency No More" by Melody Beatty. My father is Narcissistic so I Look up that one and try to understand how he is. My ex had Anti-Social Personality Disorder. The more I learn the happier Ive become because the more I understand and can recognize what is going on so I an try to find ways to change my behavior...as I can not change theirs. I felt so worthless a year ago..Even though NOTHING is good in my life right now, I don't feel worthless. I know that one day I will find my purpose. I have a plan of how to get to a future and I WILL get there. You have to encourage that person that you CAN break the cycle of abuse...Education is the best thing for you!!

Answer 7

There is not one person on this earth who is "worthless".

Being told you were worthless your whole life does not make you enter into an abusive relationship nor does it give you the excuse to enter into an abusive relationship.

Many people in this world come from situations worse than just being called "worthless" as a kid and become very happy and successful people. If the world is knocking you down, pick yourself up--you are responsible for you.

Answer 8

It is true that there are worthless people. These people are the ones like the parents who spend their lives abusing their children. No one is born worthless.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

NO its not true, there is no reason in the world that would make me call my kids worthless piece of s***. The parents are wrong for not teaching thier kid how to show love and accept love.